From politics and religion to workplace negotiations, ace the high-stakes conversations in your life with this indispensable guide from a persuasion expert.

In our current political climate, it seems impossible to have a reasonable conversation with anyone who has a different opinion. Whether you're online, in a classroom, an office, a town hall—or just hoping to get through a family dinner with a stubborn relative—dialogue shuts down when perspectives clash. Heated debates often lead to insults and shaming, blocking any possibility of productive discourse. Everyone seems to be on a hair trigger.

In How to Have Impossible Conversations , Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay guide you through the straightforward, practical, conversational techniques necessary for every successful conversation — whether the issue is climate change, religious faith, gender identity, race, poverty, immigration, or gun control. Boghossian and Lindsay teach the subtle art of instilling doubts and opening minds. They cover everything from learning the fundamentals for good conversations to achieving expert-level techniques to deal with hardliners and extremists. This book is the manual everyone needs to foster a climate of civility, connection, and empathy.

"This is a self-help book on how to argue effectively, conciliate, and gently persuade. The authors admit to getting it wrong in their own past conversations. One by one, I recognize the same mistakes in me. The world would be a better place if everyone read this book."  —Richard Dawkins, author of Science in the Soul and Outgrowing God

The landmark edition of Dale Carnegie's public-speaking bible. Dale Carnegie, author of the legendary "How to Win Friends and Influence People, " began his career as the premier "life coach" of the twentieth century by teaching the art of public speaking. Public speaking, as Carnegie saw it, is a vital skill that can be attained through basic and repeated steps. His classic volume on the subject appeared in 1926 and was revised twice-in shortened versions-in 1956 and 1962. This 2006 revision-edited by a longtime consultant to Dale Carnegie and Associates, Inc., and the editor in charge of updating "How to Win Friends and Influence People"-is the definitive one for our era. While up-to-date in its language and points of reference, "Public Speaking for Success" preserves the "full range" of ideas and methods that appeared in the original: including Carnegie's complete speech and diction exercises, which follow each chapter, as the author originally designated them. This edition restores Carnegie's original appendix of the three complete self-help classics: "Acres of Diamonds" by Russell H. Conwell, "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen, and "A Message to Garcia" by Elbert Hubbard. Carnegie included these essays in his original edition because, although they do not directly relate to public speaking, he felt they would be of great value to the readers. Here is the definitive update of the best-loved public-speaking book of all time.

为什么中产阶级的家长都成了“虎爸虎妈”，作为“直升机式”教育方法的信徒，把孩子们照看得密不透风？
为什么这些中产阶级的孩子，虽能在学术履历的“军备竞赛”中脱颖而出，却在青春期时成为前所未见的脆弱一代，从焦虑到抑郁，这一代似乎毫无免疫力？
为什么生于互联网时代，孩子们却惯于在社交媒体构筑的虚拟世界里寻找意见的共鸣，面对不同的观点和立场，用举报的方式来消除自己的不安全感？
为什么大学也失去了教育者的担当，把学生当作永远都对的消费者，迎合学生成为改革目标，一时间，几乎所有文明传统关于教育的智慧都被抛在脑后？
《娇惯的心灵》是一部“社会科学的侦探小说”，作者抽丝剥茧，回答了“钢铁”是怎么没能炼成的美国故事。对于任何一位关注教育、青少年心理，以及互联网一代的读者都值得一读。
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从幼儿园开始，孩子们的每一天都要受到父母的严格安排和设计。放学后，不再能自由玩耍，而要参加各种补习班以及其他有人组织并监管的活动，唯一的目的就是要超过其他孩子。
生于互联网时代，大学生却惯于在社交媒体构筑的虚拟世界里寻找意见的共鸣，面对不同的观点和立场，他们往往用举报的方式来消除自己的不安全感。
进入21世纪的第二个十年，美国青少年患抑郁症和焦虑症的比例大幅激增，自杀率呈现急剧上升的趋势。心理焦虑，已经成为大学生寻求心理治疗的首要问题。
与其为孩子铺好路，不如让孩子学会如何走好路。有些善意的保护可能会适得其反，过度保护和过度教育，反而会让我们的孩子成为“脆弱的一代”。这不能简单归咎于父母和教育管理者，更不能归咎于“娇惯”的孩子，全社会应共同反思和努力做出改变。

A cutting-edge, research-based inquiry into how we influence those around us and how understanding the brain can help us change minds for the better.
In The Influential Mind, neuroscientist Tali Sharot takes us on a thrilling exploration of the nature of influence. We all have a duty to affect others—from the classroom to the boardroom to social media. But how skilled are we at this role, and can we become better? It turns out that many of our instincts—from relying on facts and figures to shape opinions, to insisting others are wrong or attempting to exert control—are ineffective, because they are incompatible with how people’s minds operate. Sharot shows us how to avoid these pitfalls, and how an attempt to change beliefs and actions is successful when it is well-matched with the core elements that govern the human brain.
Sharot reveals the critical role of emotion in influence, the weakness of data and the power of curiosity. Relying on the latest research in neuroscience, behavioral economics and psychology, the book provides fascinating insight into the complex power of influence, good and bad.

为什么有人就能轻松说服老板、客户接受自己的建议？
为什么分手后，你还会忍不住偷偷看前任朋友圈？
远离你想要得到的东西，这样它就会来到你身边？
为什么你天不怕地不怕，却对密集的图案有深深的恐惧？
你是否也想一探很多事情表象背后深层的玄机？
这看似属于心理学范畴，但其实和我们的生活息息相关，
书店里摆满了高深莫测的心理学课本，
可我只想读最简单好玩的心理学，来解决最实际的问题！
嘿，那就别找了，看这本书就够了！
在当下社会的日常生活中，我们每个人都时刻在被别人影响或影响他人。为什么会这样做？因为我们每个人都有其他人可能不具备的独特经验和知识。然而很多心理学实验表明，当试图改变他人的信念和行为，或者将自己的想法加之于他人的独立思维之时，我们总会不由自主地陷入错误的思维习惯之中。
本书作者塔利·沙罗特曾致力于在实验室研究人类的行为，力图弄明白人类究竟如何被影响及影响他人，本书则是作者及其团队关于思维、影响力与大脑神认知等研究主题智慧的结晶。书中每一章会集中讨论七大关键要素中的一项——先验、情感、动机、自主性、好奇心、心态以及他人，并辅以大量轻松有趣且具有说服力的实验或实例加以佐证。

You have heard about how a musician loses herself in her music, how a painter becomes one with the process of painting. In work, sport, conversation or hobby, you have experienced, yourself, the suspension of time, the freedom of complete absorption in activity. This is "flow," an experience that is at once demanding and rewarding--an experience that Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi demonstrates is one of the most enjoyable and valuable experiences a person can have. The exhaustive case studies, controlled experiments and innumerable references to historical figures, philosophers and scientists through the ages prove Csikszentmihalyi's point that flow is a singularly productive and desirable state. But the implications for its application to society are what make the book revolutionary.

“心流”是指我们在做某些事情时，那种全神贯注、投入忘我的状态——这种状态下，你甚至感觉不到时间的存在，在这件事情完成之后我们会有一种充满能量并且非常满足的感受。其实很多时候我们在做自己非常喜欢、有挑战并且擅长的事情的时候，就很容易体验到心流，比如爬山、游泳、打球、玩游戏、阅读、演奏乐器还有工作的时候。
心理理论之父、积极心理学奠基人米哈里•契克森米哈赖在30年前，在大量案例研究基础上，开创性地提出了“心流”的概念。本书系统阐述了心流理论，进入心流状态的条件，从日常生活、休闲娱乐、工作、人际关系等各方面，阐述如何进入心流状态。对心理学爱好者和研究者来说，《心流》是理解积极心理学等领域不可或缺的理论素材；对大众读者来说，这更是一本提升幸福感和效率的行动指南。

总有些时刻面临关键决策。在这个充满不确定性的时代，我们在决策时时常面临信息不足、不理性和盲从的局面。一旦决策错误，就要用更长时间来为之买单。我们需要专业的决策课。本书作者安妮·杜克是认知心理学博士，同时也是传奇职业扑克手。获得过世界扑克系列赛大笔奖金的她明白：职业扑克手就是职业决策者。在信息不足时，扑克手需要在两分钟内做出20个决策，本质上像一场又一场的决策极致实验。杜克融合心理科学和扑克高手实战经验，总结出了对赌思维。她为许多世界500强高管提供决策咨询，帮助他们放弃对确定性不切实际的追求，更好地评估事实，优选决策方案。
本书通过许多生动的案例，介绍了一套人人都可以采用的、强大（但易于操作）的方法。它让你了解决策背后是概率选择，真正关注决策质量而不以结果论成败；让你破除心理上的自利性偏差，让你在情绪不稳的情况下及时退出止损。培养了科学的认知习惯后，加上各种思维工具的有效运用，如同伴制的求真团体和心理时间旅行法等，最终建立你强大且完整的科学决策系统。
本书将重塑你的科学决策系统，使你成为自信镇定的人生出牌者，最终在长期博弈中，成为胜者。

你是否总感到焦虑、抑郁、内疚、自卑、孤独、挫折、易怒、躁狂？总感到情绪低落，苦恼忧伤。兴致索然？心中 盘踞着悲观绝望，痛苦难熬，度日如年、生不如死的感觉？你很想让自己更理性更开心，但你拖拉，觉得生活没劲；你发现自己习惯逃避；你有严重完美主义倾向，常不满意自己；你想摆脱抑郁却无助无望更抑郁。你该怎么办？ 请牢记，思维决定情绪。错误扭曲的认知，则导致抑郁情绪。
戴维·伯恩斯博士是世界主流认知疗法最重要的发展者之一，同时也是享誉世界的自助书籍作家，他的著作《伯恩斯新情绪疗法》连续多年位于自助书籍畅销榜第1名，全球销售超过500万册，也是美国、加拿大精神科医师和心理学家最常“开药方”给抑郁症患者的书籍，带给无数抑郁症患者福音。《伯恩斯新情绪疗法(最新完整版)》将是一套治疗体系，更是一整组的工具，向读者展示了快速、有效地克服日常不良情绪的治疗技术，从而战胜抑郁。
4周左右的系统化的自我阅读和练习治疗体系。你会注意到书中不断要求你边阅读，边拿起笔做测试、做练习，请静心对待，你是在逐渐谙习一些特别行之有效的理念和技巧，以帮助你战胜不良情绪，如忧郁、焦虑、悲伤、挫折、内疚、紧张、羞愧、自卑、孤独。22个简单有效的原则和技巧。深挖抑郁背后的情绪根源，学会掌控日常摇摆不定的不良情绪和自我否定行为，从而帮助人们安全渡过生命中的每个低谷，让每个人的心灵天空清新明朗。

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The good news is that anxiety, guilt, pessimism, procrastination, low self-esteem, and other "black holes" of depression can be cured without drugs. In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life. Now, in this updated edition, Dr. Burns adds an All-New Consumer's Guide To Anti-depressant Drugs as well as a new introduction to help answer your questions about the many options available for treating depression. - Recognise what causes your mood swings - Nip negative feelings in the bud - Deal with guilt - Handle hostility and criticism - Overcome addiction to love and approval - Build self-esteem - Feel good everyday
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政治家运用影响力来赢得选举，商人运用影响力来兜售商品，推销员运用影响力诱惑你乖乖地把金钱捧上。即使你的朋友和家人，不知不觉之间，也会把影响力用到你的身上。但到底是为什么，当一个要求用不同的方式提出来时，你的反应就会从负面抵抗变成积极合作呢？
在这本书中，心理学家罗伯特·B·西奥迪尼博士为我们解释了为什么有些人极具说服力，而我们总是容易上当受骗。隐藏在冲动地顺从他人行为背后的6大心理秘笈，正是这一切的根源。那些劝说高手们，总是熟练地运用它们，让我们就范。