成长
通往心灵自由之路 豆瓣
The Four Agreements
作者: [墨] 堂·米格尔·路易兹 著 / 博集天卷 出品 译者: 刘勇军 湖南文艺出版社 2023 - 4
《通往心灵自由之路》是墨西哥作家堂·米格尔·路易兹及珍妮特·米尔斯所著的心理励志类畅销书。
书中提到每个人认知自己就像是照一面镜子,但镜子前常常有一层迷雾,要想驱散这层迷雾需要自己遵循以下四个约定:一是善用美好的语言,二是不受他人言行影响,三是不要妄加揣测,四是凡事尽力而为。这些来自墨西哥古老“托尔特克智慧”的约定,可以帮你活得更加满足、快乐和自由。
2023年6月27日 已读
人生中值得追求的一个目标,就是消除迷糊和不确定性,获得一份清醒。

本书开篇,介绍了从迷雾之梦境觉醒的人看到的真相:人与宇宙合一,人人都是造物主。觉醒的人重生,进入清醒之梦境。

人的痛苦,来自于自己深信不疑的基于恐惧各种语言牢笼。不要相信头脑的自动评价,用美好正直的语言,去塑造自己吧。

不要在意他人对你的评判。只要你不相信,那就与你无关。不能控制别人怎么评价你,最好的应对:当那是空气。

你对别人言行的判断可能出错。莫自动相信自己的判断。与他人沟通,多问问题,确认真实,只对真相做反应。

你当然无法一步完美,但要尽力而为:付出全力,不留遗憾;承认自己的极限不超限做事,伤害自己。凡事尽力,无怨无悔,即能心灵自由。

用智慧认识真相,用公正对待自己和他人,用勇敢应对世界。 用爱滋养一切。
成长 觉醒
毕业生 (1967) 豆瓣 TMDB
The Graduate
8.0 (669 个评分) 导演: 迈克·尼科尔斯 演员: 安妮·班克罗夫特 / 达斯汀·霍夫曼
其它标题: The Graduate / Le lauréat
刚刚走出大学校门的本恩(达斯汀•霍夫曼 Dustin Hoffman 饰)对前途十分茫然,偏偏在这时遇上了风流的鲁滨逊太太(安妮•班克罗夫特 Anne Bancroft 饰 )。虽然不再年轻,但鲁滨逊太太却一再勾引本恩,二人发生了关系。他们在约会过程中,本恩遇上了太太的女儿伊莱恩(凯瑟琳•罗斯Katharine Ross 饰 ),被她的纯真青春深深吸引。本恩吐露了爱意,与伊莱恩开始了正常的恋爱关系,却遭到了鲁滨逊太太的剧烈反对。母亲的震怒使伊莱恩觉察到了一些内情。伊莱恩非常伤心,仓促同意了另一个人的求婚。本恩冲向伊莱恩结婚的教堂,他要力挽狂澜……
心灵捕手 (1997) TMDB IMDb 豆瓣 Min reol
Good Will Hunting
8.5 (1463 个评分) 导演: 格斯·范·桑特 演员: 马特·达蒙 / 罗宾·威廉姆斯
其它标题: Good Will Hunting / 骄阳似我(港)
麻省理工学院的数学教授蓝波在席上公布了一道困难的数学题,却被年轻的清洁工威尔(马特·戴蒙 饰)解了出来。可是威尔却是个问题少年,成天和好朋友查克(本·阿弗莱特 饰)等人四处闲逛,打架滋事。当蓝波找到这个天才的时候,他正因为打架袭警被法庭宣判送进看守所。蓝波向法官求情保释,才使他免于牢狱之灾。
蓝波为了让威尔找到自己的人生目标,不浪费他的数学天赋,请了很多心理学专家为威尔做辅导,但是威尔十分抗拒,专家们都束手无策。无计可施之下,蓝波求助于他大学的好友,心理学教授尚恩(罗宾·威廉姆斯 饰),希望能够帮助威尔打开心房。
经过蓝波和尚恩的不懈努力,威尔渐渐敞开心胸,而好友查克的一席话,更是让他豁然开朗。
菊次郎的夏天 (1999) TMDB 豆瓣
菊次郎の夏
8.7 (1273 个评分) 导演: 北野武 演员: 北野武 / 关口雄介
其它标题: 菊次郎の夏 / 菊次郎之夏
暑假到来,自幼丧父的小学三年级学生正男(关口雄介饰),如今和奶奶生活在一起,暑假特别无聊。他拿出母亲从外地寄回的信,准备自己一个人去爱知县丰桥市看望母亲。
邻居阿姨(岸本加世子饰)发现后,决定帮正男完成心愿。她拿出一笔钱做为旅费,还安排游手好闲的老公菊次郎(北野武饰)陪伴正男一起踏上寻母之途。可是在第一天,菊次郎就把老婆给的钱全部输光,于是两个人只好步行前往爱知。
一路搭顺风车,惹了不少麻烦后,菊次郎终于带着正男到了他母亲的家,但小男孩却十分沮丧。归途中,菊次郎努力安慰他,二人过得十分愉快,夏天就这么过去了。
牛仔裤的夏天 (2005) 豆瓣 TMDB
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
7.3 (192 个评分) 导演: 肯·卡皮斯 演员: 爱波·塔布琳 / 阿丽克西斯·布莱德尔
其它标题: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants / 牛仔裤的姐妹情谊
写在牛仔裤上的女孩儿的情谊,婉转动听,异常温暖。
也许是上帝的安排,卡门、堤比、莲娜和布莉姬这四个女孩的缘分是在她们都在娘胎里就注定的。同在夏末出生的她们性格迥异却从小亲如姐妹。十六岁这年夏天,四姐妹第一次面对分离,各自渡过一个没有对方的夏天。意外的,她们发现了一条牛仔 裤,身材相差很大的四姐妹穿上居然都很合适。于是,神奇的牛仔裤变成了友情的信物,伴随她们开始各自的旅程。
大胆而无拘束的布莉姬(布蕾克·莱弗利 饰)来到了炎热的墨西哥,加入足球训练营;漂亮羞涩的莲娜( 阿丽克西斯·布莱德尔 饰)前往圣洁的希腊,用画笔勾勒爱琴海的神秘;冲动敏感的卡门盼望与在她儿时就搬走的父亲共度美好的暑假,而叛逆另类的堤比( 爱波·塔布琳 饰)也为录制她自己的电视节目而忙碌着。牛仔裤承载着友谊与勇气在她们之间传递,陪伴她们,学着去爱,学着长大。
早餐俱乐部 (1985) 豆瓣 Min reol TMDB
The Breakfast Club
7.9 (257 个评分) 导演: 约翰·休斯 演员: 艾米利奥·艾斯特维兹 / 安东尼·迈克尔·豪尔
其它标题: The Breakfast Club / Breakfast Club
本片是约翰.休斯与莫利.林沃德继《少女十五十六时》之后,再度合作的一部中学生喜剧,描写五位个性反叛的男女同学,在假期被罚留校温习功课。五人的家庭背景和性格各异,但在他们诚恳交谈之后,逐渐放开了彼此的戒心和敌意,变成了心意相通的好友。全片对年轻人的心态有相当深入细腻的描写,手法轻松幽默而具启发性,容易获得年轻观众共鸣,一群新秀演员也有贴切的演出。
壁花少年 (2012) 豆瓣 TMDB Min reol Eggplant.place
The Perks of Being a Wallflower
7.9 (740 个评分) 导演: 斯蒂芬·卓博斯基 演员: 罗根·勒曼 / 艾玛·沃森
其它标题: The Perks of Being a Wallflower / 少年自读日记(港)
查理(罗根·勒曼 Logan Lerman 饰)是个害羞和孤独的高中新生,拥有超越年龄的敏感和泪腺,总是默默观察身边的家人和朋友,是个典型的「壁花少年」。他的青春期充满各种挫折,先后经历了阿姨为给他买生日礼物去世、最好朋友自杀、受同学排挤欺负、单恋没有回应等各种事情。然而查理还不是最惨的,因为和他一样被生活逼入墙角罚站的人实在太多。他幸运的拥有一个开明的老师和两个高年级的好友:叛逆娇俏的少女珊(艾玛·沃森 Emma Watson 饰)和自信满满的同志男生帕特里克(埃兹拉·米勒 Ezra Miller 饰),他们让查理明白了有时候不能永远旁观,必须要参与进来才能拥有属于自己的精彩。
获取精神力量的10种方法 豆瓣
作者: 东尼·博赞 外语教研 2005 - 4
《思维导图:获取精神力量的10种方法》共包括十章,分别介绍了构成精神智能的十个方面。目的是为了使你:身体稳健,头脑清晰,灵魂有根,能量充沛,精神智能和生活得到持续改进,《获取精神力量的10种方法》还包括了思维导图。思维导图是作者一生致力开发的一种融合色彩和图像的学习工具。它们是非常有用的记忆线路图。通过它,你可以利用大脑最初使用的自然工作方式组织事实与思想。《思维导图:获取精神力量的10种方法》的各章都有思维导图的例子和说明。而且,每个思维导图都给出了增强你的精神智能的练习。本套思维导图丛书还包括以下内容:《大脑使用说明书》《唤醒创造天才的10种方法》《获取精神力量的10种方法》《激发身体潜能的10种方法》《提高语言职能的10种方法》。
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晨間日記的奇蹟 豆瓣
7.2 (15 个评分) 作者: 佐滕傅 译者: 郭欣怡 易富文化 2006 - 1
■《晨間日記的奇蹟》創造日本經濟再起飛的奇蹟!日本企業老闆、主管、專業經理人及白領階級人手一本。
由於《晨間日記的奇蹟》的出版,一項革命性習慣隨即在日本被廣泛地熱烈討論──「創造奇蹟的晨間3分鐘」。日本很多著名的企業顧問、大富豪、國際演員、公司董事長等成功的人士們,都開始利用「早上」這個絕佳的時段,來進行一項「不可思議的行為」。

■日本第一名的暢銷書。日本亞馬遜網路書店、三省堂書店、紀伊國屋書店第一名暢銷書。
《晨間日記的奇蹟》一出版即登上日本各書店的排行榜上,且獲得日本亞馬遜網站書店五顆星的評價,目前仍在日本持續熱賣中,尤其是在即將跨年的歲末時刻,很多人都把《晨間日記奇蹟》當成來年的新希望。

七大作戰法讓你不會三天打漁、兩天曬網
養成一個習慣看似容易,實際執行起來卻並不容易,《晨間日記的奇蹟》提出三大原則:早上不要花三分鐘以上的時間、先決定書寫的地點、寫一個字也沒關係,以及七大作戰法,幫助讀者輕鬆度過習慣養成的「考驗期」。
少有人走的路 豆瓣 Goodreads
The Road Less Traveled
8.0 (236 个评分) 作者: [美国] 斯科特·派克 译者: 于海生 吉林文史出版社 2007 - 1
这本书处处透露出沟通与理解的意味,它跨越时代限制,帮助我们探索爱的本质,引导我们过上崭新,宁静而丰富的生活;它帮助我们学习爱,也学习独立;它教诲我们成为更称职的、更有理解心的父母。归根到底,它告诉我们怎样找到真正的自我。
正如开篇所言:人生苦难重重。M·斯科特·派克让我们更加清楚:人生是一场艰辛之旅,心智成熟的旅程相当漫长。但是,他没有让我们感到恐惧,相反,他带领我们去经历一系列艰难乃至痛苦的转变,最终达到自我认知的更高境界。
内向者优势 豆瓣 Goodreads
The Introvert Advantage
7.5 (33 个评分) 作者: Marti Olsen Laney 译者: 杨秀君 华东师范大学出版社 2008 - 1
如果事情太多,您就会变得头昏脑涨吗?您需要独处而恢复充沛的精力吗?在会议中,您需要别人询问才谈及自己的看法和主张吗?您倾向于注意到别人容易忽略的细节吗?您所推崇的庆祝方式是少数几个人的聚会,而不是大型的宴会吗?您经常感到自己像一只周围全是“野兔”的“乌龟”吗? 那好,您是一个性格内向的人。但更令我们喜出望外的是,通过对“性格内向的人”的内在的优势和独特性的深入探讨,《内向者优势》一书为性格内向的人以及那些深爱他们的性格外向的人指明,如何利用(而不是对抗 )他们的个性来创造并享受美好的生活。书中内容涉及婚姻关系、为人父母 ——包括养育性格内向的孩子、社交活动和工作,书中有应对的策略、管理精力的策略及几百条很有价值的技巧。该书不仅有助于您在外向的世界里很好地生存,而且有助于您获得真正的成功。
First Things First 豆瓣
1994 - 4
The authors of this book apply insights from their previous book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", to the daily problems of people who must struggle with the demands of work and home life. Rather than focusing on time and change, the book emphasizes relationships and results.
把时间当作朋友 豆瓣 Goodreads
8.2 (151 个评分) 作者: 李笑来 电子工业出版社 2009 - 6
这本书从心智成长的角度来谈时间管理,指出时间管理是成功的关键所在。作者引述自己从事的职业中所遇到的事例,告诉我们:如何打开心智,如何运用心智来和时间做朋友,如何理解时间管理的意义,在时间管理上取得突破,进而用心智开启自己的人生成功之旅。
The Anatomy of Peace 豆瓣
作者: Arbinger Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers 2008 - 5
Have you ever felt like you couldn't shake your anger, or your bitterness, or your anxiety? Or have you ever felt that others make you miserable - that despite your best efforts to make things work, people at home or work seem committed to undercutting your happiness or your success? Or perhaps you have noticed this same pattern on the news and in world events - warring groups so adamantly entrenched in their positions, that peace becomes seemingly impossible."The Anatomy of Peace" shows how we are often mistaken in our views of others and ourselves, and how we therefore often misread the cause of problems and fail to see how our situations can be improved. It shows how we tend to incorrectly project blame onto external circumstances or onto other people, instead of looking inward and confronting the true source of our conflicts. Our hope for peace, both internal and external, depends most on our ability to overcome the war that has come to afflict our own hearts. Only by fostering a personal, inner peace can we find ways to resolve the conflicts and overcome the problems that are troubling our homes, our workplaces, or our communities. "The Anatomy of Peace" is an exploration of war, wherever it is found, and peace, wherever it is hoped for - in our personal relationships, our workplaces, our communities, or the world. "The Anatomy of Peace" shows how we can be freed from the fears, resentments, and conflicts that hold us captive.
2011年4月21日 已读
这本书值得再三阅读。
思维 成长
Eat, Pray, Love 豆瓣
作者: [美国] Elizabeth Gilbert Viking Adult 2006 - 2
A celebrated writers irresistible, candid, and eloquent account of her pursuit of worldly pleasure, spiritual devotion, and what she really wanted out of life
Around the time Elizabeth Gilbert turned thirty, she went through an early-onslaught midlife crisis. She had everything an educated, ambitious American woman was supposed to wanta husband, a house, a successful career. But instead of feeling happy and fulfilled, she was consumed with panic, grief, and confusion. She went through a divorce, a crushing depression, another failed love, and the eradication of everything she ever thought she was supposed to be.
To recover from all this, Gilbert took a radical step. In order to give herself the time and space to find out who she really was and what she really wanted, she got rid of her belongings, quit her job, and undertook a yearlong journey around the worldall alone. Eat, Pray, Love is the absorbing chronicle of that year. Her aim was to visit three places where she could examine one aspect of her own nature set against the backdrop of a culture that has traditionally done that one thing very well. In Rome, she studied the art of pleasure, learning to speak Italian and gaining the twenty-three happiest pounds of her life. India was for the art of devotion, and with the help of a native guru and a surprisingly wise cowboy from Texas, she embarked on four uninterrupted months of spiritual exploration. In Bali, she studied the art of balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence. She became the pupil of an elderly medicine man and also fell in love the best wayunexpectedly.
An intensely articulate and moving memoir of self-discovery, Eat, Pray, Love is about what can happen when you claim responsibility for your own contentment and stop trying to live in imitation of societys ideals. It is certain to touch anyone who has ever woken up to the unrelenting need for change.
2017年7月18日 已读
2017年7月10日 评论 Free book - 2012年2月,我打开这这本书的纸版,读了一些。 2017年7月,我终于在图书馆借出了它的有声书版本,听完了它。 2012年我在纽约。工作在曼哈顿岛上,住在布鲁克林。一天下班路上,看到一户人家的的楼梯上,摆着几摞书,上面放一纸条,提醒路人这些书可以随意拿走。其中就有这本06年出版的《Eat, Pray, Love》。这本书当年声明在外(也许是营销做得好),如我这般两耳不闻窗外事的,也对它有所耳闻。我停下把它连同其他几本书,取走了。 当时我记得,与这本书相关的关键词,大概是女性,独立,灵修之类的。而吸引我拿起它的原因,只是她题目里有个“eat” 吃。记得当初翻了两页,发现她并不好好谈吃,而是谈自己,我的兴趣就淡了。 完全是出于要清理一下豆瓣中“正在读”的清单的目的,我借来了有声书,在跑步和上下班的路上将其听完。 我很庆幸自己选的是有声书。这种啰哩啰嗦碎碎念的书写,挺适合放在耳边听。不同人的对话用不同的口音念出来,总比读着要生动许多。不可错过的是作者记录她在意大利看球赛时前面的大叔一边看球一边念叨的一大段倒口,如果只是看书是无法体会其音律和节奏的。得克萨斯的大叔,印度的女孩,巴西的女友,意大利的朋友,巴厘岛的女人,每个人在有声书里都有自己独特的声音。读书是体会不到的。 至于书本身的内容,讲得是作者本身的旅行见闻和内心独白。这不是一本旅游游记,更像是一个内心游记。我总觉得,作者完全不必非得通过旅行达到自己的救赎。然而,她是写作者,有靠写作吃饭的本事。出走他乡,逃离自己的糟糕生活,去收拾自己散乱的一地鸡毛的心情。而且还有钱赚,何乐而不为。 只是想不通,为什么它会这么畅销。 听完了,我想,是时候把把这本书从书架中抽出,放到路边儿,然后附送一张纸条,上书:Free Book。谁要谁拿去吧。 ====== 2018.01 附加: 读书果然需要互相印证,读过了 《politically incorrect guide to Women, Sex and Feminism》之后,我理解了我为什么不喜欢这书和这书为什么会畅销。 书里卖的,其实是有着女性主义的那一套,虽然比较温和,介于第二波和第三波女性主义之间。
传记 心灵 成长 旅行 随笔
Fathers and Sons 豆瓣
作者: \Esquire Magazine\"" 2010 - 5
0in 0in 0pt"> No relationship has more power than the one between a father and a sonwhether for good or illthat relationship molds a man.” David Granger, Editor-in-Chief, EsquireFrom Esquire , which has always showcased the world’s finest writers, comes a stunning collection of often moving essays about fatherhood. Compelling and eloquent, these are some of the magazine’s most emotionally powerful pieces, as eleven award-winning and notable authors reflect on manhood through memories of their own fathers and their personal experience of raising sons. The collection covers everything from birth to death, from the thrilling and terrifying hours Daniel Voll spent in the delivery room during his wife’s long labor to Jake La Motta’s heartbreaking piece about losing his two sons to David Sedaris’s sidesplitting portrait at his fathera food hoarder who once took a bite of his own hat. Includes: Tom Chiarella ’s journey with his two sons to meet Xbox’s most famous Halo gamer and his posseHumorist Larry Doyle on the fearsome babyproofer” who inspected his house for death trapsand found them everywhere Tom Junod ’s gradual realization that his father’s lessons on how to dress like a man were really lessons on life Scott Raab on the lifelong struggle with his tough-guy dad Ron Reagan on his bittersweet victory in a swimming race against his father John Richardson on his father’s controversial career as a covert CIA operative Martha Sherill on her father’s life as a swinging bachelor and the former girlfriends that surface after his deathA loving essay from Alec Wilkinson about raising a child with special needs
2017年6月20日 已读
父亲写儿子,写出生。儿子写父亲,写生平写死亡。唤醒自己于父亲的关系。父亲节读物。
成长 散文 随笔
30岁前的每一天 豆瓣
水湄物语
6.3 (35 个评分) 作者: 水湄物语 中国商业出版社 2012
梦想,是专属于青春的烂漫色彩,倘若在30岁之前不能实现它,随岁月尘封,只剩唏嘘。
你离30岁还有多久,有哪些事情,30岁前不做一定会后悔呢?
这本书是豆瓣红人水湄物语的首部作品。
写给年轻人的,最现实的梦想管理指南:知道自己最想要的是什么,变得有钱,变得有时间,有对幸福感知力。
“自我规划”+“理财投资入门”+“记事本的时间管理”是这本书提供给我们的有效方法。激情加技巧,聚集正能量,打败梦想道路上的小怪兽。
在30岁以前,改变自己,养成好习惯,每天离梦想近一点。在30岁以后,过上你想要的生活,或许你还可以影响别人,改变世界。
How to American 豆瓣
7.4 (15 个评分) 作者: Jimmy O. Yang Da Capo Press 2018 - 3
Standup comic, actor and fan favorite from HBO's Silicon Valley and the film Crazy Rich Asians shares his memoir of growing up as a Chinese immigrant in California and making it in Hollywood.
"I turned down a job in finance to pursue a career in stand-up comedy. My dad thought I was crazy. But I figured it was better to disappoint my parents for a few years than to disappoint myself for the rest of my life. I had to disappoint them in order to pursue what I loved. That was the only way to have my Chinese turnip cake and eat an American apple pie too."
Jimmy O. Yang is a standup comedian, film and TV actor and fan favorite as the character Jian Yang from the popular HBO series Silicon Valley. In How to American, he shares his story of growing up as a Chinese immigrant who pursued a Hollywood career against the wishes of his parents: Yang arrived in Los Angeles from Hong Kong at age 13, learned English by watching BET RapCity for three hours a day, and worked as a strip club DJ while pursuing his comedy career. He chronicles a near deportation episode during a college trip Tijuana to finally becoming a proud US citizen ten years later. Featuring those and many other hilarious stories, while sharing some hard-earned lessons, How to American mocks stereotypes while offering tongue in cheek advice on pursuing the American dreams of fame, fortune, and strippers.
2018年6月26日 已读
原本希望凭借本书学一些美籍华人小孩成长经历的。
Jimmy是一个聪明孩子,只是兴趣不在学校,不在家长给安排好的路,而是自己走了一条不平常的路。
这本书通篇大白话,读起来轻松。
传记 成长 移民 美国 英文原著
Own the Day, Own Your Life 豆瓣
作者: Aubrey Marcus Harper Wave 2018 - 3
Revolutionise your life one day at a time with this empowering handbook designed for men and women which provides simple strategies for each element of your day. Marcus Aubrey, author of the book is CEO of Onnit, a human performance company that he has built into one of the fastest growing companies in the world.
How can we get the most out of our body and mind on a daily basis? Want to change your life for the better?
Aubrey Marcus answers these questions in this handbook that guides the reader to optimise each moment of the day. With small, actionable changes implemented throughout the course of one day we can feel better, perform more efficiently and live happier. And these habits turn into weekly routines, ultimately becoming part of a lifelong healthy choice.
From workouts and diet to inbox triage, mindfulness, shower temperature and sex this groundbreaking manual provides strategies for each element of your day. Drawing on the latest studies and traditional practices from around the world, this book delivers cutting-edge life hacks, nutritional expertise, brain upgrades and fitness regimes.
Own the Day presents a path to change. It guides readers through a single 24-hour day of positive choices and optimal living that will form the groundwork for all their days to come. From foundational elements like workouts, diet, and mindfulness, to more routine opportunities to optimize your choices, such as shower temperature and inbox triage, readers will learn to make the most of every moment.
Ultimately, Marcus creates a choose-your-own-adventure guide to living that brings the reader's mind, body, and spirit to life. It is a promise delivered on the back of real, concrete strategies for better living. And the all-encompassing results are what make this book's simplistic approach so successful. By focusing on optimal decision making for just one day —by making several small, key changes in your daily approach—you end up addressing your health at every level. And owning your day.