为什么这个世界上最稳定的国家其实没有政府？
为什么负债对你不好，以及为什么我们通常所说的“效率”根本缺乏就是效率？
为什么政府和社会政策保护强者，却伤害弱者？
为什么你应该在还没入职之前，就应该写好辞职信？
泰坦尼克号的沉没为什么拯救了更多的生命？
尼采有句名言：“杀不死我的，使我更强大。”就像人的骨头承受压力和紧张会变得更加强壮，谣言或暴乱在有人试图压制它们时会变本加厉一样，生命中的许多事物也会受益于压力、混乱、波动和不确定。
畅销书《黑天鹅》告诉我们，发生概率极低的事件和无法预测的“黑天鹅”事件，在世界上几乎每一种事物的身上都会发生。在《反脆弱》一书中，塔勒布告诉我们在不确定的世界中的生存法则，他找到并定义了“反脆弱”类事物：每一个事物都会从波动中得到利益或蒙受损失，脆弱性是指因为波动和不确定而承受损失，反脆弱性则是指让自己避免这些损失，甚至从混乱和不确定中获利。
反脆弱类事物不只受益于混沌，也需要适时出现的压力与危机，如此才能维持生存与实现繁荣。作者还认为，不确定性是件好事，甚至有其存在的必要，并且建议我们培养反脆弱性的特质。反脆弱性超越强韧性或坚固性：强韧性只能够抵抗震动和维持原状；反脆弱性则会让事物变得越来越好。此外，反脆弱性还可以避免预测误差，并且保护事物不受负面“黑天鹅”事件的影响。
这本书大谈试错法、人生的大小决定、政治、自治市、战争、个人理财、经济体系和医疗系统……风格独树一帜。《反脆弱》性是我们生活在不确定世界中的“导航仪”，也是面对随时可能出现的“黑天鹅”事件的终极自保指南。

大考在即，一看书就犯困，丝毫提不起精神，于是选择用打游戏来转移自己本该用于学习的注意力。
工作中遇到无法解决的问题，日复一日地拖延下去，既不愿意想办法解决，又在逃避中陷入深深的焦虑。
感情中遇到诸如伴侣出轨等情况，下意识地告诉自己那不是真的，想方设法寻找对方没有出轨的证据。
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就像鸵鸟遇到危险时，下意识地把脑袋扎进沙堆里，以为自己眼睛看不见了就是安全的。我们在生活中遇到自己不愿意去面对或者无法解决的问题时，也会倾向于选择用“转移注意力”“拖延”“否认”等方式去逃避。
然而，逃避的效果是临时的、短暂的，它很少能真正地解决问题，反而会使我们错过解决问题的最佳时机，让问题变得更加复杂。
心理学家研究指出，逃避的心态属于心理防御机制的范畴。本书即从“心理防御机制”的角度出发，妙趣横生地解释了我们总是在逃避的原因，帮助我们克服遇到问题就试图逃避的消极心态，找到勇敢去面对的办法。
写给不知不觉就开启逃避模式的你！

《幽微的人性》取材自李玫瑾在电视谈话节目中的访谈内容。她在书中以通俗的语言介绍了犯罪心理画像理论，并通过近年来国内外轰动一时的恶性犯罪案件剖析了犯罪人的心理成因，阐释了犯罪心理学在预防和惩治犯罪方面的重要性，呼吁全社会关爱青少年尤其是留守儿童，重视他们的成长环境，对他们加强心理教育。

爱情是人类情感中最美妙的一种体验，古今中外关于爱情的伟大文学作品有许多，但从心理学角度对两性关系进行科学而系统总结的专著尚为数不多。
《亲密关系》从一出版，就立即获得了读者的普遍喜爱，不仅得到了专业人士的首肯，更是得到普通读者的高度评价。作者综合了心理学多个分支的研究理论和成果，用饶有趣味的论述，总结出人们在交往与沟通、爱情与承诺、婚姻与性爱、嫉妒与背叛等方面的行为特点和规律。
本书内容丰富、语言优美；既注重专业性，有强调可读性。研究亲密关系的专业人士可以从中得到学习和参考；而对于社会大众来说，只要他（她）想获得一份满意的亲密关系，都可以从中得到启发。

作为一个遵纪守法的好人，也许我们从来没有想过和“暴力”扯上关系。不过如果稍微留意一下现实生活中的谈话方式，并且用心体会各种谈话方式给我们的不同感受，我们一定会发现，有些话的确伤人！言语上的指责、嘲讽、否定、说教以及任意打断、拒不回应、随意出口的评价和结论给我们带来的情感和精神上的创伤，甚至比肉体的伤害更加令人痛苦。这些无心或有意的语言暴力让人与人变得冷漠、隔阂、敌视

This succinct, interdisciplinary introduction to critical thinking successfully dares students to question their own assumptions and to enlarge their thinking through the analysis of the most common problems associated with everyday reasoning. The text offers a unique and effective organization: Part I explains the fundamental concepts; Part II describes the most common barriers to critical thinking; Part III offers strategies for overcoming those barriers.

Major New York Times bestseller
Winner of the National Academy of Sciences Best Book Award in 2012
Selected by the New York Times Book Review as one of the best books of 2011
A Globe and Mail Best Books of the Year 2011 Title
One of The Economist’s 2011 Books of the Year
One of The Wall Street Journal's Best Nonfiction Books of the Year 2011
In the international bestseller, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman, the renowned psychologist and winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, takes us on a groundbreaking tour of the mind and explains the two systems that drive the way we think. System 1 is fast, intuitive, and emotional; System 2 is slower, more deliberative, and more logical. The impact of overconfidence on corporate strategies, the difficulties of predicting what will make us happy in the future, the profound effect of cognitive biases on everything from playing the stock market to planning our next vacation—each of these can be understood only by knowing how the two systems shape our judgments and decisions.
Engaging the reader in a lively conversation about how we think, Kahneman reveals where we can and cannot trust our intuitions and how we can tap into the benefits of slow thinking. He offers practical and enlightening insights into how choices are made in both our business and our personal lives—and how we can use different techniques to guard against the mental glitches that often get us into trouble. Winner of the National Academy of Sciences Best Book Award and the Los Angeles Times Book Prize and selected by The New York Times Book Review as one of the ten best books of 2011, Thinking, Fast and Slow is destined to be a classic.
One of the New York Times Book Review's Top 10 Books of 2011
Editorial Reviews
Amazon.com Review
Amazon Best Books of the Month, November 2011: Drawing on decades of research in psychology that resulted in a Nobel Prize in Economic Sciences, Daniel Kahneman takes readers on an exploration of what influences thought example by example, sometimes with unlikely word pairs like "vomit and banana." System 1 and System 2, the fast and slow types of thinking, become characters that illustrate the psychology behind things we think we understand but really don't, such as intuition. Kahneman's transparent and careful treatment of his subject has the potential to change how we think, not just about thinking, but about how we live our lives. Thinking, Fast and Slow gives deep--and sometimes frightening--insight about what goes on inside our heads: the psychological basis for reactions, judgments, recognition, choices, conclusions, and much more. --JoVon Sotak
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“A tour de force. . . Kahneman’s book is a must read for anyone interested in either human behavior or investing. He clearly shows that while we like to think of ourselves as rational in our decision making, the truth is we are subject to many biases. At least being aware of them will give you a better chance of avoiding them, or at least making fewer of them.”—Larry Swedroe, CBS News
“Daniel Kahneman demonstrates forcefully in his new book, Thinking, Fast and Slow, how easy it is for humans to swerve away from rationality.”—Christopher Shea, The Washington Post
“An outstanding book, distinguished by beauty and clarity of detail, precision of presentation and gentleness of manner. Its truths are open to all those whose System 2 is not completely defunct. I have hardly touched on its richness.”— Galen Strawson, The Guardian
“Brilliant . . . It is impossible to exaggerate the importance of Daniel Kahneman’s contribution to the understanding of the way we think and choose. He stands among the giants, a weaver of the threads of Charles Darwin, Adam Smith and Sigmund Freud. Arguably the most important psychologist in history, Kahneman has reshaped cognitive psychology, the analysis of rationality and reason, the understanding of risk and the study of happiness and well-being . . . A magisterial work, stunning in its ambition, infused with knowledge, laced with wisdom, informed by modesty and deeply humane. If you can read only one book this year, read this one.”— Janice Gross Stein, The Globe and Mail
“A sweeping, compelling tale of just how easily our brains are bamboozled, bringing in both his own research and that of numerous psychologists, economists, and other experts...Kahneman has a remarkable ability to take decades worth of research and distill from it what would be important and interesting for a lay audience...Thinking, Fast and Slow is an immensely important book. Many science books are uneven, with a useful or interesting chapter too often followed by a dull one. Not so here. With rare exceptions, the entire span of this weighty book is fascinating and applicable to day-to-day life. Everyone should read Thinking, Fast and Slow.” —Jesse Singal, Boston Globe
“We must be grateful to Kahneman for giving us in this book a joyful understanding of the practical side of our personalities.” —Freeman Dyson, The New York Review of Books
“Brilliant . . . It is impossible to exaggerate the importance of Daniel Kahneman’s contribution to the understanding of the way we think and choose. He stands among the giants, a weaver of the threads of Charles Darwin, Adam Smith and Sigmund Freud. Arguably the most important psychologist in history, Kahneman has reshaped cognitive psychology, the analysis of rationality and reason, the understanding of risk and the study of happiness and well-being . . . A magisterial work, stunning in its ambition, infused with knowledge, laced with wisdom, informed by modesty and deeply humane. If you can read only one book this year, read this one.” — Janice Gross Stein, The Globe and Mail
“It is an astonishingly rich book: lucid, profound, full of intellectual surprises and self-help value. It is consistently entertaining and frequently touching, especially when Kahneman is recounting his collaboration with Tversky . . . So impressive is its vision of flawed human reason that the New York Times columnist David Brooks recently declared that Kahneman and Tversky’s work ‘will be remembered hundreds of years from now,’ and that it is ‘a crucial pivot point in the way we see ourselves.’ They are, Brooks said, ‘like the Lewis and Clark of the mind’ . . . By the time I got to the end of Thinking, Fast and Slow, my skeptical frown had long since given way to a grin of intellectual satisfaction. Appraising the book by the peak-end rule, I overconfidently urge everyone to buy and read it. But for those who are merely interested in Kahenman’s takeaway on the Malcolm Gladwell question it is this: If you've had 10,000 hours of training in a predictable, rapid-feedback environment—chess, firefighting, anesthesiology—then blink. In all other cases, think.”—The New York Times Book Review
“Ask around and you hear pretty much the same thing. 'Kahneman is the most influential psychologist since Sigmund Freud,' says Christopher Chabris, a professor of psychology at Union College, in New York. 'No one else has had such a broad impact on so many fields' . . . It now seems inevitable that Kahneman, who made his reputation by ignoring or defying conventional wisdom, is about to be anointed the intellectual guru of our economically irrational times.”— Evan R. Goldstein, The Chronicle of Higher Education
“There have been many good books on human rationality and irrationality, but only one masterpiece. That masterpiece is Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking, Fast and Slow . . . This is one of the greatest and most engaging collections of insights into the human mind I have read.”—William Easterly, Financial Times
“[Thinking, Fast and Slow] is wonderful, of course. To anyone with the slightest interest in the workings of his own mind, it is so rich and fascinating that any summary would seem absurd.”— Michael Lewis, Vanity Fair
“Absorbingly articulate and infinitely intelligent . . . What's most enjoyable and compelling about Thinking, Fast and Slow is that it's so utterly, refreshingly anti-Gladwellian. There is nothing pop about Kahneman's psychology, no formulaic story arc, no beating you over the head with an artificial, buzzword-encrusted Big Idea. It's just the wisdom that comes from five decades of honest, rigorous scientific work, delivered humbly yet brilliantly, in a way that will forever change the way you think about thinking.”—Maria Popova, The Atlantic
“I will never think about thinking quite the same. [Thinking, Fast and Slow] is a monumental achievement.”—Roger Lowenstein, Bloomberg/Businessweek
“Profound . . . As Copernicus removed the Earth from the centre of the universe and Darwin knocked humans off their biological perch, Mr. Kahneman has shown that we are not the paragons of reason we assume ourselves to be.” —The Economist
“[Kahneman’s] disarmingly simple experiments have profoundly changed the way that we think about thinking . . . We like to see ourselves as a Promethean species, uniquely endowed with the gift of reason. But Mr. Kahneman’s simple experiments reveal a very different mind, stuffed full of habits that, in most situations, lead us astray.” —Jonah Lehrer, The Wall Street Journal
“[A] tour de force of psychological insight, research explication and compelling narrative that brings together in one volume the high points of Mr. Kahneman's notable contributions, over five decades, to the study of human judgment, decision-making and choice . . . Thanks to the elegance and force of his ideas, and the robustness of the evidence he offers for them, he has helped us to a new understanding of our divided minds—and our whole selves.” —Christoper F. Chabris, The Wall Street Journal
“The ramifications of Kahenman’s work are wide, extending into education, business, marketing, politics . . . and even happiness research. Call his field “psychonomics,” the hidden reasoning behind our choices. Thinking, Fast and Slow is essential reading for anyone with a mind.” —Kyle Smith, The New York Post
“A major intellectual event . . . The work of Kahneman and Tversky was a crucial pivot point in the way we see ourselves.” —David Brooks, The New York Times
“Kahneman provides a detailed, yet accessible, description of the psychological mechanisms involved in making decisions.” —Jacek Debiec, Nature
“With Kahneman’s expert help, readers may understand this mix of psychology and economics better than most accountants, therapists, or elected representatives. VERDICT A stellar accomplishment, a book for everyone who likes to think and wants to do it better.” —Library Journal
“The mind is a hilariously muddled compromise between incompatible modes of thought in this fascinating treatise by a giant in the field of decision research. Nobel-winning psychologist Kahneman (Attention and Effort) posits a brain governed by two clashing decision-making processes. The largely unconscious System 1, he contends, makes intuitive snap judgments based on emotion, memory, and hard-wired rules of thumb; the painfully conscious System 2 laboriously checks the facts and does the math, but is so "lazy" and distractible that it usually defers to System 1. Kahneman uses this scheme to frame a scintillating discussion of his findings in cognitive psychology and behavioral economics, and of the ingenious experiments that tease out the irrational, self-contradictory logics that underlie our choices. We learn why we mistake statistical noise for cohere...

《人性的弱点全集》汇集了卡耐基的思想精华和最激动人心的内容，是作者最成功的励志经典，出版后立即获得了广大读者的欢迎，成为西方世界最持久的人文畅销书。主要内容包括：与人相处的基本技巧、平安快乐的要诀、如何使人喜欢你、如何赢得他人的赞同、如何更好地说服他人、让你的家庭生活幸福快乐等十篇。

政治家运用影响力来赢得选举，商人运用影响力来兜售商品，推销员运用影响力诱惑你乖乖地把金钱捧上。即使你的朋友和家人，不知不觉之间，也会把影响力用到你的身上。但到底是为什么，当一个要求用不同的方式提出来时，你的反应就会从负面抵抗变成积极合作呢？
在这本书中，心理学家罗伯特·B·西奥迪尼博士为我们解释了为什么有些人极具说服力，而我们总是容易上当受骗。隐藏在冲动地顺从他人行为背后的6大心理秘笈，正是这一切的根源。那些劝说高手们，总是熟练地运用它们，让我们就范。

本书第1版出版于1983年，20多年来一直被奉为心理学入门经典，在全球顶尖大学中享有盛誉，现在呈现在读者面前的是第8版。这本书并不同于一般的心理学导论类教材，很多内容是心理学课堂上不曾讲授的，也是许多心理学教师在教学中感到只可意会而不可言传的。作者正是从此初衷出发，以幽默生动的语言，结合一些妙趣横生、贴近生活的实例，深入浅出地介绍了可证伪性、操作主义、实证主义、安慰剂效应、相关和因果、概率推理等心理学中的基本原则。与上一版相比，第8版更新了最新的研究资料和实例，扩展了信度、效度、元分析、随机取样与随机分配等问题的讨论。
在今天的大众媒体和图书市场上，到处充斥着关于潜能提升、心理操控、色彩星座、催眠读心等伪装成心理学的主题，更有一些伪心理学家、所谓的心理治疗师打着心理学的旗号欺世盗名，从中渔利。在浩如烟海、良莠不齐的心理学信息面前，如何拨除迷雾，去伪存真，成为一个明智的心理学信息的消费者呢？本书将教给你科学实用的批判性思维技能，将真正的心理学研究从伪心理学中区分出来，告诉你什么才是真正的心理学。
本书不仅适合于心理学专业的学生，有助于建立心理学研究中必要的批判性思维技能与意识，而其通俗易读性也非常适合所有对心理学感兴趣的读者，它将帮助你纠正对心理学的种种误解，学会独立地评估心理学信息，用科学的精神和方法理解自己和他人的行为。此外，由于心理学与其他学科的共通性，本书也不失为一本精彩有趣的科学哲学类读物。

自控力是如何发挥作用的，为什么自控力如此重要？如何更好地运用自控力？如果你想让生活变得更美好，就从自控力入手吧。 自控力强的人能够更好地控制自己的注意力、情绪和行为，更好地应对压力、解决冲突、战胜逆境，身体更健康，人际关系更和谐，恋情更长久，收入更高，事业也更成功。 只需10周，成功掌握自己的时间和生活。提高自控力的最有效途径，在于弄清自己如何失控、为何失控。

《战胜自己:顺其自然的森田疗法(第2版)》分为上、下两篇。上篇概述了森田正马如何创立森田疗法，森田疗法的基本理论，冈本常男、高良武久、大原健士郎、田代信维等人对森田理论的发晨，森田疗法在中国的发展，森田神经质的诊断标准以及如何学习森田疗法等内容；下篇是作者对森田疗法的感悟，对人生自然的思索、对人生某些误区的探讨，以及如何运用森田理论应对挂折，学会心理调节和人际交往，战胜自己等。
《战胜自己:顺其自然的森田疗法(第2版)》语言朴实清新，深入浅出，适合心理学工作者、身心科医师和对森田疗法感兴趣的读者参考阅读。

转载网上: 一本迟到的书——读《EB情感敲诈》
最近在看《EB情感敲诈》，此书自一九九七年第一版问世便被翻译成十七种以上的文字出版。
著者的意图是“把这本书奉献给那些试图与爱人、父母、同事、朋友亲密相处的人：他们苦心孤诣想营造良好感情关系，结果却被扭曲了的“常春藤”扼杀了”。
可以说这本书能“帮助你识别并校正在你与你所爱的人之间受到严重破坏了的错综复杂的感情关系”。
确如著者言，在现实生活中，许多男男女女极有能力，慈心善意，但他们却跌进了敲诈的陷阱里。著者认为，“虽然“敲诈”这个名词使人联想起犯罪、恐怖，和强力勒索等形象。且把你的爱人、你的父母、你的上司、你的兄弟姐妹和你的朋友置于这种情境下是不可想象的。然而，我还是发现“敲诈”是唯一精确描述事态的术语。这个词一针见血地穿透了那些弥漫在感情关系上的阴影，使之澄清如澈，”
书中著者剖析了敲诈的交易：从情感敲诈的诊断和手段至敲诈者的内心世界和敲诈的冲击，使需要此书的读者认识到自己的处境；引导变认识为行动，走出困境。
两百多页的书里贯穿了许多戏剧性的故事——一个个与情感敲诈者相对抗的人——找到途径，结束敲诈。你也许将从他们身上获益匪浅。“他们的故事是现代的寓言，这些故事的教训可以成为行旅上的指路人和信号标灯。”
书看了一半的时候，我曾沉思如果从出版的一开始就看到此书，自己的生活又会是什么样。从某方面来讲，这书对我已无甚用处，黑暗中的摸索已教会自己如何摆脱此类的“敲诈”，在必要的时候用适当的方式说出“不”字，建立合理的全新的关系，找回独立与自尊，虽然这种痛苦的探索是如此的漫长。但我渐渐发现，现在来看这书还并不算为时过晚，一方面让我回头来看，理顺头绪，肯定自己。另外我发现如今的自己正时时不折不扣扮演着敲诈者的脚色，我似乎未意识到“己所不欲、勿施于人”这个最简单的道理。
著者苏珊写《EB情感敲诈》的时候，已有二十五年多的心理治疗经验，诊治过成千上万的人。 愿此书能成为某些人的良师益友，伴他们快些度过人生的某一阶段。
一本好书是不会过期的。在导言里，著者说到：“请原谅，当你走过这段历程，我不能亲身陪伴你。但是，在你走出困难并且改变着生活的每一步中，我都在道义上给予你支持。我将帮助你建立起全新的、健全的感情关系——不仅是与你生活中的敲诈者的关系，而且也体现于你自身。”“鼓起勇气，正视情感敲诈。本书将给你力量。”

这本书处处透露出沟通与理解的意味，它跨越时代限制，帮助我们探索爱的本质，引导我们过上崭新，宁静而丰富的生活；它帮助我们学习爱，也学习独立；它教诲我们成为更称职的、更有理解心的父母。归根到底，它告诉我们怎样找到真正的自我。
正如开篇所言：人生苦难重重。M·斯科特·派克让我们更加清楚：人生是一场艰辛之旅，心智成熟的旅程相当漫长。但是，他没有让我们感到恐惧，相反，他带领我们去经历一系列艰难乃至痛苦的转变，最终达到自我认知的更高境界。

从学生到科学家，从秘书到总裁，从家庭主妇到销售员，拖延的问题几乎会影响到每一个人。本书的两位作者基于他们倍受好评和极具开创性的拖延工作坊和从众多心理咨询领域中汲取的丰富理论和经验，对拖延作了一次仔细、详尽、有时也颇为幽默的探索。
通过鉴别和检查那些我们将事情推掉的背后原因——对失败、成功、控制、疏远和依附的恐惧，加上我们的时间概念问题和大脑的神经学因素——为我们学会怎样理解拖延的冲动以及怎样以全新方式采取行动做了一件非常扎实的基础工作。
作者为我们提供了达成目标、管理时间、谋求支持和处理压力等一系列方案来克服拖延问题，她们提供的方案极为实用并经受过实践的检验。本书还考虑到工作和生活节奏不断加快的当代文化诉求，以及诸如注意力缺失紊乱症、执行功能障碍症等神经认知问题对拖延的影响。本书甚至还为生活和工作在拖延者身边的人群提供了不少实用性建议。

一批彼此并不相识的年轻人——身心健康、情绪稳定的大学生，走进了“斯坦福监狱”。他们并没有犯罪，只是受募到“监狱”——斯坦福大学的一个精心布置的地下室，接受一项试验。大学生们被随机地分为“狱卒”和“犯人”，然后开始了为期两周的试验。然而，试验仅仅进行了一周，原本单纯的大学生，已变成了残暴的狱卒和崩溃的犯人，试验不得不终止了。受试者强烈感受到角色规范的影响，使作者得以深度剖析复杂的人性，透析“情境力量”对个人行为的影响，并分析造成监狱虐囚和种族屠杀的情境影响。日常生活中的种种社会角色剧本的规范与约束，会不会使我们像上帝最钟爱的天使路西法那样不知不觉中对他人做出难以置信的事，从而堕落成为魔鬼？我们如何抗拒情境影响力？作为心理学教授的作者也对此进行了研究，并做出了极有说服力的分析。

这是一本风靡整个世界的精神分析著作.
本世纪最杰出的精神分析学者弗洛姆,从分析社会过程中人的性格结构入手,为我们勾勒了一副现代人窘迫的图景:追求自由却又身不由己地逃避自由...现代法西斯主义由此而肆虐人类.作者为我们指出了达到自由境界的途径,即自发地爱和工作.
本书奠定了作者毕生的研究方向,被西方学者誉为本世纪最杰出的社会心理学著作.

古斯塔夫・勒庞 Gustave Le Bon(1841-1931) 法国著名社会心理学家。他自1894年始，写下一系列社会心理学著作，以本书最为著名；在社会心理学领域已有的著作中，最有影响的，也是这本并不很厚的《乌合之众》。古斯塔夫・勒庞在他在书中极为精致地描述了集体心态，对人们理解集体行为的作用以及对社会心理学的思考发挥了巨大影响。《乌合之众--大众心理研究》在西方已印至第29版，其观点新颖，语言生动，是群体行为的研究者不可不读的佳作。