脑神经科学
我什么办法都试过了!理解一至五岁孩子 豆瓣
J'AI TOUT ESSAYÉ: Opposition, pleurs et crises de rage
作者: [法]伊莎贝拉·费利奥莎 / [法]阿努克·迪布瓦 译者: 魏舒 新星出版社 2017 - 9
《我什么办法都试过了!理解一至五岁孩子》是作者两本畅销法国的亲子书中的其中一本,另一本为《他怎么总找我麻烦?!理解六至十一岁孩子》。两本书的书名看上去都是家长声嘶力竭的绝望呼喊,但副书名给出了心理学家的答案:理解孩子。如何理解?运用神经科学和实验心理学的科学发现来理解。
家长当然不必去研读这些前沿科学的学术论文,本书有严密的理论支持,但无难懂的理论表述,作者和绘者已经把科学方法融入生动有趣的文字和图画中,助家长解除焦虑,轻松掌握营造和谐亲子关系的实用窍门。
2022年3月31日 已读
“教育的基础首先是关系”这句话的确非常精辟。即便许多有学习基础的家长都没有总结出来这句话。参照书中依据大脑发育进度提出的建议,能发现不少自己还能提升的细处,比如明确指令、对概念把握不同程度的应对、对专注记忆能力不同程度的应对等等。看那些孩子脑瓜默念的小框框都想掉泪,就都是大人错得离谱啊。真是一本既网红也靠谱的好书,冲着这种轻松直观的插图形式必须五星。
伊沙贝拉奥费利奥沙 儿童 儿童教育 发展心理学 心理学
整体养育 豆瓣
作者: 陈忻 中信出版集团 2020 - 4
孩子胆小、没有安全感,怎么办?孩子爱发脾气,怎么办? 孩子注意力不集中,怎 么办?……我该如何养育我的孩子?我的养育方式是否合适?……
几乎每一位焦虑父母,都在寻找“药到病除”的育儿解药,希望专家给出一个标准育儿答案。然而,世界上并不存在一个统一的育儿公式。如果父母可以了解儿童发展的规律和特点,以及一些为人父母的原则和方法,很多问题可能就会迎刃而解。
《整体养育》是一本给广大父母的育儿指南。其中既有育儿的“内功心法”,也有育儿的“具体招式”,可以切实帮助父母建立对儿童发展的整体认识,帮助孩子发展各种必需的核心能力。只有我们手里握着儿童发展的全景图,用整体养育的思路去看待孩子的发展,才能看清楚来路和去路,进而反思自己的养育方式,帮助孩子更好地成长。
2022年3月30日 已读
第一部都是些老生常谈的基本面,看完觉得自己的确做得还不错;读完第二部的确很有收获,在基本面下增添了更多具体方法,能支持我在日常实践中把更多细节做得更好。根据维果茨基的“最近发展区”延伸出来的支持方法给我留下最深刻的印象。
儿童教育 发展心理学 家庭教育 心理学 成长
You, Your Child, and School 豆瓣
作者: SIR KEN ROBINSON / LOU ARONICA Viking 2018 - 3
An essential book for parents to help their children get the education they need to live happy, productive lives from The New York Times bestselling author of The Element and Creative Schools
Parents everywhere are deeply concerned about the education of their children, especially now, when education has become a minefield of politics and controversy. One of the world’s most influential educators, Robinson has had countless conversations with parents about the dilemmas they face. As a parent, what should you look for in your children’s education? How can you tell if their school is right for them and what can you do if it isn’t? In this important new book, he offers clear principles and practical advice on how to support your child through the K-12 education system, or outside it if you choose to homeschool or un-school. Dispelling many myths and tackling critical schooling options and controversies, You, Your Child, and School is a key book for parents to learn about the kind of education their children really need and what they can do to make sure they get it.
2022年3月30日 已读
看评论特别能看到简中家长的mentality:虽然Robinson已经提供很多具体的参照标准,很多行动指南,又延伸出许多细分领域的支撑读物,但还是被认为没有提供某些“育儿绝招”,“没有启发实行不了”。很多人没有提到书里一个重要数据:基础条件以后,影响一个人的幸福感的要素中,财富、健康、身份地位加起来影响不超10%。我好奇多少简中家长读了这个数据直接把书丢开了。
原文 发展心理学 幸福 心理学 思想史
The Whole-Brain Child 豆瓣
作者: Daniel J. Siegel / Tina Payne Bryson Delacorte Press 2011 - 10
Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!
In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight , and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using twelve key strategies, including
• Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.
• Engage, Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.
• Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state.
• Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.
• SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.
• Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.
Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.
2022年3月30日 已读 “左右脑分工”“上区下区”这种极有可能是错误的、极有可能被误解的观点竟仍被作为主要理论介绍,委实让人惊讶。建构论、简并理论真的要加强传播。但非常吊诡的是,虽然借用的理论落空,但本书所提供的实践方法却极有可能是有效的。毕竟这类延伸的方法论与最基础的脑神经科学发现依然是吻合的。其中最受益的是“可控的回忆倒带法”。无论是儿童还是成人,把不明就里的情绪源头的细节拼凑完整,我们才能知道自己从哪里来,以后往何处去。
原文 发展心理学 心理学 情绪 教育