therapy
Hold Me Tight 豆瓣
作者: Sue Johnson Little, Brown Spark; 1st edition 2008 - 4
Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world.
In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
2020年2月7日 已读
相见恨晚啊,大量couple therapy案例贯穿全书,生动易懂有共鸣,看着看着就哭了。前几章讲如何有意识地发现彼此争执时的pattern,落脚点是理解、接纳双方的raw spots & attachment needs,不仅要耐心发掘对方protest背后的原因,也要积极勇敢地表达自己的emotional feelings来帮对方理解自己。所有的正向、负向的spiral都不是一个人促成的,说到底,双方积极参与沟通表达仍是重中之重,只有实用性的problem solving而没有语言和肢体的reassurances是远远不够的。也提到了如何与经历过trauma的伴侣相处,如何原谅彼此,如何区分性生活是真的bonding还是找刺激或补偿行为。挺棒挺实用的!
intimacy therapy 心理学
Hold Me Tight 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Sue Johnson Little, Brown and Company 2008 - 4
Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In HOLD ME TIGHT, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.