育儿
你的孩子不是你的孩子 豆瓣 谷歌图书
8.1 (64 个评分) 作者: 吴晓乐 中国友谊出版公司 2019 - 11
这世间最大的伤害,打的旗号叫“为你好”
出版后引发巨大争议,数月雄踞博客来总榜No.1,读者有人愤怒,有人哭泣
同名网剧由台湾公视制作,获第54届金钟奖5项大奖,豆瓣万人评分8.4,被称为“亚洲版《黑镜》”
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我花了八年时间,打开一扇又一扇门,目睹一个又一个家中发生的故事。
有人坚信女儿患有多动症,直到她真的患上多动症;有人偷偷希冀着,父亲向她走过来,对她说一句,好女儿,你也辛苦了;有人深藏秘密,却只能躲进柜子;有人做了母亲,却习惯在深夜躲进厕所痛哭,咬自己的手抑制哭声;有人在和母亲第一百次的和解失败时,她决定宽恕自己。
我走进他们的生命,每踩一步都惊叹不已。
这九个故事:
没有一个是普罗大众乐见的教育神话。
没有一篇看了会感到喜悦。
没有一篇看了心中不会乱糟糟的,甚至觉得烦。
我不断受到诱惑,何不把这些故事写得更正向,更明亮,更温暖,不妨将那些伤害给淡化、舒缓吧。可是,我不能这么做。任何的修饰和美化,都是对那些伤痕的背叛。我想要你和我一起,凝视那些脸,凝视一个已经被淡忘的初衷——把孩子带到这世界上的初衷。
2020年4月26日 已读
相对于书中描写的故事本身,我更关注作者在这些叙述中所展现出来的强大的敏感和强烈的共情。这是一个作家最基本的特质,后来果然在她的散文集里得到了更为文学化的体现。
台湾文学 心理学 育儿 随笔/散文
当我遇见一个人 豆瓣
作者: 李雪 北京联合出版公司 2016 - 6
任何事物,如果你觉得它美,那么它一定暗合了某种美的规律。家庭教育也一样,一个孩子从呱呱坠地到健康幸福地长大成人,他在成长过程中受到的呵护一定暗合了自然发展的规律。
母婴关系决定人生的起点。孩子通过内化与父母的情感关系来学习成长,童年的关系模式与长大后的事业、婚恋、养育等,有着丝丝入扣的对应。自己童年灰暗的父母,会把心理创伤传递给孩子,无论意识上多希望孩子不再受苦,但潜意识总在制造相同的陷阱。
爱孩子,便“如他所是”,而非“如我所愿”;
爱孩子,也是爱自己内在“受伤的小孩”。
教育的本质,其实是父母的自我修行。
2016年7月27日 已读
客体关系理论在当代中国语境下的一次应用。本来可以做得很好,但行文逻辑性不强,结论的推导相当主观;作者谈及本人经验时显得比举其他例子更有信心也更有体会;感性的结论压倒了理性的挖掘。大量陈述都直接来自国外理论——虽然并未注出直接引用,导致文字浮在文意的表面,全书都缺少深刻、独特的分析。给出解决方案时可看出作者对所谓“身心灵”修行有一定了解,却缺乏宗教和哲学素养,论述既含糊又有些“神叨”。
心理学 育儿
家有四男 豆瓣
作者: [加] 梁鹤年 生活·读书·新知三联书店 2015 - 3
· 男孩子最重要的品质是纪律,钢琴是培养纪律最好的工具。
· 家才是学习相处之道的最佳场所。与朋友交,合则留不合则去,
而与家人处,合与不合都不能脱身。
· 四个孩子都是刚念完书就结婚,我们不鼓励恋爱成熟而迟迟不婚;
在孩子起步的时候要尽量帮忙。
·“ 同毛色的鸟,群在一起”,帮孩子选朋友很重要。
老大有病,不能控制手足,整天撕扯衣服,终身难愈;我们教他不自怜,教他信人、信天、信自己。老大终成大学教授,还娶到了聪明漂亮的教授妻子,同时创立了一家男装网站。
老二两岁时还不会说话,但是一开口就语句整齐;他不是家里最聪明的,但最被人尊重。念书总是第一名,大三就考上医学院,但却选择了为穷人服务。
老三牛津毕业后选择了在大学任教,他是家里最聪明的,幼时却缺少自信。他热爱数学和音乐,这两件是极严谨的学问,又都是美的艺术。数学和音乐在童年时代帮他克服了骄和躁。
老四给家里最多麻烦,但也给家里最大的乐趣。他既热情又盲目,爱交朋友又常交上损友。不过,他反弹力强,不怕吃亏,这让他一生好运气,全家也因他得福。
2015年7月31日 已读
值得推荐的好书,怪不得三联会出这本乍看即是育儿类下的书。即便没孩子的读者,虽无法借鉴其中的育儿心得,也可以学习作者的人生智慧。海外华人小孩最容易滑向的路径是同时习得中西文化中的糟粕,但作者一家真正做到了博采中西之长。
育儿 随笔/散文
The New Contented Little Baby Book 豆瓣
作者: Gina Ford Penguin Random House USA Ex 2013 - 3
The Contented Little Baby Book, based on Gina Ford's personal experience of caring for over 300 babies, was first published in 1999. It quickly established Gina as an influential new authority on baby and childcare issues and has remained one of the bestselling parenting books in the UK. This completely revised edition of The New Contented Little Baby Book contains the most up-to-date advice available to parents. Using the feedback from numerous readers and website members, Gina has been able to develop and elaborate on the information in her first book, while clearly setting out her philosophy on simple feeding and sleeping routines. By creating routines that match a growing baby's innate natural rhythms, Gina prevents the hunger, overtiredness and colic that can lead to excessive crying. Babies who are settled into Gina's gentle routines are happy and contented because their needs for food and sleep are appropriately met and they should sleep for their longest spell at night from an early age. With detailed, prescriptive information on everything parents need to know, this book includes chapters on: - Preparation for the birth - How the routines evolved and the benefits of following a routine - Milk feeding in the first year - Understanding your baby's sleep - Establishing a routine - Introducing solid food in line with government and World Health Authority guidelines - Common problems in the first year. Whether you are expecting your first child, or are experiencing difficulties with an older baby, this comprehensive guide contains all the expert guidance you need to help your baby feed and sleep well.
实用程序育儿法 豆瓣
The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems
7.3 (6 个评分) 作者: (美)特蕾西·霍格 / (美)梅林达·布劳 译者: 张雪兰 北京联合出版社 2009 - 1
《实用程序育儿法》作者世界闻名的实战型育儿专家特蕾西·霍格(Tracy Hogg)以“宝宝耳语专家(Baby Whisperer)”享誉全球,她深入到数千名宝宝的家里解决宝宝和妈妈面临的日常难题,通过演讲、电台、电视台、信件、电子邮件以及住她的网站上发帖跟她交流、向她请教的妈妈们更是不计其数。由她亲自实景示范拍摄的“和宝宝说悄悄话(Thc Baby Whisperer)”DVD全球发行上千万张。她徂导从宝宝的角度考虑问题,要观察、尊重宝宝,和宝宝沟通一一即使宝宝还不会说话。在《实用程序育儿法》中,她集自己近30年的经验,详细解释了0~3岁宝宝的喂养、睡眠、情感,教育等各方面问题的有效解决方法。
Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems 豆瓣
作者: Ferber, Richard Simon & Schuster 2006 - 5
Does your child Have difficulty falling asleep? Wake in the middle of the night? Suffer sleep terrors, sleepwalking, or nighttime fears? Have difficulty waking for school or staying awake in class? Snore, wet the bed, or head bang? In the first major revision of his bestselling, groundbreaking classic since it was published twenty years ago, Dr. Richard Ferber, the nation's foremost authority on children's sleep problems, delivers safe, sound ideas for helping your child fall and stay asleep at night and perform well during the day. Incorporating new research, Dr. Ferber provides important basic information that all parents should know regarding the nature of sleep and the development of normal sleep and body rhythms throughout childhood. He discusses the causes of most sleep problems from birth to adolescence and recommends an array of proven solutions for each so that parents can choose the strategy that works best for them. Topics covered in detail include: Bedtime difficulties and nighttime wakings Effective strategies for naps Sleep schedule abnormalities A balanced look at co-sleeping New insights into the nature of sleep terrors and sleepwalking Problems in setting limits Sleep apnea, narcolepsy, bed-wetting, and head banging "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" offers priceless advice and concrete help for a whole new generation of anxious, frustrated, and overtired parents.
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child 豆瓣
作者: Marc Weissbluth Ballantine Books 2005 - 10
One of the country's leading researchers updates his revolutionary approach to solving--and preventing--your children's sleep problems
Here Dr. Marc Weissbluth, a distinguished pediatrician and father of four, offers his groundbreaking program to ensure the best sleep for your child. In Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, he explains with authority and reassurance his step-by-step regime for instituting beneficial habits within the framework of your child's natural sleep cycles. This valuable sourcebook contains brand new research that
- Pinpoints the way daytime sleep differs from night sleep and why both are important to your child
- Helps you cope with and stop the crybaby syndrome, nightmares, bedwetting, and more
- Analyzes ways to get your baby to fall asleep according to his internal clock--naturally
- Reveals the common mistakes parents make to get their children to sleep--including the inclination to rock and feed
- Explores the different sleep cycle needs for different temperaments--from quiet babies to hyperactive toddlers
- Emphasizes the significance of a nap schedule
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Rest is vital to your child's health growth and development. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child outlines proven strategies that ensure good, healthy sleep for every age. Advises parents dealing with teenagers and their unique sleep problems
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Secrets of the Baby Whisperer 豆瓣
作者: Tracy Hogg / Melinda Blau Ballantine Books 2005 - 7
“TRACY HOGG HAS GIVEN PARENTS A GREAT GIFT–the ability to develop early insight into their child’s temperament.”
–Los Angeles Family

When Tracy Hogg’s Secrets of the Baby Whisperer was first published, it soared onto bestseller lists across the country. Parents everywhere became “whisperers” to their newborns, amazed that they could actually communicate with their baby within weeks of their child’s birth. Tracy gave parents what for some amounted to a miracle: the ability to understand their baby’s every coo and cry so that they could tell immediately if the baby was hungry, tired, in real distress, or just in need of a little TLC. Tracy also dispelled the insidious myth that parents must go sleepless for the first year of a baby’s life–because a happy baby sleeps through the night. Now you too can benefit from Tracy’s more than twenty years’ experience. In this groundbreaking book, she shares simple, accessible programs in which you will learn:
• E.A.S.Y.–how to get baby to eat, play, and sleep on a schedule that will make every member of the household’s life easier and happier.
• S.L.O.W.–how to interpret what your baby is trying to tell you (so you don’t try to feed him when he really wants a nap).
• How to identify which type of baby yours is–Angel, Textbook, Touchy, Spirited, or Grumpy–and then learn the best way to interact with that type.
• Tracy’s Three Day Magic–how to change any and all bad habits (yours and the baby’s) in just three days.
At the heart of Tracy’s simple but profound message: treat the baby as you would like to be treated yourself. Reassuring, down-to-earth, and often flying in the face of conventional wisdom, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer promises parents not only a healthier, happier baby but a more relaxed and happy household as well.
From the Trade Paperback edition.