本书针对亲子沟通中的难题，提出了倾听和表达的“三要三不要”，并将此总结成一套系统的沟通技巧——极简亲子对话法。
书中还提供了“倾听值”和“表达力”的测试及分析，以及实操训练记录表，帮助父母发现自己在亲子沟通中经常出现的问题，然后结合大量的亲子情境对话进行具体的分析，手把手地引导父母在对话中抓住教育的关键契机，把良好的教育理念真正融入每一场对话中。

A veteran psychologist presents a proven roadmap to help ADHD kids succeed in school and life

You’ve read all the expert advice, but despite countless efforts to help your child cope better and stay on track, you’re still struggling with everyday issues like homework, chores, getting to soccer practice on time, and simply getting along without pushback and power struggles.

What if you could work with your child, motivating and engaging them in the process, to create positive change once and for all? In this insightful and practical book, veteran psychologist Sharon Saline shares the words and inner struggles of children and teens living with ADHD—and a blueprint for achieving lasting success by working together. Based on more than 25 years of experience counseling young people and their families, Dr. Saline’s advice and real-world examples reveal how parents can shift the dynamic and truly help kids succeed. Topics include:

* Setting mutual goals that foster cooperation
* Easing academic struggles
* Tackling everyday challenges, from  tantrums and backtalk to staying organized, building friendships, and more.

With useful exercises and easy-to-remember techniques, you’ll discover a variety of practical strategies that really work, creating positive change that will last a lifetime.
 

 

在《儿童爱之语》中，查普曼博士把爱的五种语言的研究应用于亲子生活中。《儿童爱之语》提出一套行动计划，其中包括许多案例与练习，可以帮助您向孩子表达五种爱语里的每种极具实践性。“帅呆了”、“酷毙了”——孩子们下时会说一些令我们乍听下满头雾水的言语。您能表达——并且愿意表达——您孩子的爱之语吗？盖瑞·查普曼博士发现，人们在表达与接受爱时 基本上有五种爱的语言：肯定的言词，精心的时刻，接受礼物，服务的行动，身体的接触。每个人都有自己主要的爱的语言。在人际互动中，发现自己和他人的主要爱主语是很关键的，用对“爱的语言”，才能正确地表达和接受爱，这是心灵满足与否的秘诀。因此在全世界，在各种沟通训练和团队训练课程中，爱的五种语言的应用都曰益广泛。奇妙的爱之语，透过实例的见证和传神的隐喻，帮助我们营造出家庭和谐、亲子互动、轻松感人的好氛围。

* 孩子，虽然这是你的人生，但爸爸有一些经验，你最好早点知道。
* 《外婆的道歉信》《清单人生》《时间的礼物》作者巴克曼，首部非虚构随笔集。
* 写给儿子的人生避坑指南。
* 养娃路上不得不吐的槽，新手奶爸的抓狂瞬间。
* 好笑但有用的人生秘籍，守则一“不要和你 妈争辩”。
* 不成文的家长守则实在太多了，评论区贡献起来？
* 没错！还是你熟悉的那个巴克曼，温暖又睿智。
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喜欢巴克曼的读者，对这本非虚构随笔集一定不会失望，还是那个熟悉的北欧治愈大叔，每一页都充满巴克曼特有的幽默、睿智、细腻和温暖。
随着孩子的降生，奶爸巴克曼体验到了前所未有的忙乱和困窘，人生从此围绕着便便和奶瓶转；追在孩子后面收拾一地鸡毛；牺牲个人时间都不算什么，被剥夺睡眠才是最大的痛苦。在此过程中，他记录下许多新手父母必然经历的抓狂瞬间。虽然总有一天，孩子会长大并主宰自己的人生，但爸爸还是有责任尽早向孩子解释这个世界到底是怎么一回事：
比如宜家，没有人在宜家吵架是因为宜家本身，一对夫妻在柜子上的分歧实际上关系到彼此的包容问题，所以“不要找一个爱你优点的姑娘，而是找一个能够包容你缺点的姑娘”。
比如商品，“一生之中我们会拥有无数东西，商品不能比人还重要，所以不要太依赖任何一个物品”。
比如男子气概，“真男人也可以坐下、闭嘴并倾听，在犯错误的时候低头承认错误”。
当然，“不要和你妈争辩”也是很重要的一条“生存法则”。
13篇文章，13条好笑但有用的人生秘籍，所有的喋喋不休都是为了“保护好你，远离生活的沮丧、坎坷和不愉快”。

这是一位美丽妈妈长期思索的智慧告白，这是两个生命相遇时的心灵火花。怎样成为一个真正的母亲，尤其是在灵魂深处的凤凰涅槃，是每一个准备做母亲的女性都要面临的人生大事。本书广泛分享了作为母亲的荣耀和责任，无私地呈现了一个母亲的自身剖析和清理，以及领悟生命真谛的全过程，展现了成为一个真正的母亲所必须经历的人生观念的绚丽蜕变，是送给所有期待成为母亲的女性的一份最智慧的精神礼物。

From biomechanist and bestselling author Katy Bowman comes her eagerly anticipated book about getting kids—from babies to preteens—and their families moving more, together, outside.

Human movement is at an all-time low, and our children are currently facing both a movement and nature deficiency, spending more time inside and moving less than any other generation throughout human history.

As adults and kids alike turn more frequently to “convenient” and tech-based solutions, many tasks that once required head-to-toe use of our muscles and bones can be done with a click and a swipe. Without realizing it, we’ve gotten rid of the movement-rich environment our physical, mental, and environmental health depend on…but not our need for it.

The good news is, while the problem feels massive, the solution is quite simple…and fun! Bowman, a leader in the Movement movement, has written Grow Wild to show where movement used to fit into the activities of daily life and more importantly, how it can again.

帮助父母与孩子建立深层次情感纽带，实现父母与孩子的互助成长。
《当下的力量》《新世界：灵性的觉醒》作者埃克哈特•托利、专业权威媒体《心理月刊》《父母世界》《母子健康》《中华家教》《父母堂》等联袂倾力推荐！
《父母的觉醒》是一本从心理与情感层面讲述教养之道的书。“觉醒”意味着对我们经历的一切事情保持清醒，按照现实的本来面目去接受和应对它，而不去妄图控制或改变它。也就是说，我们在教养孩子的时候，要依从他们的本性，接纳他们的本真。父母的觉醒与改变是教育的真正开始。父母只有安顿好自己的身心，才能帮助孩子成长为一个健全的人。
作者萨巴瑞博士提出，父母与孩子是人生旅途中的伙伴，平等互助是亲子关系的核心内容。如果父母能够放弃虚荣心、自负感、控制欲，尊重孩子的天性，就能与孩子建立起亲密和谐的关系。如果父母愿意敞开胸怀，在实践中学习，在与孩子的互动中找寻答案，就能与孩子一起获得进步与拓展。
萨巴瑞博士运用心理学领域的研究成果，鼓励广大父母用爱意与真诚穿越家庭教育的困境，破解亲子关系的难题，实现精神的觉醒；其深刻的教养之道不仅将孩子身体、思维、心灵的培养融为一体，也让父母得到完整的成长。
《父母的觉醒》具有不可估量的价值。它既向父母展示了教养孩子过程中将会遭遇的种种挑战，也指导他们如何将挑战转化为巨大的机会，从而获得精神的觉醒。成为彻底觉醒的父亲或母亲，对你的孩子来说是一份巨大的馈赠。
——埃克哈特•托利（Eckhart Tolle），《当下的力量》与《新世界：灵性的觉醒》作者
当父母带着一种清醒的觉察眼光来看待自身以及最亲爱的孩子时，就能发现生命本身具备的美好而独特的力量，也就能用尊重、支持、欣赏的态度来对待自己与孩子，进而创造出相互支持而又各自独立的美景。萨巴瑞博士在《父母的觉醒》一书中，以对生命和爱的真实理解与温暖信念，与我们分享了一条实在且美好的路径，让父母与孩子同时获得滋养与成长，共同创造出爱与自由并存的关系。这正是任何一种爱的真义，也是陪伴孩子活出丰美明亮生命的最佳引领。
——胡慧嫚，《心理月刊》执行主编
我们自诩为新父母，因为我们自认为比上辈人更注重亲子关系，更强调爱与尊重。但当我们真实地面对孩子时，却会不由自主地受到习惯力量的驱使，以致在新旧之间苦苦挣扎。之所以有这份挣扎，是因为我们尚未读懂自己的情感与精神，尚未参透自己与孩子之间的关系。《父母的觉醒》帮助我们读懂自己、与自己积极对话，也帮助我们获得觉醒，并与孩子一道绽放生命的光彩。
——朱正欧，《父母世界》执行主编

他是谷歌、微软等科技巨头推崇的人际生物学创立者。
他的第七感理论被“情商之父”丹尼尔·戈尔曼誉为“堪与弗洛伊德的潜意识理论、达尔文的进化论齐名”。
他的“全脑教养法”理论风靡全球，影响百万家庭教育理念。
他就是融合心理学、脑科学与网络科学的先锋——丹尼尔·西格尔。
全球知名脑科学家、儿童积极心理学家丹尼尔·西格尔关注教育长期目标，“开放式大脑”是他继“第七感”“全脑教养法”等风靡全球的理论后提出的全新概念。
“开放式大脑”源自大脑中一种特别的神经回路，它能让孩子拥有四大关键特质：稳定情绪的平衡力、应对挑战的复原力、审视自己的洞察力、理解他人的共情力。
9项实操策略，3色沟通模型，多个育儿难题应用场景，结合启发性自测题和趣味性亲子漫画，帮助父母和孩子一起轻松培养开放式大脑，让孩自觉主动地应对当下生活，迎接未来挑战。
斯坦福大学心理学教授、美国艺术与科学院院士卡罗尔·德韦克，临床心理学家、育儿专家、《纽约时报》畅销书作者温迪·莫格尔，北京大学心理与认知科学学院副教授、博士生导师张昕，新浪微博家庭教育专家、亲子沟通导师林小暖bella联袂推荐。

"我们越觉醒，离孩子的心便越近，也越能给孩子温柔而有力的教养。
从控制孩子，转向培养孩子成为真正的自己，带领整个家庭走上觉醒之路。
觉醒的教养方式打破了传统的游戏规则：要改变的不是孩子，而是父母自身。
每一位父母都有能力培养出具有高度适应能力并在情感上与父母保持深度联结的孩子。但实际上，很多父母都无法做到这一点——因为我们被现代社会对养育子女的误解和自身内在的局限蒙蔽了双眼。
这本书因融汇西方心理学和东方哲学而充满洞见。作为一名经验丰富的临床心理学家和家庭教育专家，作者为读者提供了极具实用性的引导。她向父母展示了如何更好地培养与孩子的关系，让他们成长为真正的自己；同时也带领父母踏上一段觉醒之旅，超越对为人父母的恐惧和幻想，进入更平静、更有同情心和智慧的状态。
•你可以结束教养子女中的所有纠结
•你可以学会为人父母却不用恐惧或焦虑
•你可以结束和孩子的冲突
•你能在家庭里创造亲密的关系
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每一个有麻烦的男孩背后都有不同的故事，但每个故事背后却有一个共同主题——男孩的情感压抑、忽视和疏离，情绪表达能力不足。 如何看出男孩身上的警告信号？ 男孩们要为情感教育的缺失付出怎样的代价？ 男孩需要如何教育才能成为心智与情感完整的人？ 两位作者通过大量动人心弦的案例和深刻的心理分析，期盼能协助父母、老师以及其他所有关心男孩的人，穿透男孩行为表面，给予男孩更多的情感关怀和鼓励，帮助男孩有机会发展出热情、敏感和温暖等特质，成长为可以控制自我情绪、理解他人并能与他人和谐相处的高情商男孩。

What makes us the w ay w e are? Some say it’s the genes we inherit at conception. Others are sure it’s the environment we experience in childhood. But could it be that many of our individual characteristics—our health, our intelligence, our temperaments—are influenced by the conditions we encountered before birth?That’s the claim of an exciting and provocative field known as fetal origins. Over the past twenty years, scientists have been developing a radically new understanding of our very earliest experiences and how they exert lasting effects on us from infancy well into adulthood. Their research offers a bold new view of pregnancy as a crucial staging ground for our health, ability, and well-being throughout life.Author and journalist Annie Murphy Paul ventures into the laboratories of fetal researchers, interviews experts from around the world, and delves into the rich history of ideas about how we’re shaped before birth. She discovers dramatic stories: how individuals gestated during the Nazi siege of Holland in World War II are still feeling its consequences decades later; how pregnant women who experienced the 9/11 attacks passed their trauma on to their offspring in the womb; how a lab accident led to the discovery of a common household chemical that can harm the developing fetus; how the study of a century-old flu pandemic reveals the high personal and societal costs of poor prenatal experience. Origins also brings to light astonishing scientific findings: how a single exposure to an environmental toxin may produce damage that is passed on to multiple generations; how conditions as varied as diabetes, heart disease, and mental illness may get their start in utero; why the womb is medicine’s latest target for the promotion of lifelong health, from preventing cancer to reducing obesity. The fetus is not an inert being, but an active and dynamic creature, responding and adapting as it readies itself for life in the particular world it will enter. The pregnant woman is not merely a source of potential harm to her fetus, as she is so often reminded, but a source of influence on her future child that is far more powerful and positive than we ever knew. And pregnancy is not a nine-month wait for the big event of birth, but a momentous period unto itself, a cradle of individual strength and wellness and a crucible of public health and social equality. With the intimacy of a personal memoir and the sweep of a scientific revolution, Origins presents a stunning new vision of our beginnings that will change the way you think about yourself, your children, and human nature itself.

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.”
For over thirty-five years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.
Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.
What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

A groundbreaking guide to raising responsible, capable, happy kids
Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish.
This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years.
If you’re tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right “consequence,” look no further. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.

This book teaches frustrated, stressed-out parents that selectively ignoring certain behaviors can actually inspire positive changes in their kids.
With all the whining, complaining, begging, and negotiating, parenting can seem more like a chore than a pleasure. Dr. Catherine Pearlman, syndicated columnist and one of America’s leading parenting experts, has a simple yet revolutionary solution: Ignore It!
Dr. Pearlman’s four-step process returns the joy to child rearing. Combining highly effective strategies with time-tested approaches, she teaches parents when to selectively look the other way to withdraw reinforcement for undesirable behaviors. Too often we find ourselves bargaining, debating, arguing and pleading with kids. Instead of improved behavior parents are ensuring that the behavior will not only continue but often get worse. When children receive no attention or reward for misbehavior, they realize their ways of acting are ineffective and cease doing it. Using proven strategies supported by research, this book shows parents how to:
- Avoid engaging in a power struggle
- Stop using attention as a reward for misbehavior
- Use effective behavior modification techniques to diminish and often eliminate problem behaviors
Overflowing with wisdom, tips, scenarios, frequently asked questions, and a lot of encouragement, Ignore It! is the parenting program that promises to return bliss to the lives of exasperated parents.

“I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.… You’ll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library.”
—Dr. Kevin Leman, New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into Cooperation

Many parents suspect their strong-willed child is deliberately trying to drive them crazy. Difficult to discipline and seemingly impossible to motivate, these children present unique, exhausting, and often-frustrating challenges to the those who love them.
But strong will is not a negative trait. These same children have firm convictions, high spirits, a sense of adventure—all the makings of a great adult. In this book you’ll discover how to channel that passion and determination in positive ways as you build a healthy relationship. Through insights gained from strong-willed people of all ages, you’ll…
· better understand how their minds really work.
· discover positive ways to motivate your strong-willed child.
· learn how to share control without compromising parental authority.
· apply key tactics to survive a meltdown.
· get practical tips for parents who disagree, blended families, and single parents.
Packed with immediately useful strategies to drastically reduce the level of tension in the home (or in the classroom), You Can’t Make Me shows how you can start today to build a stronger, more positive relationship with your strong-willed child.
Includes…
· Top Ten Tips for Bringing Out the Best in a Strong-Willed Child of Any Age
· A Strong-Willed Child Emergency Kit

养育是不控制孩子、也不懈怠自己
广告出版圈传奇夫妇的育儿手记
实现孩子自主生活、自主学习、
自主阅读、自主情感的基本教养法则
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☆ 两位作者是广告出版界的知名人士，有着良好教育背景。他们在出版圈摸爬滚打几十年，还曾两度创 业，养育出了一对非常独立自主的孩子。他们亲手写就的育儿心经 想必能给很多爸爸妈妈带来思考。
☆ 二胎大时代来临，很多父母对于如何抚养两个子女焦虑万分，择校学区房压力重重，到底养育孩子的初衷是为什么，这本书里作者夫妇的做法让我们停下追逐的脚步，犹如当头棒喝，反思教子之道。
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跨界广告文化出版圈和电商行业的传奇夫妇如何独立养育两子？丰富厚重的人生历练下对于当下的育儿思想有哪些碰撞的火花？夫妻共同撰写的育儿心经，以家庭为单位，用爸爸和妈妈双方的完整视角再现了对于种种教育问题二胎夫妇的沟通和实践。二胎时代来临，育儿焦虑弥漫，且看这两位高学历高智商高情商“三高夫妇”如何笑对岁月磨砺，静心抚养稚子成材。
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徐智明、高志宏夫妇的这本育儿经验谈，是一本不可多得的教科书。和很多抽象理论不同，这是他们十几年为人父母的经验之谈，尤其是其家庭教育的理念不同凡响——让孩子自主！
——杨东平，21世纪教育研究院院长 北京理工大学教育学院教授
父母是孩子的第一老师，当你把尊重与平等传递给孩子，孩子也会把这些传递给身边的人，让社会更和谐，更有温度——这是我读我的师弟徐智明与其夫人合著《育儿基本》的感受。同时我还想说：对孩子讲的，同样可以讲给成年人，或许我们这些成年人缺的东西太多了。
——刘宇辉，北京市教育委员会主任
智明、志宏夫妇在创业和管理企业的同时养育两个阳光、自立的儿子，智明和志宏的从容，家庭和事业的良好平衡一直是朋友中的家庭典范，今天夫妇二人把育儿经验写成书分享给大家，使我们看到了他们完整的育儿方法论体系，这是一本以 “家常话”的方式写就的“理性与责任”之书，既是一本如何养育儿童的书，也是一本教育我们如何做父母的佳作，特别向饱受育儿困惑的中国父母们推荐！
——张守礼，21世纪教育研究院理事、奕阳教育董事长
没见过这么气人的。明明自己又做企业又做投资，居然还有时间带孩子。那就带吧？居然还写了一本育儿书。呜呼！天下爸爸总说忙，老婆孩子守空房。时间没有钱来替，总有工作肩上扛。其实仔细想想，有多少因为懒惫，又有多少因为恐惧？谢谢老徐，给爸爸届挣了口气。
——王凯，“凯叔讲故事”创办人
对于很多人来说，做饭从来不是一件难事儿，只要带着对家，对家人的爱起步儿，假以时日，必将出手不凡。一对儿能开公司，把孩子养育好的人，现在又在头条号“一家人吃饭”分享做饭心得了，北大高材生都加入写菜谱的行列了，这是不给我留活路的节奏，还让我给他们的新书《育儿基本》写推荐语，哼。
——文怡，美食畅销书作家
认识徐智明高志宏夫妇快二十年，发现他们是终身学习的典范。做学生就双双入了北大；开龙之媒书店就成就了一代名店；做广告专业出版就进化为品牌和营销高手......我作为徐府家宴的常客，耳闻目睹他们的育儿经十几年，觉得他们夫妇切中我们这代人对于教育的痛楚希冀。因为孩子，新生我们。
——薛野，西西弗书店创办人、埃尔特教育董事CEO