心理学与社交生活等
59 Seconds 豆瓣
作者: Richard Wiseman Pan 2010
《59秒》为你揭晓:
为什么偶尔让自己出个小丑,会使你变得更讨人喜欢?
为什么面试时先摆出弱点,就很有可能说服别人给你一份工作?
为什么在钱包里放婴儿的照片,钱包丢失后被送回来的几率高达35%?
为什么通过手臂的轻轻触碰就可以吸引异性?
为什么电子邮件可以明显降低你受骗的可能性?
为什么用牙齿咬住一支铅笔就能让你感觉更快乐?
为什么越表扬孩子越不努力,越禁止做的事情孩子越想做?
为什么只要想象一下健身房就能让自己保持身材?
Give and Take 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Adam M. Grant Ph.D. Viking Adult 2013 - 4
An innovative, groundbreaking book that will captivate readers of Malcolm Gladwell, Daniel Pink, The Power of Habit, and Quiet
For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But today, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others. It turns out that at work, most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Whereas takers strive to get as much as possible from others and matchers aim to trade evenly, givers are the rare breed of people who contribute to others without expecting anything in return.
Using his own pioneering research as Wharton's youngest tenured professor, Grant (author of Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World) shows that these styles have a surprising impact on success. Although some givers get exploited and burn out, the rest achieve extraordinary results across a wide range of industries. Combining cutting-edge evidence with captivating stories, this landmark book shows how one of America's best networkers developed his connections, why the creative genius behind one of the most popular shows in television history toiled for years in anonymity, how a basketball executive responsible for multiple draft busts transformed his franchise into a winner, and how we could have anticipated Enron's demise four years before the company collapsed-without ever looking at a single number.
Praised by bestselling authors such as Dan Pink, Tony Hsieh, Dan Ariely, Susan Cain, Dan Gilbert, Gretchen Rubin, Bob Sutton, David Allen, Robert Cialdini, and Seth Godin-as well as senior leaders from Google, McKinsey, Merck, Estee Lauder, Nike, and NASA-Give and Take highlights what effective networking, collaboration, influence, negotiation, and leadership skills have in common. This landmark book opens up an approach to success that has the power to transform not just individuals and groups, but entire organizations and communities.
The Lost Art of Gratitude 豆瓣
作者: McCall Smith, Alexander Little Brown 2010 - 8
Isabel Dalhousie, philosopher and amateur solver of other people's problems, meets an old foe, Minty Auchterlonie, at a birthday party attended by their young children. Ambitious Minty, now the head of a small investment bank, is in trouble with her shareholders. Isabel becomes involved, and is drawn into a murky world of financial concealment. Minty is not the only high-flier in Isabel's life; her niece Cat has just become engaged to a tightrope-walking stuntman. Isabel fears his next job - and the engagement - could end in disaster. Meanwhile, her own boyfriend Jamie has marriage in mind too ...
这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的 豆瓣
5.8 (11 个评分) 作者: 荞麦 中信出版社 2014 - 1
你久在边缘徘徊,久到被爱情遗忘
你失去了那么多,却浑然不觉
那就聊聊吧,
那些爱、孤独、逝去,以及追寻不回的时光,
就当一切还可以重新再来
十个故事,关于爱、孤独、逝去,以及追寻不回的时光。
夜晚流连便利店的失恋女人、戴面罩煮意大利面的不速之客 、在海底世界咀嚼 逝去爱情的男男女女……
这是一群不合时宜的人演绎的不合时宜的爱情故事,如同都市里每天都在上演的情感——
也许未曾开始便悄然落幕;也许原地踯躅、冷漠面对猝不及防的分离;也许到最后的最后,已不清楚忘掉的是伤痛,还是爱情本身。
这是荞麦写给所有徘徊在爱的边缘的人的故事,就像是失意时坐在身边的朋友
他不会送出拥抱,你却知道他一直都在。
编辑推荐
《这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的》是当红作家荞麦的最新力作,本书不但完整收录了豆瓣阅读两部超高人气作品《这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的》和《便利店》,增添了新的故事和64p个性插图,以漫画的视角重新诠释文字未尽之处。
《这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的》延续了荞麦一贯冷静的风格,用近乎冰冷的笔触书写,刻意不暴露其内心的温情,她写钢筋水泥下光怪陆离的情感,却温暖着无数爱情的边缘人。其中,人气作品《这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的》以其颇具争议性的名字引发网络热议,但在这个丧心病狂的题目下隐藏的是全书最温情的作品。
现在,你将要翻开的是《这个世界上的一切都是瘦子的》,这将是你绝不会后悔的完美邂逅。
你是在恋爱,还是在发神经 豆瓣
作者: 丛扬洋 2013 - 9
你是不是总在困惑:
我喜欢的他,到底喜不喜欢我?
如果我爱上的人与我想象中的人有差距怎么办?
我为什么一不小心就单身了这么久,甚至还要继续单下去?
我为什么无法喜欢上别人,或者为什么别人无法对我产生感情?
但凡世上男女,大多渴望爱情,但只要是情难免会伤。伤自 己,伤他人。你遇见一个人,你觉得他很好,于是你以为那是爱了,可其实瞬间产生的爱情往往多半带有迷恋的成分;你和一个人恋了,你觉得他必须满足你所有的需求,否则你就觉得他不够爱你;你和一个人分手了,你觉着自己再也 遇不见那么好的他了,你说自己再也不相信爱情了,等等,这些现象都是一种发神经现象。
而此书适合所有在感情里有困惑的人,无论你是爱之前,恋之时,分之后。它不同于市场上的两性情感书,它不是教你抓心论也不是教你斗小三;它不是俗气OUT的恋爱秘笈,也不是千篇一律的情感 宝典。它只是娓娓道来了我们情感中的各种发神经行为背后的潜意识,而后带你召回自己的爱,带你走上一段健康的情感之路。
内容简介:
恋爱中的我们不是神,却总有神一样的恋爱观:
01 把对方当作神:
期望对方能在你未开口之前,知道你需要是什么,并且主动满足你的需求。
02 把自己当作神:
期望对方完全满足你,永远把你放在最优 先,把你当作TA的最爱。
要求对方与自己有同样的思想,不允许对方有不同的 意见与看法。
恋爱观不正确,这不重要。
重要的是,你要明白,你这是在发神经。
发神经,这也不重要。
重要的是,你要明白,你是在发什么神经,为什么发。
名人推荐:
每个人,无论是恋之前,爱之时,分之后,都不可不知的两性心理学。
首度全面剖析男女情感中“发神经”现象背后的潜意识,岳晓东,林文采,张德芬联袂推荐。
这些现象你曾经有木有?
1.我喜欢的他,到底喜不喜欢我?
2.如果你爱我,怎么会舍得我难过?
3.我为你做了这么多,你为我做了什么?
4.他对我没那么好了,他是不是不爱我了?
5.我这么努力地爱你,你怎么就不能努力地爱我?
6.我再也不会这么爱一个人了,再也不会有人像他这么爱我了。
7.如果你爱我,你就该接纳我原来的样子,而不是把我变成你理想中的样子。
8.我已经是你女朋友了,你干嘛还和你的EX保持联系,干嘛不主动删除她的号码,她的QQ?
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魔鬼搭讪学 豆瓣
6.7 (14 个评分) 作者: 魔鬼咨询师 长江文艺出版社 2010 - 7
常年游荡在大街的魔鬼咨询师,每个星期都是搭讪+约会,直到成立魔鬼搭讪班,每周的工作也便成了搭讪+约会+教人搭讪。通过总结亲身实践和教人搭讪的经历,终成此书。
瞬间来电 豆瓣
作者: 郑匡宇(搭讪教主) 2013 - 11
因为一场误会,搭讪教主教自己表弟误抢了好友米奇的女友,害米奇陷入长达数年没有异性缘的日子。为了赎罪,搭讪教主率领情场的四大高手,向米奇对症下药,还带他远赴美国拜师,传授与异性瞬间来电的秘诀……
这是一本轻松有趣的猎爱记事本,也是一本一针见血的恋爱诊断。从搭讪、约会到结婚,5种恋爱技能,4种言传身教,52个生活细节,教你与陌生心仪之人一见钟情、两情相悦。
在这个失爱的时代,你或许被爱伤过,或许正在为爱迷茫。台湾搭讪教主给你原因,给你答案,给你力量,给你信心,让你轻松获得优质爱情。
把妹达人 豆瓣
The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
作者: 尼尔•施特劳斯 中国三峡出版社 2009 - 1
《把妹达人—那些坏小子教我的事(横扫全球畅销书榜,被誉为本年度最有看头的一本书!)》◎横扫全球畅销书榜,被誉为本年度最有看头的一本书!
◎美国亚马逊书店、《纽约时报》畅销榜Top1,实拍的真人秀电视节目在北美疯狂上演!!
◎这些经历都是真的!作者闯荡把妹界两年,由宅男成功变为把妹达人!港、澳、台数百万男人争相效仿!!
形形色色的女人行走于都市之中,毫无疑问,你渴望追逐并且猎捕!
那么,起身吧。(跟我来吧!)
你是否一见到靓妹就脸红心跳?是否因不知如何与美眉相处而光棍一条?
你是否自认为很拽,却仍得不到MM的芳心?
只要方法用对,没有把不到的妹!!!
莫忘爱的初衷 豆瓣
吴若权
作者: 吴若权 2013 - 11
无论相爱了多久,恋人的互动就像剪刀、石头、布!信任与猜疑、镇定与诱惑,并非互为挑战,而是证明伴侣的连接可以坚强到什么程度。在感情的世界里,相爱的两个人,都是磁场很强的个体,在彼此吸引的特质之中,也存在着相斥的现象。
关于幸福的相处之道,我们往往知道的理论太多,实际做到的体贴却太少;或者,认为自己付出的心力太多,对方回应的感情太少。
莫忘爱的初衷,让彼此的关系回到相处的原点,幸福,就会回到身边。
人生以快乐为目的 豆瓣
作者: 吴淡如 百家出版社 2006 - 9
任何你觉得让自己生命有意义的事,终究是快乐的。
也只有那些带给你精神上快乐的事情,才能经历时间考验,成为人生中不可或缺的部分,让你明白,如此长长久久的付出,毕竟值得。
而对于爱,我至今仍然相信:因为你快乐,所以我快乐,才是没有蒙受人工尘埃污染的爱。不管是亲情,还是爱情,总还是要以互惠为原则,互给恩惠,互相体谅,才能快乐。
The Tipping Point 豆瓣 Goodreads
8.0 (10 个评分) 作者: [加拿大] 马尔科姆·格拉德威尔 Back Bay Book 2002 - 1
"The best way to understand the dramatic transformation of unknown books into bestsellers, or the rise of teenage smoking, or the phenomena of word of mouth or any number of the other mysterious changes that mark everyday life," writes Malcolm Gladwell, "is to think of them as epidemics. Ideas and products and messages and behaviors spread just like viruses do." Although anyone familiar with the theory of memetics will recognize this concept, Gladwell's The Tipping Point has quite a few interesting twists on the subject.
For example, Paul Revere was able to galvanize the forces of resistance so effectively in part because he was what Gladwell calls a "Connector": he knew just about everybody, particularly the revolutionary leaders in each of the towns that he rode through. But Revere "wasn't just the man with the biggest Rolodex in colonial Boston," he was also a "Maven" who gathered extensive information about the British. He knew what was going on and he knew exactly whom to tell. The phenomenon continues to this day--think of how often you've received information in an e-mail message that had been forwarded at least half a dozen times before reaching you.
Gladwell develops these and other concepts (such as the "stickiness" of ideas or the effect of population size on information dispersal) through simple, clear explanations and entertainingly illustrative anecdotes, such as comparing the pedagogical methods of Sesame Street and Blue's Clues, or explaining why it would be even easier to play Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon with the actor Rod Steiger. Although some readers may find the transitional passages between chapters hold their hands a little too tightly, and Gladwell's closing invocation of the possibilities of social engineering sketchy, even chilling, The Tipping Point is one of the most effective books on science for a general audience in ages. It seems inevitable that "tipping point," like "future shock" or "chaos theory," will soon become one of those ideas that everybody knows--or at least knows by name. --Ron Hogan, Amazon.com
Outliers 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.9 (28 个评分) 作者: Malcolm Gladwell Little, Brown and Company 2008 - 11
In this wide-ranging third installment of Malcolm Gladwell's exploration of how people and social phenomena work, the New Yorker journalist takes a close look at what constitutes high levels of success. That is, what makes people at the top of their respective fields get there? As we've come to expect from Gladwell's previous books, the answer to the question is a bit complicated.
He says that upbringing, culture and even random luck have something to with success, but there is another important quality that anyone can control. Two chapters are dedicated to the "revelation" that IQ is only a baseline quality and success has little to nothing to do with having a high IQ or a low IQ. Rather, success is substantially a product of cultivating a high degree of what Robert Sternberg calls "practical intelligence" or what most refer to as "emotional intelligence."
Gladwell uses the example of Nobel laureates coming from unknown schools as often as ivy league schools. At this level of mastery IQ is no longer a factor. Success has little to do with where you were educated and everything to do with your level of practical/emotional intelligence and willingness to put in the 10,000 hours of practice required to reach mastery of your field.
All in all, it's an interesting read that isn't too heady and goes by pretty quickly, as the interesting anecdotes are what you would expect from Gladwell.
Blink 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.3 (9 个评分) 作者: Malcolm Gladwell Little, Brown and Company 2005 - 1
Blink is about the first two seconds of looking--the decisive glance that knows in an instant. Gladwell, the best-selling author of The Tipping Point, campaigns for snap judgments and mind reading with a gift for translating research into splendid storytelling. Building his case with scenes from a marriage, heart attack triage, speed dating, choking on the golf course, selling cars, and military maneuvers, he persuades readers to think small and focus on the meaning of ”thin slices” of behavior. The key is to rely on our ”adaptive unconscious”--a 24/7 mental valet--that provides us with instant and sophisticated information to warn of danger, read a stranger, or react to a new idea.

Gladwell includes caveats about leaping to conclusions: marketers can manipulate our first impressions, high arousal moments make us ”mind blind,” focusing on the wrong cue leaves us vulnerable to ”the Warren Harding Effect” (i.e., voting for a handsome but hapless president). In a provocative chapter that exposes the ”dark side of blink,” he illuminates the failure of rapid cognition in the tragic stakeout and murder of Amadou Diallo in the Bronx. He underlines studies about autism, facial reading and cardio uptick to urge training that enhances high-stakes decision-making. In this brilliant, cage-rattling book, one can only wish for a thicker slice of Gladwell's ideas about what Blink Camp might look like. --Barbara Mackoff
Be Fearless 豆瓣
作者: Jean Case Simon & Schuster 2019 - 1
Philanthropist, investor, and technology pioneer Jean Case brings to life the five Be Fearless principles common to the people and organizations that change the world.
This book is a call to action for those seeking to live extraordinary lives and bring about transformational change.
When National Geographic Chairman Jean Case set out to investigate the core qualities of great change makers, past and present, from inventors to revolutionaries, she found five surprising traits all had in common. They weren’t wealth, privilege, or even genius. It was that all of these exceptional men and women chose to make a “big bet,” take bold risks, learn from their failures, reach beyond their bubbles, and let urgency conquer fear.
Throughout Be Fearless, Jean vividly illustrates these principles through storytelling—from her own transformational life experiences, to Jane Goodall’s remarkable breakthroughs in understanding and protecting chimpanzees, to celebrity chef José Andrés’ decision to be a “first responder” and take his kitchen to the sites of devastating hurricanes to feed the hungry, to Bryan Stevenson’s ambitious efforts to end incarceration inequities, and more. She shares new insights to stories you might think you know—like AirBnB’s tale of starting from scratch to transform the hospitality industry, to John F. Kennedy’s history-making moonshot—and gems from changemakers you’ve never heard of.
Weaving together storytelling, practical tips and inspiration, Be Fearless will teach you how to put the five fearless principles to work so that they too can spark the sorts of remarkable breakthroughs that change the world.
用男人的思维跟男人谈恋爱 豆瓣
6.0 (8 个评分) 作者: 乖爷到 中国华侨出版社 2013 - 4
这是一本女孩恋爱工具书,是一个姑娘在爱情战场上身经百战后的个人心得,其中有她自己经历的影子,更多的来源于多数姑娘谈恋爱时身上共性的反应。
男人,很好玩,他们是女人一辈子的玩伴。在跟他们游戏的过程里,有时你小胜一筹,有时他们将你一军,彼此竞相追逐,但最终那个不再与你追来逐去,只愿意静静的与你拉着手漫步海滩的人才是你的相濡以沫,而之前的所有都是过客。他们提高了你的情商,让你有更平和正确的心态去经营最长久的爱情。
这本书犀利活泼,一句话能让人记住、回味,并迅速地改善爱情状态。
习惯的力量 豆瓣
The Power of Habit
7.6 (50 个评分) 作者: [美] 查尔斯·杜希格 译者: 吴奕俊 / 曹烨 中信出版社 2013 - 3
如果你能发现自己的“习惯模式”,你就能彻底改变自己的事业和生活!
★ 人生不过是无数习惯的总和。
你早上起来做的第一件事是什么?你是先洗脸还是先刷牙?你走哪条路上班?你到办公室时,是先看邮件,还是和同事聊天,又或者直接写备忘录?去餐厅第一个会点什么菜?多久运动一次?你经常和家人和孩子聊什么?晚上你如何入睡?
我们每天做的大部分选择可能会让人觉得是深思熟虑决策的结果,其实并非如此。人每天的活动中,有超过40%是习惯的产物,而不是自己主动的决定。虽然每个习惯的影响相对来说比较小,但是随着时间的推移,这些习惯综合起来却对我们的健康、效率、个人经济安全以及幸福有着巨大的影响。
★ 习惯是怎么回事?习惯究竟能不能改?
习惯是我们刻意或深思后而做出的选择,即使过了一段时间不再思考却仍继续、往往每天都在做的行为。这是我们神经系统的自然反应。习惯成形后,我们的大脑进入省力模式,不再全心全意地参与决策过程,所以除非你刻意对抗某个习惯,或是意识到其它新习惯的存在,否则该行为模式会自然而然地启动。你想改变习惯,先要了解你属于你自己的“习惯回路”
习惯回路由暗示、惯常行为和奖赏三部分组成。
★ 怎样利用“习惯的力量”改变事业和生活?
《习惯的力量》融汇各行业数十个生动的案例,告诉我们:习惯不能被消除,只能被替代。只要掌握“习惯回路”,学习观察生活中的暗示与奖赏,找到能获得成就感的正确的惯常行为,无论个人、企业和社会群体都能改变根深蒂固的习惯。学会利用“习惯的力量”,就能让人生与事业脱胎换骨。
怎样戒掉一个坏习惯?
怎样建立一个好习惯?
怎样识别自己的习惯?
怎样利用习惯的力量改变自己和他人?
……
★《习惯的力量》是一本具有开创性的著作!它将让你重新审视自己的习惯。2012年在美国出版,随即成为一本疯行全球的“习惯改造指南”。它融合了目前最顶级的神经学家、心理学家、社会学家、顶尖企业家和优秀市场营销人员关于习惯的最新认知,同时综合了国际一流企业:宝洁、谷歌、微软,世界顶尖大学:哈佛、耶鲁、剑桥和MIT关于“习惯的力量”的最新研究结果!你想知道的所有关于“改变习惯的秘密”,都将在这本书中找到答案。本书也成为了最受500强企业员工欢迎、提振人心、认知自我的最实用读本!
★《习惯的力量》作者查尔斯•都希格获得了美国2013年普利策新闻奖。本书入选FT/高盛2012年度商业图书!荣获2012年亚马逊网站编辑推选的十大畅销书之一!曾高居2012年《纽约时报》畅销书排行榜第二名!国内知名企业家新东方执行总裁陈向东、身心灵作家张德芬、著名主持人蔡康永都强烈推荐阅读本书!
《纽约时报》赞本书“精彩绝伦”,《华尔街日报》称“连陷入危机的人都可以用这本书的知识改变自己的命运。”《经济学人》说 “本书将告诉你洞悉顾客的习惯对于市场营销至关重要。”《三联生活周刊》评论 “习惯养成容易消除难,不过一旦你明白了习惯可以改变的原理,你就有了改变它们的自由以及责任。”
★找到自己的习惯模式,学会利用习惯的力量,
一个人可以:强化意志力、成功减肥、聪明理财、高效工作……
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一个社会可以:改良观念和风气、提升公民幸福感……
勇气之书 豆瓣
作者: 凱西•陳 圓神 2005 - 5
1、全新風格!台灣繪本教主凱西十週年整裝再出發!全新人物--小勇&米小鼠初登場!全新型態勇氣創作,加上凱西式幽默對話,就是要你灰色憂鬱靠邊站,彩色開朗跳出來!
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3、禮物書!紅色POWER精裝版,送給你最重要的人,讓他跟你一起好元氣!
Naked Dating 豆瓣
作者: Cohen, Harlan 2012 - 4
Dear Harlan, How do I find a date? How do I find love? How do I find happiness? Harlan Cohen, author of the bestselling "The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into In College" shares a 5 steps approach to finding the love of your life and answers the most commonly asked questions in his syndicated advice column, on his college tours, on his website, and in his newest book for Gen Y. He helped a generation make the most of college life, now he'll help them find the love of their lives.
心态的能量 豆瓣
作者: 中原 2010 - 10
《心态的能量》内容简介:圆满和烦恼,成功与失败,就在一念之间。如果你耗费大量时间和精力,却还被负面心态所困扰,那么《心态的能量》就是帮你解决问题的最佳选择!运用权威心态教练中原老师的10种方法,调整内在的心智模式,激发正面心态的巨大能量,就能让你——
3分钟领会
成功与失败,就在一念之间。突破虚假的“舒适区”,转念间开始改写你的人生!
10分钟灵验
使用《心态的能量》中任意一种方法,10分钟就能体验激发心态能量的神奇效果!
8小时受益
打开《心态的能量》,开始一天的8小时工作,你会发现充满惊喜和愉悦的一天!
一辈子圆满
只要掌握《心态的能量》中的修炼秘诀,你就能成就非凡、富足的一生,成为世界上最幸福的人!