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Never Let Me Go 豆瓣
8.0 (13 个评分) 作者: Kazuo Ishiguro Vintage Books 2010 - 8
From the Booker Prize-winning author of The Remains of the Day and When We Were Orphans, comes an unforgettable edge-of-your-seat mystery that is at once heartbreakingly tender and morally courageous about what it means to be human.
Hailsham seems like a pleasant English boarding school, far from the influences of the city. Its students are well tended and supported, trained in art and literature, and become just the sort of people the world wants them to be. But, curiously, they are taught nothing of the outside world and are allowed little contact with it.
Within the grounds of Hailsham, Kathy grows from schoolgirl to young woman, but it’s only when she and her friends Ruth and Tommy leave the safe grounds of the school (as they always knew they would) that they realize the full truth of what Hailsham is.
Never Let Me Go breaks through the boundaries of the literary novel. It is a gripping mystery, a beautiful love story, and also a scathing critique of human arrogance and a moral examination of how we treat the vulnerable and different in our society. In exploring the themes of memory and the impact of the past, Ishiguro takes on the idea of a possible future to create his most moving and powerful book to date.
2021年6月5日 想读
Bitter in the Mouth 豆瓣
作者: Monique Truong Random House 2010 - 8
From Monique Truong, the bestselling and award-winning author of The Book of Salt , comes a brilliant, mesmerizing, beautifully written novel about a young woman’s search for identity and family, as she uncovers the secrets of her past and of history.
Growing up in the small town of Boiling Springs, North Carolina, in the 70’s and 80’s, Linda believes that she is profoundly different from everyone else, including the members of her own family. “What I know about you, little girl, would break you in two” are the cruel, mysterious last words that Linda’s grandmother ever says to her.
Now in her thirties, Linda looks back at her past when she navigated her way through life with the help of her great-uncle Harper, who loves her and loves to dance, and her best friend Kelly, with whom Linda exchanges almost daily letters. The truth about my family was that we disappointed one another. When I heard the word “disappoint,” I tasted toast, slightly burnt.
For as long as she can remember, Linda has experienced a secret sense—she can “taste” words, which have the power to disrupt, dismay, or delight. She falls for names and what they evoke: Canned peaches. Dill. Orange sherbet. Parsnip (to her great regret). But with crushes comes awareness. As with all bodies, Linda’s is a mystery to her, in this and in other ways. Even as Linda makes her way north to Yale and New York City, she still does not know the truth about her past.
Then, when a personal tragedy compels Linda to return to Boiling Springs, she gets to know a mother she never knew and uncovers a startling story of a life, a family. Revelation is when God tells us the truth. Confession is when we tell it to him.
This astonishing novel questions many assumptions—about what it means to be a family and to be a friend, to be foreign and to be familiar, to be connected and to be disconnected—from others and from the past, our bodies, our histories, and ourselves.
2021年6月5日 想读
On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous Goodreads Goodreads Goodreads 豆瓣
On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous
7.5 (22 个评分) 作者: Ocean Vuong Penguin Press 2019 - 6
On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is a letter from a son to a mother who cannot read. Written when the speaker, Little Dog, is in his late twenties, the letter unearths a family’s history that began before he was born — a history whose epicenter is rooted in Vietnam — and serves as a doorway into parts of his life his mother has never known, all of it leading to an unforgettable revelation. At once a witness to the fraught yet undeniable love between a single mother and her son, it is also a brutally honest exploration of race, class, and masculinity. Asking questions central to our American moment, immersed as we are in addiction, violence, and trauma, but undergirded by compassion and tenderness, On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is as much about the power of telling one’s own story as it is about the obliterating silence of not being heard.
2021年6月5日 想读
给青年的十二封信 豆瓣
朱光潜
8.0 (10 个评分) 作者: 朱光潜 漓江出版社 2011 - 8
本书是朱光潜先生旅欧期间写给国内青年朋友的十二封信,信中所说多为青年们所关心和应该关心的事项,如读书、修身、作文、社会运动、爱恋、哲理,凡此种种。自朱光潜先生笔下汩汩流淌的,是如长者劝导似的语重心长,如老友交谈般的诚恳真挚,读来亲切自然,受益颇多。
2021年6月4日 想读
Attached 豆瓣
8.3 (9 个评分) 作者: Amir Levine / Rachel Heller TarcherPerigee 2012 - 1
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
2021年6月4日 想读
字母表谜案 豆瓣 Goodreads
アルファベット・パズラーズ
7.3 (217 个评分) 作者: 大山诚一郎 译者: 曹逸冰 河南文艺出版社 2021 - 5
☠当你隐隐觉得不对劲,致命的恶意正悄悄逼近!
◮4个连接死亡的字母×4桩无人能解的谜案
◮《诡计博物馆》作者、短篇推理之神大山诚一郎封神出道之作!
◮令推理大师绫辻行人、阿津川辰海拍案叫绝,烧脑度99.99%!
◮登榜“本格推理BEST10”“这本推理小说了不起!”
◮快节奏、零废话、神反转。翻开《字母表谜案》,发现日常背后的致命恶意!
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【名家评论】
◮大山诚一郎的作品就是诡谲又精致的密室乐曲。——麻耶雄嵩(推理小说作家)
◮《字母表谜案》让我从此一直追随大山老师,这本书对我的影响无可衡量。——阿津川辰海(推理小说作家)
◮《字母表谜案》精妙绝伦,我一口气读完后,又读了一遍!——小岛秀夫(殿堂级游戏设计师)
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【剧情介绍】
一座神秘的公寓,不定期举行推理合战。红茶、曲奇,搭配寒意逼人的谜案,与案件相关的字母似乎是重要线索。一群特殊的房客,联手组成侦探团,秘密追踪警视厅也难以锁定的幕后真凶。
有被毒妄想的贵妇人,竟应验般惨遭毒杀?
午夜零点神秘来电后,美术馆密室惊现死尸。
豪华游轮杀人现场,诡异的死亡留言无人能解。
绑架案中遇害幼童父亲的手记,字里行间令人细思极恐……
越细微的异常,越接近真相,也越令人不寒而栗!
【内文摘选】
☠死亡最残酷的意义并非肉体的毁灭,而是所有念想的消亡。
☠真凶潜伏于茫茫人海中,就好像沙滩上的一粒沙。寻找真凶,就如同寻找沙滩上的那一粒沙。
☠再伟大的侦探,有时候也得靠华生的错误推理才能看破真相。
☠一如天色忽暗的春日,命运也会在人生的道路上突然罩下黑影。
2021年5月31日 想读
Digital Minimalism 豆瓣
7.6 (20 个评分) 作者: Cal Newport Portfolio 2019 - 2
Minimalism is the art of knowing how much is just enough. Digital minimalism applies this idea to our personal technology. It's the key to living a focused life in an increasingly noisy world.
In this timely and enlightening book, the bestselling author of Deep Work introduces a philosophy for technology use that has already improved countless lives.
Digital minimalists are all around us. They're the calm, happy people who can hold long conversations without furtive glances at their phones. They can get lost in a good book, a woodworking project, or a leisurely morning run. They can have fun with friends and family without the obsessive urge to document the experience. They stay informed about the news of the day, but don't feel overwhelmed by it. They don't experience "fear of missing out" because they already know which activities provide them meaning and satisfaction.
Now, Newport gives us a name for this quiet movement, and makes a persuasive case for its urgency in our tech-saturated world. Common sense tips, like turning off notifications, or occasional rituals like observing a digital sabbath, don't go far enough in helping us take back control of our technological lives, and attempts to unplug completely are complicated by the demands of family, friends and work. What we need instead is a thoughtful method to decide what tools to use, for what purposes, and under what conditions.
Drawing on a diverse array of real-life examples, from Amish farmers to harried parents to Silicon Valley programmers, Newport identifies the common practices of digital minimalists and the ideas that underpin them. He shows how digital minimalists are rethinking their relationship to social media, rediscovering the pleasures of the offline world, and reconnecting with their inner selves through regular periods of solitude. He then shares strategies for integrating these practices into your life, starting with a thirty-day "digital declutter" process that has already helped thousands feel less overwhelmed and more in control.
Technology is intrinsically neither good nor bad. The key is using it to support your goals and values, rather than letting it use you. This book shows the way.
2021年4月22日 想读
Mastery 豆瓣 Goodreads
Mastery
作者: Robert Greene Viking Adult 2012 - 11
Each one of us has within us the potential to be a Master. Learn the secrets of the field you have chosen, submit to a rigorous apprenticeship, absorb the hidden knowledge possessed by those with years of experience, surge past competitors to surpass them in brilliance, and explode established patterns from within. Study the behaviors of Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Leonardo da Vinci and the nine contemporary Masters interviewed for this book.
The bestseller author of The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, and The 33 Strategies of War, Robert Greene has spent a liftime studying the laws of power. Now, he shares the secret path to greatness. With this seminal text as a guide, readers will learn how to unlock the passion within and become masters.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
2021年4月21日 想读
Designing Your Work Life 豆瓣
作者: Bill Burnett / Dave Evans Random House, 2020
'Life has questions. They have answers' New York Times
We will spend up to 120,000 hours at work in our lifetimes.
But how best to use those hours is one of our most challenging questions.
We all want to find meaning at work, but our managers can't get it for us. And as companies work to be more nimble and shift according to changing markets, the workplace is increasingly unpredictable. It's up to each of us to define and find our own happiness in this ever-moving landscape, which is rich with opportunity and possibility.
Designing Your Work Life helps you understand the politics and psychology of work and equips you with the 'design thinking' principles - the innovative methodology pioneered at Stanford that has been fuelling the growth of Silicon Valley - to build a working life that works for you. Designers don't analyse, worry, think, complain their way forward; they build their way forward.
Perfect for anyone hoping to improve their current job, aiming for a promotion or even switching career paths, as well as recent graduates thinking about their future, Designing Your Work Life is a deeply empowering read. Part business book, part inspirational and innovative self-help, this book will help you answer one of life's most challenging questions.
2021年4月20日 想读
奇特的一生 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.9 (70 个评分) 作者: [俄] 格拉宁 译者: 侯焕闳 / 唐其慈 海燕出版社 2001 - 3
人最宝贵的是生命。但是仔细分析一下这个生命,可以说,最宝贵的是时间。因为生命是由时间构成的,是一小时一小时、一分钟一分钟累积起来的。没人能预计他在下一分钟里能发生什么,但至少我们可以记得前一分钟我们做过什么。
这里是要讲述一个将自己的一生用时间来计划的人——柳比歇夫。柳比歇夫通过他的时间统计法对自己进行了研究和试验:试验在写、读、听、工作、思索各方面,他到底能干多少?干多少?怎么干?他不让自己负担过重,力不胜任;他总是循着他能力的边缘前进,他对自己能力的掂量精确无疑。
如果每个人都能知道自己能干些什么,那生活会变得多么美好!因为每个人的能力都比他自己感觉到的大得多,也就不会有那么多的人感叹自己因能力有限而导致一事无成。
2021年4月20日 想读
Show Your Work! 豆瓣 谷歌图书 Goodreads
8.2 (25 个评分) 作者: Austin Kleon Workman Publishing Company 2014 - 3
Show Your Work! is about why generosity trumps genius. It’s about getting findable, about using the network instead of wasting time “networking.” It’s not self-promotion, it’s self-discovery—let others into your process, then let them steal from you. Filled with illustrations, quotes, stories, and examples, Show Your Work! offers ten transformative rules for being open, generous, brave, productive.
2021年4月20日 想读
追忆似水年华 豆瓣
A LA RECHERCHE DU TEMPS PERDU
9.6 (47 个评分) 作者: [法] 马塞尔·普鲁斯特 译者: 李恒基 / 徐继曾 译林出版社 2012 - 6
普鲁斯特的《追忆似水年华》以回忆的形式对往事作了回顾,有童年的回忆、家庭生活、初恋与失恋、历史事件的观察、以及对艺术的见解和对时空的认识等等。时间是这部小说的主人公。作者凭着智慧和想象力,使时间变得具体、生动、完美。它就像一首由多种主题构成的交响乐,爱情、嫉妒、死亡、回忆、时光,时而交叉重叠在一起,时而又游离开来,然而在宏观上,整个作品浑然一体,具有蓬勃的生命力。《追忆似水年华》被公认为文学创作的一次新的尝试,开意识流小说之先河。
2021年4月18日 想读
我是个年轻人 我心情不太好 豆瓣
Naive. Super
7.4 (96 个评分) 作者: (挪威)阿澜·卢 译者: 宁蒙 浙江文艺出版社 2013 - 1
◆北欧头号畅销小说,挪威版《麦田守望者》
◆被无数读者津津乐道20年,风靡全球35国
◆出版后被天天向上,十点读书,新世相等媒体争相推荐,“丧”文学风靡全国。
◆恰到好处的天真,毫不做作的幽默,诗意迷漫的人生哲学
◆《一个人的朝圣》《一个叫欧维的男人决定去死》制作团队倾力奉献。二十周年修订全新译文,超人气插画师卤猫绘制新封面。特种纸双封精装,精美异常。
内容简介:
我25岁,读着一个硕士,我被时间、空间、意义这些事情烦扰着。
我知道的东西多得难以置信,
我知道名字,年份。数以百计。
我知道谁第一个上的珠穆朗玛峰,
我知道谁导演了那些美国最蹩脚的肥皂剧,
我知道当空气遇到机翼时,会在机翼上表面形成低气压,就是这玩意儿让飞机飞了起来。
我知道亚里士多德讲的话是啥意思。
我知道时间在太阳上会走得慢一点,
我知道的实在太多了。
我拿他们干吗呢?
我当然可以去参加“杰帕迪只是竞赛”,奖品是希腊游。
双人的。但是我没有女朋友。我只能一个人去。
但是我去希腊干什么呢?没有理由相信我在那儿会更开心。
要是我能有一种非常靠谱的感觉,觉得一切都会好起来,那该多好。
2021年3月29日 想读
孤独六讲 豆瓣
7.3 (245 个评分) 作者: 蒋勋 广西师范大学出版社 2009 - 10
美学大师蒋勋以美学家特有的思维和情感切入孤独,从情欲、语言、革命、思维、伦理、暴力六个面向阐释孤独美学,融个人记忆、美学追问、文化反思、社会批判于一体。可以说,蒋勋在本书中,创造了孤独美学:美学的本质或许就是孤独。
自序
情欲孤独
语言孤独
革命孤独
暴力孤独
思维孤独
伦理孤独
2021年3月29日 想读
沉思录 豆瓣
Meditations
7.8 (71 个评分) 作者: 马可·奥勒留 译者: 何怀宏 中央编译出版社 2008 - 2
《沉思录》是古罗马皇帝奥勒留写给自己的书,内容大部分是他在鞍马劳顿中写成的。作品来自奥勒留对身羁宫廷的自己和自己所处混乱世界的感受,追求一种冷静而达观的生活。这部著作是斯多葛学派的一个里程碑。
2021年3月13日 想读
The Power of Now 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Eckhart Tolle New World Library 2004 - 8
Eckhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. And while this message may not seem stunningly original or fresh, Tolle's clear writing, supportive voice and enthusiasm make this an excellent manual for anyone who's ever wondered what exactly "living in the now" means. Foremost, Tolle is a world-class teacher, able to explain complicated concepts in concrete language. More importantly, within a chapter of reading this book, readers are already holding the world in a different container--more conscious of how thoughts and emotions get in the way of their ability to live in genuine peace and happiness.
Tolle packs a lot of information and inspirational ideas into The Power of Now. (Topics include the source of Chi, enlightened relationships, creative use of the mind, impermanence and the cycle of life.) Thankfully, he's added markers that symbolise "break time". This is when readers should close the book and mull over what they just read. As a result, The Power of Now reads like the highly acclaimed A Course in Miracles--a spiritual guidebook that has the potential to inspire just as many study groups and change just as many lives for the better. --Gail Hudson
2021年3月5日 想读
一个瑜伽行者的自传 豆瓣
Autobiography of a Yogi (Complete edition)
作者: [美] 帕拉宏撒•尤迦南达 译者: 王博 新世界出版社·阳光博客 2012 - 2
《一个瑜伽行者的自传(乔布斯天天在看的书)》为克利亚瑜伽大师尤迦南达修习克利亚瑜伽的经过及其对瑜伽思想的感悟,首次于1946年出版。在《一个瑜伽行者的自传(乔布斯天天在看的书)》当中,作者以幽默轻松的笔调,一连串生动有趣真实的生活故事,讲述了自己从出生到前往西方国家传播 克利亚瑜伽的经历,写出了文学史上罕见的一位开悟圣人生平的体验及内在的感情世界。
该书与市场上的其它版本有两点区别:一是唯一经过尤迦南达基金会授权的译本,而是为60周年全文译本,共30万字的完整版本,并由尤迦南达基金会审校和修订。
2021年2月27日 想读
The Burnout Society 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Byung-Chul Han Stanford Briefs 2015 - 8
Our competitive, service-oriented societies are taking a toll on the late-modern individual. Rather than improving life, multitasking, "user-friendly" technology, and the culture of convenience are producing disorders that range from depression to attention deficit disorder to borderline personality disorder. Byung-Chul Han interprets the spreading malaise as an inability to manage negative experiences in an age characterized by excessive positivity and the universal availability of people and goods. Stress and exhaustion are not just personal experiences, but social and historical phenomena as well. Denouncing a world in which every against-the-grain response can lead to further disempowerment, he draws on literature, philosophy, and the social and natural sciences to explore the stakes of sacrificing intermittent intellectual reflection for constant neural connection.
2021年2月27日 想读
DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Marsha M. Linehan The Guilford Press 2014 - 10 其它标题: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets
“DBT skills are useful not only for individuals who suffer from persistent emotion regulation difficulties, but also for individuals in extreme circumstances and people who have ordinary problems. This updated manual provides the ‘flexibility within fidelity’ in teaching these skills that practitioners and treatment adopters need. New, improved, expanded, and much clearer skills--they’re all here! Skills trainers and their clients will benefit from Linehan and her colleagues’ decades of systematic research and time spent developing, testing, and refining these skills, empowering practitioners to confidently offer multiple ways of understanding and practicing new behavior. Experienced skills trainers will notice the evolved richness and depth, while the explanations and teaching points will provide new trainers and students with an excellent foundation for skills training with both adults and adolescents. Providing a solid evidence-based foundation for core clinical training curricula, the manual and accompanying volume of handouts and worksheets will be essential across the mental health disciplines."--André Ivanoff, PhD, Columbia University School of Social Work
"Linehan's pioneering work has guided many--myself included--to incorporate mindfulness into compassionate clinical care in a structured format. The second edition of Linehan's DBT skills training manual and the companion volume of handouts and worksheets reflect two additional decades of wisdom and innovation, further bolstering these indispensable resources."--Zindel V. Segal, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology in Mood Disorders, University of Toronto-Scarborough, Canada
"Skills such as mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance are invaluable for those working to overcome complex problems. DBT offers an especially effective way to learn these skills. I highly recommend this book of worksheets and handouts and the companion manual for therapists."--Judith S. Beck, PhD, President, Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy
“Along with Marsha Linehan’s customary and distinctive authority, zeal, and wisdom, her new editions offer more detail and specificity, and new clinical pearls. Even those who are already familiar with DBT will be impressed by the evidence of its maturation and expansion, while for those who are wanting to learn DBT, these books offer the organization, clarity, and readability that will make learning a pleasure.”--John Gunderson, MD, Director, Center for the Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, McLean Hospital, Harvard Medical School
"DBT is a proven evidence-based treatment that combines the best of our science with the knowledge and compassion of Marsha Linehan--an exceptional researcher and clinician whose innovative work has advanced the field and shifted many individuals from lives of suffering to lives of hope. These outstanding second editions offer guidance on how to implement DBT skills training, while providing the tools needed to deliver this state-of-the-art treatment. They will stand as the authoritative guides for teaching DBT skills, partnering with clients to build lives worth living, and helping us to address our national and international priorities of saving millions of lives lost to suicide worldwide. These 'must-have' books belong on the shelves of every clinician and will be valuable course texts."--Joan Rosenbaum Asarnow, PhD, Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, University of California, Los Angeles
"Since its introduction to the literature over two decades ago, Marsha M. Linehan's skills training manual has revolutionized the treatment of individuals with borderline personality disorder, and also the practice of psychotherapy in general. Now in a second edition, the manual and accompanying volume of handouts and worksheets provides clinicians, educators, students, and patients with a resource that can guide even novice clinicians to become more effective and knowledgeable in treating our field’s most challenging cases. Of interest to the psychoanalytically informed reader, the second edition has elaborated DBT’s attention to interpersonal concerns, with robust consideration of interpersonal dynamics replacing the approach to enhancing effectiveness presented in the prior edition."--Lois W. Choi-Kain, MD, MEd, Director, Gunderson Residence of McLean Hospital; Director, McLean Borderline Personality Disorders Training Institute; and Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
“Marsha Linehan is a pioneering and well-respected researcher and clinician. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) has become a therapy of choice for BPD since the publication of her first manual in 1993. DBT has been recommended in guidelines of the English National Institute for Clinical Excellence (NICE)….Ideal for therapists, trainers, and students, the manual can now show the extent to which theory is underpinned by research on outcomes, quoting studies conducted since the publication of the first edition. The research base now includes core skills training for a variety of disorders and not only for those with a diagnosis of BPD and suicide risk. This makes the manual relevant to therapists treating varied clinical and non-clinical populations. The skills for helping clients with emotion regulation and distress tolerance should be in the repertoire of every mental health practitioner and addictions worker. There is a wealth of material in these manuals, now that over 20 years the skills have been tried, tested and refined by Linehan and her colleagues and made accessible to all. Trainers will find that the teaching points in the training manual are clear, with more practical examples citedan excellent foundation for students. The rationale for emphasizing particular behavioral skills is given as well as an explanation of how to use the material with clients….The training skills manual, along with the handout and worksheet volume are valuable resources for practicing clinicians in the field of mental health and addictions, whether or not DBT is their main orientation.”
(Alcohol and Alcoholism 2015-05-01)
“This is an essential resource for clients learning dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills, and those who treat them….The book offers quick, easy access to all needed handouts or worksheets for building mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance skills….There is an astonishing array of material contained in this 400-plus page book….The ease with which these handouts will facilitate DBT makes it an essential part of treatment and extremely valuable for the nominal cost. *****"
(Doody's Review Service 2015-07-21)
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