心理学
自我的世纪 (2002) 豆瓣
The Century of the Self
9.2 (13 个评分)
导演:
亚当·柯蒂斯
演员:
Martin S. Bergmann
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Tony Blair
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其它标题:
The Century of the Self
本系列探讨弗洛伊德精神分析学说对20世纪的巨大影响。
美国特纳出版公司最近出版的《20世纪人类全纪录》,把1900年西格蒙特·弗洛伊德《梦的释义》的出版作为20世纪的开端。这决不是别出心裁,而是把精神分析理论的问世当作一个划时代的标志,从此人类对自身的探索进入了一个新阶段,所以有些西方学者把20世纪称之为"精神分析的世纪".《梦的释义》出版100年来,人们对精神分析学说毁誉参半,研究弗洛伊德的着作就达几千部,特别是许多思想大师都对弗洛伊德做出了评价,这就使人们常常戴着大师们的眼镜去看待弗洛伊德,由此产生了一些"错误认同".正如当代意大利哲学家恩贝托·埃柯(UmbereoEco)所说,马可波罗在爪哇把犀牛认作独角兽,这种错误认同产生的原因在于"他正是他的"背景书籍"的牺牲品。"①经过100年的洗礼,弗洛伊德的思想价值不但没有减弱反而增强了。因此要摆脱以往人们对弗洛伊德的错误认同,强调个人对弗洛伊德原着的特殊理解,并把这种理解与当代学术界的研究成果结合起来是十分必要的。首先,弗洛伊德不仅是一个精神病专家,更重要的是,他作为一个人文科学思想家在历史上留下了宝贵的精神财富。
弗洛伊德从人类心理冲突的角度去关照潜意识的产生与作用。因此,他的发现不仅意味着医学的进步,还打破了人类思想与生活中的许多假象,扩展了人类对精神生活的感知,并以不能再视而不见的事实描述出潜意识这种复杂而真实的人文现象。他对梦的层层揭示触及了人类精神世界最难以接近的部分。他对导致人的梦境的潜意识的分析引导着人类更透彻地了解了自己——20世纪达利的绘画、劳伦斯的小说、希区柯克的电影、马勒的音乐,弗洛伊德对生命潜意识的透视在几乎所有人文领域里都留下了深刻的印记。
当弗洛伊德80岁诞辰来临之际,全世界200多位科学艺术家致信祝贺,他们说:“如果世间有什么行动可以被永远铭记的话,那就是对人类心灵的洞察。”
弗洛伊德,“有史以来第一位正视人类心灵问题的人”。
美国特纳出版公司最近出版的《20世纪人类全纪录》,把1900年西格蒙特·弗洛伊德《梦的释义》的出版作为20世纪的开端。这决不是别出心裁,而是把精神分析理论的问世当作一个划时代的标志,从此人类对自身的探索进入了一个新阶段,所以有些西方学者把20世纪称之为"精神分析的世纪".《梦的释义》出版100年来,人们对精神分析学说毁誉参半,研究弗洛伊德的着作就达几千部,特别是许多思想大师都对弗洛伊德做出了评价,这就使人们常常戴着大师们的眼镜去看待弗洛伊德,由此产生了一些"错误认同".正如当代意大利哲学家恩贝托·埃柯(UmbereoEco)所说,马可波罗在爪哇把犀牛认作独角兽,这种错误认同产生的原因在于"他正是他的"背景书籍"的牺牲品。"①经过100年的洗礼,弗洛伊德的思想价值不但没有减弱反而增强了。因此要摆脱以往人们对弗洛伊德的错误认同,强调个人对弗洛伊德原着的特殊理解,并把这种理解与当代学术界的研究成果结合起来是十分必要的。首先,弗洛伊德不仅是一个精神病专家,更重要的是,他作为一个人文科学思想家在历史上留下了宝贵的精神财富。
弗洛伊德从人类心理冲突的角度去关照潜意识的产生与作用。因此,他的发现不仅意味着医学的进步,还打破了人类思想与生活中的许多假象,扩展了人类对精神生活的感知,并以不能再视而不见的事实描述出潜意识这种复杂而真实的人文现象。他对梦的层层揭示触及了人类精神世界最难以接近的部分。他对导致人的梦境的潜意识的分析引导着人类更透彻地了解了自己——20世纪达利的绘画、劳伦斯的小说、希区柯克的电影、马勒的音乐,弗洛伊德对生命潜意识的透视在几乎所有人文领域里都留下了深刻的印记。
当弗洛伊德80岁诞辰来临之际,全世界200多位科学艺术家致信祝贺,他们说:“如果世间有什么行动可以被永远铭记的话,那就是对人类心灵的洞察。”
弗洛伊德,“有史以来第一位正视人类心灵问题的人”。
Quiet 豆瓣 Goodreads Goodreads
7.4 (16 个评分)
作者:
Susan Cain
Crown Publishing Group (NY)
2012
- 1
At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
人性的弱点 豆瓣
作者:
戴尔·卡耐基
译者:
韩文桥
中信出版集团
2018
- 10
【内容简介】
《人性的弱点:如何赢得友谊并影响他人》自1936年问世以来,风靡全球80年,销量突破9000万册,千千万万的读者从中受益,获得前所未有的成功!
本书全面涵盖家庭生活、商务谈判、公司管理、社会交往、情感交流等方方面面立竿见影的沟通技巧,被誉为“人际与社交圣经”、“提升情商的必读经典”、“能引导你走向成功的书”。
阅读本书,你将迅速掌握人际关系的3大基本技巧、让人喜欢你的6种方式、赢得他人赞同的12种方法、更好说服他人的9种诀窍、让你家庭生活幸福快乐的7个法则。
【编辑推荐】
◆ 这是一本关于改善人际关系、为人处世艺术的至高经典,销量仅次于《圣经》,作者卡耐基被誉为美国精神的象征。
◆ 全球9000万读者亲身实践,一致盛赞“人际沟通与社交圣经”、“提升情商的必读经典”、“真正能引导你走向成功的书!”
◆ 本书的100多个真实案例,涵盖人际社交、家庭生活、商务谈判、公司管理、情感对话等方方面面立竿见影的实用方法与技巧。
◆ 阅读本书,您将彻底了解人性中的弱点,迅速掌握人际关系的3大基本技巧、让他人喜欢你的6种方式、赢得他人赞同的12种方法、更好说服他人的9种诀窍、家庭幸福的7个黄金法则,从而在任何场合影响和领导他人,*终取得成功。
◆ 2017新版,三大特色:一、忠实原版:以美国西蒙与舒斯特出版公司1937年初版为底本,未作任何删节;二、通俗易懂:译文生动流畅,让您在阅读本书时,宛如和卡耐基本人面对面交谈;三、超值典藏:装帧极其精美,新增9幅插图,用纸考究护眼,适合各年龄段读者阅读、收藏、送人。
◆ “一个人的成功,只有15%归结于他的专业知识,而85%归于他沟通技巧、领导他人及唤起他人热情的能力。”——本书作者卡耐基
《人性的弱点:如何赢得友谊并影响他人》自1936年问世以来,风靡全球80年,销量突破9000万册,千千万万的读者从中受益,获得前所未有的成功!
本书全面涵盖家庭生活、商务谈判、公司管理、社会交往、情感交流等方方面面立竿见影的沟通技巧,被誉为“人际与社交圣经”、“提升情商的必读经典”、“能引导你走向成功的书”。
阅读本书,你将迅速掌握人际关系的3大基本技巧、让人喜欢你的6种方式、赢得他人赞同的12种方法、更好说服他人的9种诀窍、让你家庭生活幸福快乐的7个法则。
【编辑推荐】
◆ 这是一本关于改善人际关系、为人处世艺术的至高经典,销量仅次于《圣经》,作者卡耐基被誉为美国精神的象征。
◆ 全球9000万读者亲身实践,一致盛赞“人际沟通与社交圣经”、“提升情商的必读经典”、“真正能引导你走向成功的书!”
◆ 本书的100多个真实案例,涵盖人际社交、家庭生活、商务谈判、公司管理、情感对话等方方面面立竿见影的实用方法与技巧。
◆ 阅读本书,您将彻底了解人性中的弱点,迅速掌握人际关系的3大基本技巧、让他人喜欢你的6种方式、赢得他人赞同的12种方法、更好说服他人的9种诀窍、家庭幸福的7个黄金法则,从而在任何场合影响和领导他人,*终取得成功。
◆ 2017新版,三大特色:一、忠实原版:以美国西蒙与舒斯特出版公司1937年初版为底本,未作任何删节;二、通俗易懂:译文生动流畅,让您在阅读本书时,宛如和卡耐基本人面对面交谈;三、超值典藏:装帧极其精美,新增9幅插图,用纸考究护眼,适合各年龄段读者阅读、收藏、送人。
◆ “一个人的成功,只有15%归结于他的专业知识,而85%归于他沟通技巧、领导他人及唤起他人热情的能力。”——本书作者卡耐基
Hooked 豆瓣
作者:
Nir Eyal
CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
2013
Why do some products capture our attention, while others flop?
What makes us engage with certain products out of habit?
Is there a pattern underlying how technologies hook us?
This book introduces readers to the "Hook Model," a four steps process companies use to build customer habits. Through consecutive hook cycles, successful products reach their ultimate goal of bringing users back repeatedly -- without depending on costly advertising or aggressive messaging.Hooked is a guide to building products people can't put down.
Written for product managers, designers, marketers, startup founders, and people eager to learn more about the things that control our behaviors, this book gives readers:
- Practical insights to create user habits that stick.
- Actionable steps for building products people love.
- Behavioral techniques used by Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and other habit-forming products.
Nir Eyal distilled years of research, consulting and practical experience to write a manual for creating habit-forming products. Nir has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Hasso Plattner Institute of Design. His writing on technology, psychology and business appears in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today.
What makes us engage with certain products out of habit?
Is there a pattern underlying how technologies hook us?
This book introduces readers to the "Hook Model," a four steps process companies use to build customer habits. Through consecutive hook cycles, successful products reach their ultimate goal of bringing users back repeatedly -- without depending on costly advertising or aggressive messaging.Hooked is a guide to building products people can't put down.
Written for product managers, designers, marketers, startup founders, and people eager to learn more about the things that control our behaviors, this book gives readers:
- Practical insights to create user habits that stick.
- Actionable steps for building products people love.
- Behavioral techniques used by Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and other habit-forming products.
Nir Eyal distilled years of research, consulting and practical experience to write a manual for creating habit-forming products. Nir has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Hasso Plattner Institute of Design. His writing on technology, psychology and business appears in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today.
Why Don't Students Like School? 豆瓣
7.6 (5 个评分)
作者:
Daniel T. Willingham
Jossey-Bass
2010
- 3
Easy-to-apply, scientifically-based approaches for engaging students in the classroom Cognitive scientist Dan Willingham focuses his acclaimed research on the biological and cognitive basis of learning. His book will help teachers improve their practice by explaining how they and their students think and learn. It reveals-the importance of story, emotion, memory, context, and routine in building knowledge and creating lasting learning experiences. Nine, easy-to-understand principles with clear applications for the classroom Includes surprising findings, such as that intelligence is malleable, and that you cannot develop "thinking skills" without facts How an understanding of the brain's workings can help teachers hone their teaching skills "Mr. Willingham's answers apply just as well outside the classroom. Corporate trainers, marketers and, not least, parents -anyone who cares about how we learn-should find his book valuable reading."
—Wall Street Journal
—Wall Street Journal
斜目而视 豆瓣
9.0 (28 个评分)
作者:
[斯洛文尼亚] 斯拉沃热·齐泽克
译者:
季广茂
浙江大学出版社
2011
- 3
欲望的客体无法直视,拉康的理论亦需“斜目而视”。在《斜目而视:透过通俗文化看拉康》中,齐泽克一方面透过通俗作品解析拉康的理论,揭示“无意识的逻辑”,勾勒“欲望的原理”;另一方面借助拉康理论解读通俗作品,这既包括希区柯克、安东尼奥尼、大卫•林奇、赛乔尔•莱昂、弗里茨•朗、雷利•史考特、乔治.米勒等著名导演的电影,又包括阿加莎•克里斯蒂、斯蒂芬,金、帕特里西娅•海史密斯等通俗作家的小说,以及柯南.道尔塑造的福尔摩斯、雷蒙•钱德勒塑造的菲利普•马娄等人物形象。作者对通俗作品的解读,彰显了“通俗”作品的“非通俗”之维,展示了“通俗”作品的现代乃至后现代蕴味。
掌控习惯 豆瓣
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
8.1 (77 个评分)
作者:
[美] 詹姆斯·克利尔
译者:
迩东晨
北京联合出版公司
2019
- 7
为什么“习惯改变命运”?因为个人40%~50%的行为取决于无意识的习惯。
习惯形成需要4步:提示→渴求→反应→奖赏。提示触发渴求,渴求激发反应,而反应则提供满足渴求的奖赏,并最终与提示相关联。这4个步骤一起形成了一个神经反馈回路——提示、渴求、反应、奖赏;提示、渴求、反应、奖赏——并最终让你养成自然而然的习惯,由此构成完整的习惯循环。
美国著名习惯研究专家、习惯学院创始人詹姆斯•克莱尔根据习惯形成的4个步骤,总结了相对应的培养习惯的4大定律:让它显而易见;让它有吸引力;让它简便易行;让它令人愉悦。本书通过这4大定律、56个具体案例,帮助你快速养成良好的习惯,同时利用这4大定律的反面,可以帮助你戒除不良的习惯。
习惯形成需要4步:提示→渴求→反应→奖赏。提示触发渴求,渴求激发反应,而反应则提供满足渴求的奖赏,并最终与提示相关联。这4个步骤一起形成了一个神经反馈回路——提示、渴求、反应、奖赏;提示、渴求、反应、奖赏——并最终让你养成自然而然的习惯,由此构成完整的习惯循环。
美国著名习惯研究专家、习惯学院创始人詹姆斯•克莱尔根据习惯形成的4个步骤,总结了相对应的培养习惯的4大定律:让它显而易见;让它有吸引力;让它简便易行;让它令人愉悦。本书通过这4大定律、56个具体案例,帮助你快速养成良好的习惯,同时利用这4大定律的反面,可以帮助你戒除不良的习惯。
精神病院 豆瓣
Asylums: Essays on the Social Situation of Mental Patients and Other Inmates
8.0 (5 个评分)
作者:
厄文.高夫曼
译者:
群學翻譯工作室 譯
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萬毓澤 校訂
群學出版有限公司
2012
- 11
社會學大師高夫曼的寫作以公眾為對象,而不局限於學院人士。《精神病院》這本富含人性關懷的扛鼎之作,不僅蘊藏豐富的洞察力及深具啟發性的概念,更具體詮釋何謂「公共社會學」的力量——掀起全美去機構化的風潮,說服政府官僚們同意讓社區重新擁抱「精神病患」。《精神病院》出版迄今超過五十年,早已經跨出了社會學而進入其他各個領域,可說是歷久彌新。環視我們身處的這個時代,各式各樣的全控機構不減反增,高夫曼的睿智揭露,將再次引領我們透視各種被遮蔽的隱藏世界。
本書由四篇論文組成。第一章〈論全控機構的特質〉,針對機構中的社會生活進行總體考察,大幅引用了兩個例子——精神病院和監獄。本章說明其餘章節將仔細發展的課題,也指出這些課題在整體討論中的位置。第二章〈精神病患的道德生涯〉,針對尚未成為被收容者的人,考察「機構化」對於他們所擁有的社會關係產生了哪些初步影響。第三章〈公共機構的地下生活〉,關注人們期待被收容者對一個銅牆鐵壁的「家」表現出什麼樣的依戀,也考察了被收容者透過什麼方式讓自己和這些期待保持某些距離。第四章〈醫療模式與精神收容〉,則回到機構人員身上,以精神病院為例,來考察醫療觀點在向被收容者呈現其處境時所扮演的角色。
本書由四篇論文組成。第一章〈論全控機構的特質〉,針對機構中的社會生活進行總體考察,大幅引用了兩個例子——精神病院和監獄。本章說明其餘章節將仔細發展的課題,也指出這些課題在整體討論中的位置。第二章〈精神病患的道德生涯〉,針對尚未成為被收容者的人,考察「機構化」對於他們所擁有的社會關係產生了哪些初步影響。第三章〈公共機構的地下生活〉,關注人們期待被收容者對一個銅牆鐵壁的「家」表現出什麼樣的依戀,也考察了被收容者透過什麼方式讓自己和這些期待保持某些距離。第四章〈醫療模式與精神收容〉,則回到機構人員身上,以精神病院為例,來考察醫療觀點在向被收容者呈現其處境時所扮演的角色。
The Center Cannot Hold 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者:
Professor of Law Psychology and Psychiatry Elyn R Saks
Hachette Books
2007
- 8
From Publishers Weekly
In this engrossing memoir, Saks, a professor of law and psychiatry at the University of Southern California, demonstrates a novelist's skill of creating character, dialogue and suspense. From her extraordinary perspective as both expert and sufferer (diagnosis: Chronic paranoid schizophrenia with acute exacerbation; prognosis: Grave), Saks carries the reader from the early little quirks to the full blown falling apart, flying apart, exploding psychosis. Schizophrenia rolls in like a slow fog, as Saks shows, becoming imperceptibly thicker as time goes on.- Along the way to stability (treatment, not cure), Saks is treated with a pharmacopeia of drugs and by a chorus of therapists. In her jargon-free style, she describes the workings of the drugs (getting med-free, a constant motif) and the ideas of the therapists and physicians (psychologist, psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, cardiologist, endocrinologist). Her personal experience of a world in which she is both frightened and frightening is graphically drawn and leads directly to her advocacy of mental patients' civil rights as they confront compulsory medication, civil commitment, the abuse of restraints and the absurdities of the mental care system. She is a strong proponent of talk therapy (While medication had kept me alive, it had been psychoanalysis that helped me find a life worth living). This is heavy reading, but Saks's account will certainly stand out in its field.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
From Booklist
At eight years old, Saks began suffering hallucinations and obsessive fears of being attacked. An adolescent experimentation with drugs provoked her parents to enroll her in a drug treatment program. But Saks' incredible self-control masked the fact that she was suffering from a debilitating mental illness. By the time she entered graduate school at Oxford University, her symptoms were so severe—including full-blown psychotic episodes and suicidal fantasies—that she was hospitalized. Through Oxford, law school at Yale, and a move to Los Angeles to work in the law school of the University of California, Saks struggled mightily to balance her ambitions with her illness, which was eventually diagnosed as schizophrenia. Never wanting to concede to her mental illness, Saks founds calm and comfort in a rigorous work routine. An analyst characterized her as having three lives: as Elyn, as Professor Saks, and as the Lady of the Charts mental patient. As Saks battled to get off medication and leave behind the Lady of the Charts, she fought for the rights of mental patients, and came to terms with her own limitations. Bush, Vanessa
Copyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved
Review
In this engrossing memoir, Saks, a professor of law and psychiatry at the University of Southern California, demonstrates a novelist's skill of creating character, dialogue and suspense. From her extraordinary perspective as both expert and sufferer (diagnosis: Chronic paranoid schizophrenia with acute exacerbation; prognosis: Grave), Saks carries the reader from the early little quirks to the full blown falling apart, flying apart, exploding psychosis. Schizophrenia rolls in like a slow fog, as Saks shows, becoming imperceptibly thicker as time goes on.- Along the way to stability (treatment, not cure), Saks is treated with a pharmacopeia of drugs and by a chorus of therapists. In her jargon-free style, she describes the workings of the drugs (getting med-free, a constant motif) and the ideas of the therapists and physicians (psychologist, psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, cardiologist, endocrinologist). Her personal experience of a world in which she is both frightened and frightening is graphically drawn and leads directly to her advocacy of mental patients' civil rights as they confront compulsory medication, civil commitment, the abuse of restraints and the absurdities of the mental care system. She is a strong proponent of talk therapy (While medication had kept me alive, it had been psychoanalysis that helped me find a life worth living). This is heavy reading, but Saks's account will certainly stand out in its field.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
From Booklist
At eight years old, Saks began suffering hallucinations and obsessive fears of being attacked. An adolescent experimentation with drugs provoked her parents to enroll her in a drug treatment program. But Saks' incredible self-control masked the fact that she was suffering from a debilitating mental illness. By the time she entered graduate school at Oxford University, her symptoms were so severe—including full-blown psychotic episodes and suicidal fantasies—that she was hospitalized. Through Oxford, law school at Yale, and a move to Los Angeles to work in the law school of the University of California, Saks struggled mightily to balance her ambitions with her illness, which was eventually diagnosed as schizophrenia. Never wanting to concede to her mental illness, Saks founds calm and comfort in a rigorous work routine. An analyst characterized her as having three lives: as Elyn, as Professor Saks, and as the Lady of the Charts mental patient. As Saks battled to get off medication and leave behind the Lady of the Charts, she fought for the rights of mental patients, and came to terms with her own limitations. Bush, Vanessa
Copyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved
Review
Social Psychology 豆瓣
作者:
Elliot Aronson
/
Timothy D. Wilson
…
Pearson
2015
- 7
走出孤独 豆瓣
Out of Loneliness
作者:
阿尔弗雷德·阿德勒(Alfred Adler)
译者:
胡慎之
天地出版社
2019
- 10
【孤独是什么?】
孤独,就是不得不一个人应付人生。
寻不到的安慰、戒不掉的依赖、停不住的寂寞、摆不脱的焦虑、定不了的未来……
所有这些,都会给我们带来无尽的孤独感。
【人为什么会感到孤独?】
阿德勒认为,人的孤独感源自深层的自卑。自卑是我们心灵的一个黑洞,需要向外界索取很多东西,比如爱、存在感和安全感。一旦索取受阻,就会导致过度自我保护,封闭内心,切断与他人的联结,从而滋生出寂寞、空虚和内心匮乏的孤独感。这种由自卑所引发的孤独,即便你整日呼朋引伴,也难以消除。
【怎样才能走出抓独?】
答案在与他人的关系里。能在与别人的关系中获得成长的人,才能真正超越自卑,成为一个与他人有着良好联结的人。只有能和别人心意相通的人,オ能真正不受别人眼光的影响,塑造出健康而独立的人格。只有拥有健康而独立的人格,才能真正建立起安全感、信任感和存在感,即便独来独往,也不会与社会脱节,不会孤单寂寞。
【本书能提供什么?】
阿德勒孤独十五讲,从自卑的心理根源谈起,抽丝剥茧,把独立人格形成的过程逐步展现,使人学会平衡自我与这个世界的关系,弥补内心信任感、不安全感和存在感的缺失,走出孤独感。
当你学会和这个世界心意相通,就算孤身一人,也能抵御世事艰难。
孤独,就是不得不一个人应付人生。
寻不到的安慰、戒不掉的依赖、停不住的寂寞、摆不脱的焦虑、定不了的未来……
所有这些,都会给我们带来无尽的孤独感。
【人为什么会感到孤独?】
阿德勒认为,人的孤独感源自深层的自卑。自卑是我们心灵的一个黑洞,需要向外界索取很多东西,比如爱、存在感和安全感。一旦索取受阻,就会导致过度自我保护,封闭内心,切断与他人的联结,从而滋生出寂寞、空虚和内心匮乏的孤独感。这种由自卑所引发的孤独,即便你整日呼朋引伴,也难以消除。
【怎样才能走出抓独?】
答案在与他人的关系里。能在与别人的关系中获得成长的人,才能真正超越自卑,成为一个与他人有着良好联结的人。只有能和别人心意相通的人,オ能真正不受别人眼光的影响,塑造出健康而独立的人格。只有拥有健康而独立的人格,才能真正建立起安全感、信任感和存在感,即便独来独往,也不会与社会脱节,不会孤单寂寞。
【本书能提供什么?】
阿德勒孤独十五讲,从自卑的心理根源谈起,抽丝剥茧,把独立人格形成的过程逐步展现,使人学会平衡自我与这个世界的关系,弥补内心信任感、不安全感和存在感的缺失,走出孤独感。
当你学会和这个世界心意相通,就算孤身一人,也能抵御世事艰难。
活下去的理由 豆瓣
Reasons to Stay Alive
7.7 (97 个评分)
作者:
[英] 马特·海格
译者:
赵燕飞
后浪丨江西人民出版社
2018
- 1
新锐小说家马特·海格以文学手法剖白自身心理困境
再现一段克服绝望、走出抑郁的生命之旅
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※编辑推荐※
☆畅销全球33个国家,英国报业巨头《星期日泰晤士报》非虚构类畅销书排行榜No.1,连续46周稳居英国图书畅销榜前10名,英国最大连 锁书店水石书店年度选书,入选《娱乐周刊》2016年必读书目。
☆ BBC、《纽约时报》《卫报》《星期日泰晤士报》《电讯报》《观察家报》《赫芬顿邮报》等五十余家知名媒体争相报道,珍妮特•温特森、尼尔•盖曼、S·J·沃森、乔安妮·哈里斯等知名作家击节赞赏。
☆作者马特·海格曾站在悬崖边企图自杀,离死亡只有一步之遥。在这本书中,他以惊人的准确度再现了与抑郁相伴的种种亲身感受。但这本书非关死亡,而是关于如何在失去一切之后绝地逆转,度过人生的艰难时期;如何在走出困境之后成为更好的自己,更用力地去爱,去生活,去感知生命。
...................
※内容简介※
24岁时,作者马特·海格不幸被命运选中,成为抑郁症患者。本书讲述了这个并不比任何人坚强的年轻人,一点一滴克服精神上的极度痛苦,从绝望中活下来的故事。
在《活下去的理由》中,马特一面以文学手法精确再现那些不被理解、无法言说又撕心裂肺的精神痛苦,代抑郁症患者发出那些不曾被世界听到的呼喊;一面又用举重若轻的笔调,讲述他在爱的陪伴下一次次击退黑暗的经历,向读者分享了一场绝望与希望并存、黑暗和温暖交织的生命之旅。
著名演员乔安娜·林莉称这本书“甚至能救活几条人命”,亚马逊读者称“想把这本书拿给所有人看,因为它说出了自己无法表达的心声”。
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※ 媒体推荐※
《活下去的理由》不是那种普遍意义上的自助书,它反映了个体生命对危机的应对方式,具有强烈的个人色彩和创造性。这本书能够带给人们希望,帮助人们更好地认识自己。
——《卫报》(The Guardian)
看着这个年轻的生命被抑郁症消耗,本该是个令人心碎的故事,但这本书却带来了出人意料的温柔抚慰。
——《星期日邮报》(Sunday Mail)
一个关于作者是怎样从抑郁和自杀阴影中回归的温暖故事,在绝望的时候,它能给你带来安慰。
——《新政治家周刊》(New Statesman)
这本书不仅对抑郁者有用,还能帮助抑郁者的父母、伴侣、朋友了解所爱之人正在经历什么。它是希望的灯塔。
——stylist杂志
这里没有心理呓语,只有海格非常真实、接地气,充满智慧的叙述。书中很多句子都能引发联想,让你想把他们摘抄下来。
——《女性健康》(Women’s Health)
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※ 名人推荐※
这是一本绝妙的书,那些为抑郁症所苦的人,身边有人受抑郁症折磨的人(差不多每个人都有),都应该读一读。
——S·J·沃森(S·J·Watson),畅销小说《别相信任何人》作者
把难以启齿的敏感话题从黑暗中解放出来,并照以光亮。
——麦克·帕林(Michael Palin),英国喜剧演员
我无法用言语表达这本书中蕴藏着多么大的救赎力量。阅读这本书的感觉,就像作者给了我一个温暖的拥抱,他仿佛在对我说:“我保证,一切都会好起来的。”
——亚马逊读者
终于有一本关于抑郁症的书真的有用了!有过类似经历的读者一定会不停地点头,同意作者所说的一切。这里没有心理学家们隔岸观火般的治疗方案,只是在讲述马特·海格与恐怖的黑狗相伴同行的真实经历。它让我流泪,也让我欢笑,我为马特走出抑郁的那些瞬间而欢欣雀跃。
——goodreads读者
再现一段克服绝望、走出抑郁的生命之旅
...................
※编辑推荐※
☆畅销全球33个国家,英国报业巨头《星期日泰晤士报》非虚构类畅销书排行榜No.1,连续46周稳居英国图书畅销榜前10名,英国最大连 锁书店水石书店年度选书,入选《娱乐周刊》2016年必读书目。
☆ BBC、《纽约时报》《卫报》《星期日泰晤士报》《电讯报》《观察家报》《赫芬顿邮报》等五十余家知名媒体争相报道,珍妮特•温特森、尼尔•盖曼、S·J·沃森、乔安妮·哈里斯等知名作家击节赞赏。
☆作者马特·海格曾站在悬崖边企图自杀,离死亡只有一步之遥。在这本书中,他以惊人的准确度再现了与抑郁相伴的种种亲身感受。但这本书非关死亡,而是关于如何在失去一切之后绝地逆转,度过人生的艰难时期;如何在走出困境之后成为更好的自己,更用力地去爱,去生活,去感知生命。
...................
※内容简介※
24岁时,作者马特·海格不幸被命运选中,成为抑郁症患者。本书讲述了这个并不比任何人坚强的年轻人,一点一滴克服精神上的极度痛苦,从绝望中活下来的故事。
在《活下去的理由》中,马特一面以文学手法精确再现那些不被理解、无法言说又撕心裂肺的精神痛苦,代抑郁症患者发出那些不曾被世界听到的呼喊;一面又用举重若轻的笔调,讲述他在爱的陪伴下一次次击退黑暗的经历,向读者分享了一场绝望与希望并存、黑暗和温暖交织的生命之旅。
著名演员乔安娜·林莉称这本书“甚至能救活几条人命”,亚马逊读者称“想把这本书拿给所有人看,因为它说出了自己无法表达的心声”。
...................
※ 媒体推荐※
《活下去的理由》不是那种普遍意义上的自助书,它反映了个体生命对危机的应对方式,具有强烈的个人色彩和创造性。这本书能够带给人们希望,帮助人们更好地认识自己。
——《卫报》(The Guardian)
看着这个年轻的生命被抑郁症消耗,本该是个令人心碎的故事,但这本书却带来了出人意料的温柔抚慰。
——《星期日邮报》(Sunday Mail)
一个关于作者是怎样从抑郁和自杀阴影中回归的温暖故事,在绝望的时候,它能给你带来安慰。
——《新政治家周刊》(New Statesman)
这本书不仅对抑郁者有用,还能帮助抑郁者的父母、伴侣、朋友了解所爱之人正在经历什么。它是希望的灯塔。
——stylist杂志
这里没有心理呓语,只有海格非常真实、接地气,充满智慧的叙述。书中很多句子都能引发联想,让你想把他们摘抄下来。
——《女性健康》(Women’s Health)
...................
※ 名人推荐※
这是一本绝妙的书,那些为抑郁症所苦的人,身边有人受抑郁症折磨的人(差不多每个人都有),都应该读一读。
——S·J·沃森(S·J·Watson),畅销小说《别相信任何人》作者
把难以启齿的敏感话题从黑暗中解放出来,并照以光亮。
——麦克·帕林(Michael Palin),英国喜剧演员
我无法用言语表达这本书中蕴藏着多么大的救赎力量。阅读这本书的感觉,就像作者给了我一个温暖的拥抱,他仿佛在对我说:“我保证,一切都会好起来的。”
——亚马逊读者
终于有一本关于抑郁症的书真的有用了!有过类似经历的读者一定会不停地点头,同意作者所说的一切。这里没有心理学家们隔岸观火般的治疗方案,只是在讲述马特·海格与恐怖的黑狗相伴同行的真实经历。它让我流泪,也让我欢笑,我为马特走出抑郁的那些瞬间而欢欣雀跃。
——goodreads读者
内向心理学 豆瓣
作者:
西尔维娅•洛肯
译者:
王荣辉
北京日报出版社/阳光博客
2019
在这个外向者主导的世界中,有许多让内向者头痛不已的场景,比如演讲台上、谈判桌上、会议室中、社交场合等等。
本书作者西尔维亚•洛肯博士也是一个安静的内向者,说话总是细声细语,但她却凭借自己的努力成为知名的性格咨询师,登上《明镜周刊》封面故事,还荣获了德国2012年度最佳演说者的殊荣。
洛肯博士发现,由于内向者的优势通常表现得低调安静,所以常常被忽略,其实它们可以在沟通中发挥巨大的影响力。
“无论在交流中还是共同生活中,最重要的是要认清自己和他人的需求,之后尊重这些需求。”
对于善于倾听、分析性思考、共情的内向者而言,天生就具有一种特殊的社交能力,会自然而然地去关注周遭的人们以及这些人的需求。
请忠于身为内向者的自己,不仅充分认识自己的优势,更要诚实对待自己的需求。在这个基础上,发展出一套适合自己的应对策略,你就能安静地发挥影响力,达成你想要达成的事。
这个世界需要内向的你!
本书作者西尔维亚•洛肯博士也是一个安静的内向者,说话总是细声细语,但她却凭借自己的努力成为知名的性格咨询师,登上《明镜周刊》封面故事,还荣获了德国2012年度最佳演说者的殊荣。
洛肯博士发现,由于内向者的优势通常表现得低调安静,所以常常被忽略,其实它们可以在沟通中发挥巨大的影响力。
“无论在交流中还是共同生活中,最重要的是要认清自己和他人的需求,之后尊重这些需求。”
对于善于倾听、分析性思考、共情的内向者而言,天生就具有一种特殊的社交能力,会自然而然地去关注周遭的人们以及这些人的需求。
请忠于身为内向者的自己,不仅充分认识自己的优势,更要诚实对待自己的需求。在这个基础上,发展出一套适合自己的应对策略,你就能安静地发挥影响力,达成你想要达成的事。
这个世界需要内向的你!
A Mind For Numbers 豆瓣
作者:
Barbara Oakley
Tarcher
2014
- 7
Whether you are a student struggling to fulfill a math or science requirement, or you are embarking on a career change that requires a higher level of math competency, A Mind for Numbers offers the tools you need to get a better grasp of that intimidating but inescapable field. Engineering professor Barbara Oakley knows firsthand how it feels to struggle with math. She flunked her way through high school math and science courses, before enlisting in the army immediately after graduation. When she saw how her lack of mathematical and technical savvy severely limited her options—both to rise in the military and to explore other careers—she returned to school with a newfound determination to re-tool her brain to master the very subjects that had given her so much trouble throughout her entire life.
In A Mind for Numbers, Dr. Oakley lets us in on the secrets to effectively learning math and science—secrets that even dedicated and successful students wish they’d known earlier. Contrary to popular belief, math requires creative, as well as analytical, thinking. Most people think that there’s only one way to do a problem, when in actuality, there are often a number of different solutions—you just need the creativity to see them. For example, there are more than three hundred different known proofs of the Pythagorean Theorem. In short, studying a problem in a laser-focused way until you reach a solution is not an effective way to learn math. Rather, it involves taking the time to step away from a problem and allow the more relaxed and creative part of the brain to take over. A Mind for Numbers shows us that we all have what it takes to excel in math, and learning it is not as painful as some might think!
In A Mind for Numbers, Dr. Oakley lets us in on the secrets to effectively learning math and science—secrets that even dedicated and successful students wish they’d known earlier. Contrary to popular belief, math requires creative, as well as analytical, thinking. Most people think that there’s only one way to do a problem, when in actuality, there are often a number of different solutions—you just need the creativity to see them. For example, there are more than three hundred different known proofs of the Pythagorean Theorem. In short, studying a problem in a laser-focused way until you reach a solution is not an effective way to learn math. Rather, it involves taking the time to step away from a problem and allow the more relaxed and creative part of the brain to take over. A Mind for Numbers shows us that we all have what it takes to excel in math, and learning it is not as painful as some might think!