【英文是用来啃的…】
The Lying Life of Adults 豆瓣 Goodreads
La vita bugiarda degli adulti
8.1 (15 个评分) 作者: [意大利] 埃莱娜·费兰特 译者: Ann Goldstein Europa Editions 2020 - 6
Giovanna's pretty face has changed: it's turning into the face of an ugly, spiteful adolescent. But is she seeing things as they really are? Into which mirror must she look to find herself and save herself?
She is searching for a new face in two kindred cities that fear and detest one another: the Naples of the heights, which assumes a mask of refinement, and the Naples of the depths, which professes to be a place of excess and vulgarity. She moves between these two cities, disoriented by the fact that, whether high or low, the city seems to offer no answer and no escape.
2021年1月28日 已读
仅限于青少年期,感觉格局太小,而且对青少年这种细腻到不行的心理活动不是很感兴趣。四部曲里Lenu青春期的POV都觉得有点小烦,这个就整体都很没意思。
【娱】外国现代 【英文是用来啃的…】
Faster Than Normal 豆瓣
作者: Peter Shankman Penguin Putnam Inc 2017 - 10
A refreshingly practical and honest guide that rewrites the script on ADHD Peter Shankman is a busy guy -- a media entrepreneur who runs several businesses, gives keynote speeches around the world, hosts a popular podcast, runs marathons and Iron Mans, is a licensed skydiver, dabbles in angel investing, and is loving father to his young daughter. Simply put, he always seems to have more than 24 hours in a day. How does he do it? Peter attributes his unusually high energy level and extreme productivity to his ADHD. In Faster Than Normal, Shankman shares his hard-won insights and daily hacks for making ADHD a secret weapon for living a full and deeply satisfying life. Both inspiring and practical, the book presents life rules, best practices, and simple but powerful ways to: Harness your creative energy to generate and execute your ideas Direct your hyperfocus to get things done Identify your pitfalls--and avoid them Streamline your daily routine to eliminate distractions Use apps and other tech innovations to free up your time and energy Filled with ingenious hacks and supportive self-care advice, this is the positive, practical book the ADHD community has long needed - and is also an invaluable handbook for anyone who's sick of feeling overwhelmed and wants to drive their faster-than-normal brain at maximum speed...without crashing.
2020年12月30日 已读
(2020.26) 开篇的感觉莫名有点arrogant lol,但非学者写书真的更方便推荐给clients作为self-help book. 书中Squirrel!的用法很萌哈哈。ADHD的skill building其实就是针对executive functioning,对所有人都有借鉴作用,只不过ADHD没有这些技巧会比neurotypicals活得艰难很多。对于自己有用的是要继续努力build routine和保证exercise。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Driven to Distraction at Work 豆瓣
作者: Ned Hallowell Harvard Business Review Press 2015 - 1
Bestselling author Edward M. Hallowell, MD, the world’s leading expert on ADD and ADHD, has set his sights on a new goal: helping people feel more in control and productive at work.
You know the feeling: you can’t focus; you feel increasingly overwhelmed by a mix of nonstop demands and technology that seems to be moving at the speed of light; and you’re frustrated just trying to get everything done well—and on time. Not only is this taking a toll on performance, it’s impacting your sense of well-being outside the office. It’s time to reclaim control.
Dr. Hallowell now identifies the underlying reasons why people lose their ability to focus at work. He explains why commonly offered solutions like “learn to manage your time better” or “make a to-do list” don’t work because they ignore the deeper issues that are the true causes of mental distraction. Based on his years of helping clients develop constructive ways to deal with distraction, Dr. Hallowell provides a set of practical and reliable techniques to show how to sustain a productive mental state.
In Part 1 of the book, he identifies the six most common ways people lose the ability to focus at work—what he calls “screen sucking” (internet/social media addiction), multitasking, idea hopping (never finishing what you start), worrying, playing the hero, and dropping the ball—and he explains the underlying psychological and emotional dynamics driving each behavior.
Part 2 of the book provides advice for “training” your attention overall, so that you are less susceptible to surrendering it, in any situation. The result is a book that will empower you to combat each one of these common syndromes—and clear a path for you to achieve your highest personal and professional goals.
2020年12月30日 已读
看书名以为是针对ADHD的skill building书,实际是对现代生活造成的伪ADHD的描述和一些针对性技巧。对自己比较有意义的是screen sucking,读完之后调整了一下自己的状态productivity要好很多。不过放完假可能又要重新调整了,成瘾性人格真是没救233
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Square Foot Gardening: How to Grow Healthy Organic Vegetables the Easy Way 豆瓣
Growing Vegetables In A Square Foot GardenBLACK & WHITE PRINT VERSION TO REDUCE RETAIL PRICEIf you are interested in small space, no-dig gardening, then this is the book for you! Best-Selling authors James Paris and Norman J Stone combine their knowledge of self-sufficiency and growing organic vegetables to present this book on square foot gardening.This method of growing vegetables in small spaces, combines Raised Bed Gardening with the concept of providing a good range of organically grown vegetables within the smallest of areas. Through the combined use of the ideal growing compost for best nutrition, and Companion Planting methods for nutrition and pest/disease control; SFG is the gardening method of choice for millions of 'switched on' gardeners today.Along with Raised Bed and container planting methods, SFG is another way that individuals can take back control of their food needs from the big corporations - and benefit from fresh organically produced vegetables - by growing their own easily and with minimum fuss!What You Will Find In This Book:1. An introduction to SFG - What it is all about.2. How to construct your own Square Foot Garden3. How to make your own 'special mix' of compost for infilling.5. Guidelines for planting out your SFG.6. Introducing Companion Planting - Good and Bad companions for your veggies.7. Beneficial herbs and Organic pest control.8. Instructions on plant support and growing methods.9. A list of popular vegetables and herbs to grow in your SFG, including planting, plant care and harvesting/storing your vegetables.
2020年12月24日 已读
(2020.23) 试图解锁种菜的种族基因天赋点中。主要为了看companion plant,夏天到了果然各种pest就跑不了。公寓的阳台太小了,4*4 foot planter都摆不下,但家附近有看到cafe用这种方法,感觉还挺萌的。书可能主要面对新手,感觉讲的比较简单。翻了几本companion plant感觉也是经(玄)验学的方法论,具体一棵植物应该配多少棵companion plant,在pot里怎么规划都是很模糊。尽人事听天命随便搞了搞,果然还是直接neem oil吧😂
【学】杂 【英文是用来啃的…】
Atomic Habits 豆瓣 谷歌图书
8.4 (55 个评分) 作者: James Clear Avery 2018 - 10
No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.
If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights.
Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field.
Learn how to:
* make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);
* overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;
* design your environment to make success easier;
* get back on track when you fall off course;
...and much more.
Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.
2020年11月24日 已读
读(听)之前很担心是成功学鸡汤,还挺吃惊地发现的确是很成体系的behaviourism和habit building。之前对比较behaviourally orientated intervention都比较抗拒,在很大一部分client都有trauma和neurodiversity的前提下,直接上behaviour intervention基本就是求失败。但感觉如果trauma得到了一定process,在trauma recovery的第三阶段,用一定的behavioural intervention来建立新习惯还是有好处的,虽然单独用感觉效果还是会一般。毕竟自己作为从业者都知道自己想要做得更好/resolve personal issues有多难,当然也是我起点低。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Driven to Distraction 豆瓣
作者: Edward M. Hallowell M.D. / John J. Ratey M.D. Anchor 2011 - 9
Groundbreaking and comprehensive, Driven to Distraction has been a lifeline to the approximately eighteen million Americans who are thought to have ADHD. Now the bestselling book is revised and updated with current medical information for a new generation searching for answers.
Through vivid stories and case histories of patients—both adults and children—Hallowell and Ratey explore the varied forms ADHD takes, from hyperactivity to daydreaming. They dispel common myths, offer helpful coping tools, and give a thorough accounting of all treatment options as well as tips for dealing with a diagnosed child, partner, or family member. But most importantly, they focus on the positives that can come with this “disorder”—including high energy, intuitiveness, creativity, and enthusiasm.
2020年11月24日 已读
专业书的阅读量真是全靠audiobook,感觉自己能专注阅读的能力越来越下降了。audiobook不知道是不是有版本问题,但书的内容还在讲DSM-III真的是很旧了。当然即使旧也比Barkley鼓吹要用punishment来教育ADHD child强了太多,不理解Barkley怎么还能在ADHD领域这么牛。 书中的案例对于理解ADHD symptoms和作为self-help screening/understanding很有用,作者自己也有ADHD,对ADHD的理解也很深入。疗法和strategies讲的就比较少,毕竟也不是本书的重点。如果推荐给家长/adult显然会推荐这本而不是Barkley的那本。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Machines Like Me 豆瓣
作者: Ian McEwan Jonathan Cape 2019 - 4
Britain has lost the Falklands war, Margaret Thatcher battles Tony Benn for power and Alan Turing achieves a breakthrough in artificial intelligence. In a world not quite like this one, two lovers will be tested beyond their understanding.
Machines Like Me occurs in an alternative 1980s London. Charlie, drifting through life and dodging full-time employment, is in love with Miranda, a bright student who lives with a terrible secret. When Charlie comes into money, he buys Adam, one of the first batch of synthetic humans. With Miranda’s assistance, he co-designs Adam’s personality. This near-perfect human is beautiful, strong and clever – a love triangle soon forms. These three beings will confront a profound moral dilemma. Ian McEwan’s subversive and entertaining new novel poses fundamental questions: what makes us human? Our outward deeds or our inner lives? Could a machine understand the human heart? This provocative and thrilling tale warns of the power to invent things beyond our control.
Beyond Behaviours 豆瓣
作者: Mona Delahooke PESI Publishing 2019 - 3
In Beyond Behaviors, internationally known pediatric psychologist, Dr. Mona Delahooke describes behaviors as the tip of the iceberg, important signals that we should address by seeking to understand a child’s individual differences in the context of relational safety.
Featuring impactful worksheets and charts, this accessible book offers professionals, educators and parents tools and techniques to reduce behavioral challenges and promote psychological resilience and satisfying, secure relationships.
Neuroscience-based effective tools and strategies for children labeled with:
- Conduct Disorder
- Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)
- Anxiety & Depression
- Autism & Developmental or Learning Differences
And children who experience or have experienced:
- Aggressive, confusing and unpredictable behaviors
- Tantrums and meltdowns
- Disconnection or shutdown
- Adverse childhood experiences
- Trauma and toxic stress
2020年10月18日 已读
(2020.19) 庆幸自己一开始接触的就是从neuroscience的角度分析behavioural issues,以及"Children do well if they can"这个核心,所以本书就显得没有多么ground-breaking。Creating sensory safety的角度还不错,但整体都不够深入。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Taking Charge of ADHD, Third Edition 豆瓣
作者: Russell A. Barkley Guilford Press 2013 - 6
2020年10月18日 已读
读书功能被禁期间的补填。说了半天还是最传统的behaviour management这一套。可能只update了前面neuroscience的相关知识,后面的intervention从90年代就没改过?不仅鼓励用punishment/consequences, 连physical punishment这种说烂了害处远大于益处的东西也不反对。完全是浪费时间。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Women with Attention Deficit Disorder 豆瓣
作者: Sari Solden 2012 - 10
Every year, millions of withdrawn little girls and chronically overwhelmed women go undiagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder because they don't fit the stereotypical profile: they re not fast-talking, hyperactive, or inattentive, and they are not male. Sari Solden s groundbreaking study reveals that ADD affects just as many women as men, and that the resulting depression, disorganization, anxiety, and underachievement are also symptoms of ADD. Newly revised and updated to reflect the latest clinical research, the book explores treatment and counseling options, and uses real-life case histories to examine the special challenges women with ADD and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) face, such as the shame of not fulfilling societal expectations. Included is a brand new chapter on friendship for women with ADHD. Three empowering steps restructuring one's life, renegotiating relationships, and redefining self-image help women take control of their lives and enjoy success on their own terms.
2020年10月13日 已读
男性和女性ASD和ADHD presentations真的是差很多。整个training pathway如果不特意upskill,ADHD学到的也只能是一些typical stereotypes of hyperative boys. Clients里neurodiversity的比例真的很高,所以最近大概都是学这个方向的了。书对adult women with ADHD的presentations写得比较好,treatment options和skill building就不是很全面。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
The Amber Spyglass 豆瓣
作者: Pullman, Philip 2003 - 9
The Whitbread Award-winning third installment of the His Dark Materials trilogy. In the astonishing finale to the His Dark Materials trilogy, Lyra and Will are in unspeakable danger. With help from Iorek Byrnison the armored bear and two tiny Gallivespian spies, they must journey to a dank and gray-lit world where no living soul has ever gone. All the while, Dr. Mary Malone builds a magnificent Amber Spyglass. An assassin hunts her down, and Lord Asriel, with a troop of shining angels, fights his mighty rebellion, a battle of strange allies--and shocking sacrifice. As war rages and Dust drains from the sky, the fate of the living--and the dead--finally comes to depend on two children and the simple truth of one simple story.
2020年8月29日 已读
跟第二部做对比会觉得更好看一些,但都和第一本差很远。Lyra和Will的关系发展总感觉有些莫名其妙,虽然当然young love本来可能也没什么logic可言,但整体总觉得很突兀。多少觉得没有live up to expectations, 可能就不能对YA要求太高。应该还是会随便看看剧的。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Salvation 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Peter F. Hamilton Del Rey Books 2018 - 9
In 2204, humanity is expanding into the wider galaxy in leaps and bounds. A new technology of linked jump gates has rendered most forms of transporation--including starships--virtually obsolete. Every place on earth, every distant planet mankind has settled, is now merely a step away from any other. And all seems wonderful...until a crashed alien spaceship is found on a newly-located world 89 light years from Earth, harboring seventeen human victims. And of the high-powered team dispatched to investigate the mystery, one is an alien spy...

Bursting with tension and big ideas, this standalone series highlights the inventiveness of an author at the top of his game, as the interweaving story lines tell us not only how humanity arrived at this moment, but also the far-future consequences that spin off from it.
2020年8月2日 已读
(2020.15) 第一次读Peter Hamilton的作品,感觉第一部铺陈太多,有些章节比较有趣,有些就真的是很勉强在读,未来的时间线感觉又很YA。整体读的进度非常慢,大概看了三个月才勉强看完。看Goodreads的评价Peter的作品就应该是比较慢热吧,最后一章pieces together的感觉还不错,但总觉得差一口气。可能会看一下第二部的节奏再决定要不要读完整个系列吧。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Raising Girls in the 21st Century 豆瓣
作者: Steve Biddulph Simon & Schuster Australia 2019 - 4
Raising Girls in the Twenty-first Century is Steve Biddulph’s warm, wise and up-to-the-minute look at how to help your daughter – at every age, from baby to teen. Girls today need to be strong, but also keep their hearts open. Steve brings the very best help from around the globe to build girls’ self-belief in a world that often wants to tear them down.
In this revised and updated edition, you’ll learn how to raise your daughter to:
• have a joyful childhood and not be forced to grow up too fast
• navigate the fraught world of friends, peer pressure and bullying
• be free and wild, to reduce anxiety, depression and self-harm
• avoid technology addiction and other social media pitfalls
• relate to boys with a clear head and strong heart
There is also a powerful new section on ‘#MeToo in School’, shining a light on the reality of childhood sexual harassment, and how best to help your daughter fight it. Filled with unforgettable stories that will bring you to tears, and offering clear, practical help, Raising Girls in the Twenty-first Century is not just a guidebook but a fierce call-to-arms. The world’s best guide to girlhood is now in your hands.
2020年7月28日 已读
Steve Biddulph的Raising boys 和raising girls都有点social work discipline的感觉,就是什么都说一点,又什么都没说明白。整体的立场对不熟悉social work discipline的人来说可能有点过于“开放”/radical,对熟悉的人来说又没有深度。作为给家长的guide又没有具体的techniques。总之定位非常尴尬。
【学】心理学 【英文是用来啃的…】 【audiobook】
Tapping In 豆瓣
作者: Laurel Parnell Sounds True, Incorporated 2008 - 1
2020年7月28日 已读
以为会有更多的resourcing内容,实际整体有点基础和重复了。但Audiobook可以直接作为client的self-help guide book很棒。对Laurel Parnell的attachment-focused EMDR 非常感兴趣,但其他的书都不是她自己narrated,她常用的narrator又实在有点听不下去,sigh。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
The Merchant of Death 豆瓣
作者: MacHale, D. J. Simon & Schuster 2007 - 2
DENDURONBobby Pendragon is a seemingly normal fourteen-year-old boy. He has a family, a home, and even Marley, his beloved dog. But there is something very special about Bobby.He is going to save the world.And not just Earth as we know it. Bobby is slowly starting to realize that life in the cosmos isn't quite what he thought it was. And before he can object, he is swept off to an alternate dimension known as Denduron, a territory inhabited by strange beings, ruled by a magical tyrant, and plagued by dangerous revolution.If Bobby wants to see his family again, he's going to have to accept his role as savior, and accept it wholeheartedly. Because, as he is about to discover, Denduron is only the beginning....
The Subtle Knife 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Philip Pullman Laurel Leaf 2003 - 9
Lyra finds herself in a shimmering, haunted underworld—Cittàgazze, where soul-eating Specters stalk the streets and wingbeats of distant angels sound against the sky. But she is not without allies: 12-year-old Will Parry, fleeing for his life after taking another’s, has also stumbled into this strange new realm.
On a perilous journey from world to world, Lyra and Will discover an object of devastating power. And with every step, they move closer to an even greater threat—and the shattering truth of their own destiny.
2020年5月10日 已读
Goodreads的这条评论非常relatable了:https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/11614953?book_show_action=true&from_review_page=1 感觉第一本铺陈的世界设定都被舍弃了(还我的披甲熊!!!),第二部正常应该会大步推进情节和丰富设定,结果有种,就给我看这?的平庸感。第一部感觉很容易就对Lyra有好感,第二部的Will就……同样有点无趣。应该还是会看第三部的。剧集把第二部的一些情节提到了第一季,不知道第二季会不会有空间丰富一下情节和设定,虽然从第一季的这个效果来看应该不会= =
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Radical Self-acceptance 豆瓣
作者: Brach, Tara Sounds True
2020年4月25日 已读
[Audiobook] Tara Brach的声音让人很放松。对她的work一直不是很喜欢,work本身没什么问题,但作为standalone的modality能一下子习惯这个程度的mindfulness和self-compassion的人本来就不多;作为complimentary modality又有点……提升不大的感觉。而且宗教感过于强也很杀好感,也不好推荐给无信仰/不同信仰的client。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
The State of Affairs 豆瓣
作者: Esther Perel Harper 2017 - 10
Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.
Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too the prohibition against it—in fact, it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.
For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.
Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
2020年4月25日 已读
[Audiobook] 比Esther的另一本mating in captivity更深入,毕竟这本只是专注于infidelity的问题。自己的价值观和Esther讲的基本没有什么区别,但在大多数人和mainstream practitioner看来这样的openness可能是很极端的,摊手。毕竟现在并没有做过系统的couple therapy的training,所以也不用很纠结personal value和clinical work的问题。很好奇以后如果做Gottman的training要怎么整合非常不同的价值观233
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】
Mating in Captivity 豆瓣
作者: Esther Perel Harper Paperbacks 2007 - 11
A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
2020年3月8日 已读
对podcast和audiobook一直接受无能, 继Esther Perel的Where should we begin解锁了第一个podcast,这本同样是她读的书解锁了第一本audiobook的成就(虽然也要1.75倍速)~ 其实对Esther在NICABM中的第一印象并没有多好,但podcast里的真实session真的很厉害,跟supervisors讨论了很多次,为什么可以这么一针见血/clients为什么情感表达能力都这么高/这辈子感觉都达不到这个高度了怎么办嗷嗷嗷(够。读完书之后感觉对她session里的principles更了解了一些,但定位感觉有点小尴尬。对practitioner来说有点浅,对普通人来说session的部分可能有些无聊,也不那么“实践”向。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学 【Audiobook】