【英文是用来啃的…】
The Calculating Stars 豆瓣
The Calculating Stars
作者: Mary Robinette Kowal Tor Books 2018 - 7
Mary Robinette Kowal's science fiction debut, The Calculating Stars, explores the premise behind her award-winning "Lady Astronaut of Mars."
Den of Geek―Best Science Fiction Books of June 2018
Omnivoracious―15 Highly Anticipated SFF Reads for Summer 2018
On a cold spring night in 1952, a huge meteorite fell to earth and obliterated much of the east coast of the United States, including Washington D.C. The ensuing climate cataclysm will soon render the earth inhospitable for humanity, as the last such meteorite did for the dinosaurs. This looming threat calls for a radically accelerated effort to colonize space, and requires a much larger share of humanity to take part in the process.
Elma York’s experience as a WASP pilot and mathematician earns her a place in the International Aerospace Coalition’s attempts to put man on the moon, as a calculator. But with so many skilled and experienced women pilots and scientists involved with the program, it doesn’t take long before Elma begins to wonder why they can’t go into space, too.
Elma’s drive to become the first Lady Astronaut is so strong that even the most dearly held conventions of society may not stand a chance against her.
2018年12月28日 已读
好久没有想一口气读下去的小说了。还挺喜欢alternate reality的叙事方式的,有种世界线的确可以这样发展下去的感觉。发现自己越来越喜欢主角是relatable heroine的作品了,不过丈夫的人设过于完美了吧,反而远没有时旅里的Henry那样迷人。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Counselling Adolescents 豆瓣
作者: Kathryn Geldard / David Geldard SAGE Publications Ltd; 2015 - 11
This is the definitive guide to counselling adolescents. Now in its fourth edition, this bestseller has introduced thousands of trainees and practitioners to the theory, principals, skills and techniques of proactively counselling this client group.
New to the fourth edition:
- A new chapter on the contemporary context of adolescence, exploring the challenges, opportunities and influences facing young people today.
- A new chapter on the use of technology when counselling young people
- Useful links to relevant online resources at the end of each chapter
- Updates to all chapters reflecting more recent understanding, research and literature
- Additional case studies to help trainees apply theory and strategies to practice
A multi-disciplinary book which recognises that a diversity of needs requires a diversity of approaches and skills, it uses case studies and examples to demonstrate this in a variety of settings. It is essential reading for trainees and practitioners in counselling, social work, the allied health professions and education.
2018年11月20日 已读
Geldard&Geldard写了很多本经典counselling方向的handbook,经常被用做教材。整体从principles到treatment modalities都介绍得比较全面,当然因为是overview的类型,每一方向都不是很深入,但也都给出了further resources,作为入门的话还是不错。但书中引了NLP的内容有点让人不能理解- -
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Ammonite 豆瓣
作者: Nicola Griffith Gollancz 2012 - 9
2018年11月9日 已读
(2018.36) 单独的片段拿出来感觉都还不错,但尤其是前半部的节奏掌握得很不好,人设、人物动机和时间跳跃都不到位,后半部也有点强行HE。是作者的第一部作品所以可以理解,就是觉得有点浪费题材。Griffith比较有名的作品是Slow river,还在犹豫要不要读。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
How To Talk So Kids Can Learn 豆瓣
作者: Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish Scribner 1996 - 9
《How To Talk So Kids Can Learn(如何说 孩子才肯学)》独创性的采用小说形式,主人公是一位经常遇到问题的年轻教师,她与同事以及父母志愿者一起,通过不断的探寻和讨论,努力寻找到一种与学生沟通的更有效的方法。独一无二的沟通技巧、实用的对话场景和令人一目了然的卡通漫画,让老师和家长很快便能领会如何帮助孩子面对每天在学习上出现的问题。比如,第一章讨论了如何处理干扰学习的情绪。作者认为,我们想要让孩子行为正确,首先必须接受他们的感受。卡通漫画形象生动地展现了许多老师和家长对待孩子的错误方式,同时也给出了会让孩子有令人满意回应的新方法。那些错误的说话方式竟然是我们大多数家长与老师经常都在使用的,而推荐的新方法往往都既实用又灵验,让家长和老师忍不住立刻仿效。《如何说孩子才肯学》的突破和创新之处在于,在激励孩子进行自我监督、自我约束和热爱学习方面,给出一套切实可行的方法,让孩子乐于接受家长和老师对他们施加的影响。
The leading experts on parent-child communication show parents and teachers how to motivate kids to learn and succeed in school. Using the unique communication strategies, down-to-earth dialogues, and delightful cartoons that are the hallmark of their multimillion-copy bestseller How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish show parents and teachers how to help children handle the everyday problems that interfere with learning. This breakthrough book demonstrates how parents and teachers can join forces to inspire kids to be self-directed, self-disciplined, and responsive to the wonders of learning.
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如何说孩子才肯学
2018年11月7日 已读
How to talk的老师版本,仍然是经典必读,给老师做consultation的时候也是用这个framework。唯一的缺点是年代限制,对neuroscience和developmental stages的方向没有涉及,结合calmer classroom类的资源会更好。而且其实有的时候觉得老师教学能力的不足也会导致behaviour issues,但就不是counsellor能/方便consult的东西了- -
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Interval Weight Loss 豆瓣
作者: Nick Fuller Ebury Australia 2017 - 11
2018年10月11日 已读
(2018.34) 学校的newsletter推荐的,全篇有用的废话,感觉很心疼买书的钱- - 一句话概括全书就是,只要你能养成超健康的生活习惯,一周只吃一次高糖/高盐/高脂肪/processed food,每天做不同的、强度逐渐加强的运动;早睡早起多喝水,心情愉悦自控强,你就可以轻松地减肥了!这道理谁都懂好嘛,真是浪费纸张。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
The Gift of Therapy 豆瓣
作者: Irvin Yalom Harper Perennial 2009 - 5
The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom's more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. The bestselling author of Love's Executioner shares his uniquely fresh approach and the valuable insights he has gained—presented as eighty-five personal and provocative "tips for beginner therapists," including: Let the patient matter to you Acknowledge your errors Create a new therapy for each patient Do home visits (Almost) never make decisions for the patient Freud was not always wrong A book aimed at enriching the therapeutic process for a new generation of patients and counselors, Yalom's Gift of Therapy is an entertaining, informative, and insightful read for anyone with an interest in the subject.
2018年10月8日 已读
(2018.33) 前辈的经验之谈。Overall really insightful, especially the stress of using here and now. Although as an "EBT-brain washed" graduate, some of the techniques based on psychoanalysis are not going to be practical for me, at least for now, such as the importance of dream and self-disclosure. Makes me more interested in common factors of psychotherapy.
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
how to talk so little kids will listen 豆瓣
Joanna Faber
作者: Joanna Faber 2017 - 1
A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.”
For over thirty-five years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.
Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.
What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.
2018年10月6日 已读
(2018.32) how to系列中一位作者的女儿写的,添加了一点neuroscience相关的知识,针对eating sleeping这些具体问题的章节感觉格外棒,整体可以说是青出于蓝而胜于蓝了。在childcare实习的每一天都是在靠这些skill活下来的233。仍然觉得每一个和小孩子有接触的人都应该被强制要求读一下这个系列。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk 豆瓣
作者: Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish Harper Paperbacks 2006 - 9
Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish han ayudado a millones de familias con sus bestsellers. Ahora, y por primera vez en español, estas aclamadas expertas a nivel internacional nos ofrecen una guía que le dará las herramientas necesarias para ayudarles a sus adolescentes -- ¡y a usted mismo! -- a sobrevivir la etapa difícil de la adolescencia. "Mi hijo de trece años pasa su tiempo con los peores chicos de la escuela. Le paso diciendo que se aleje de ellos, pero siempre me ignora. ¿Cómo hago para que me haga caso?" "Mi hija pasa mucho tiempo en el Internet charlando con un muchacho de dieciséis años. Bueno, por lo menos eso dice él. Ahora la quiere conocer. Ella está muy entusiasmada. Yo tengo miedo. ¿Qué hago?" "Acabo de enterarme que mi hija de doce años fuma marihuana. ¿Cómo la confronto?" Vivir con un adolescente puede ser abrumador. A veces es como si nuestros niños cariñosos se convirtieran de la noche a la mañana en adolescentes independientes, con sus propios pensamientos, gustos y valores. Hoy en día, los jóvenes están creciendo en un mundo más cruel, más materialista, más sexual y más violento que antes. ¿Qué se debe hacer? Tras muchos años de investigación, conferencias y comentarios que han recibido, Faber y Mazlish, autoras del clásico bestseller Cómo Hablar para que los Niños Escuchen y Cómo Escuchar para que los Niños Hablen, han desarrollado una innovadora forma de mantener un diálogo abierto y respetuoso entre padres y adolescentes, una estrategia que le pone frenos al conflicto, reduce frustraciones y fomenta conversaciones acerca de las drogas, el sexo y otros temas difíciles y de actualidad. Escrito en el estilo práctico y popular de estas galardonadas autoras, y lleno de sugerencias, historias y dibujos, esta guía le ayudará a construir una relación más comunicativa y menos conflictiva con sus adolescentes.
2018年7月27日 已读
仍然是emotional coaching-based communication skills. 之前看Raising an emotionally intelligent kid里面强调对teenager不要太强调label emotions,因为整体的culture决定了他们觉得表露情绪是示弱,而且容易被同龄人pick up;这本的态度是承认这样的文化,但仍然鼓励使用label emotions。跟adolescent client接触不多,目前还不太好判断究竟哪种方式更好,先持保留意见好了。对teens特有的sex and drug问题也是感觉还差了那么点意思。比较喜欢作者把teens也叫过来单独做了一个session,和teens与家长一起做一个session的部分。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Dark Matter 豆瓣 Sukkertoppen Goodreads
Dark Matter
7.0 (13 个评分) 作者: Blake Crouch Crown 2016 - 7
A mindbending, relentlessly surprising thriller from the author of the bestselling Wayward Pines trilogy.

Jason Dessen is walking home through the chilly Chicago streets one night, looking forward to a quiet evening in front of the fireplace with his wife, Daniela, and their son, Charlie—when his reality shatters.

"Are you happy with your life?"

Those are the last words Jason Dessen hears before the masked abductor knocks him unconscious.

Before he awakens to find himself strapped to a gurney, surrounded by strangers in hazmat suits.

Before a man Jason's never met smiles down at him and says, "Welcome back, my friend."

In this world he's woken up to, Jason's life is not the one he knows. His wife is not his wife. His son was never born. And Jason is not an ordinary college physics professor, but a celebrated genius who has achieved something remarkable. Something impossible.

Is it this world or the other that's the dream?

And even if the home he remembers is real, how can Jason possibly make it back to the family he loves? The answers lie in a journey more wondrous and horrifying than anything he could've imagined—one that will force him to confront the darkest parts of himself even as he battles a terrifying, seemingly unbeatable foe.

Dark Matter is a brilliantly plotted tale that is at once sweeping and intimate, mind-bendingly strange and profoundly human--a relentlessly surprising science-fiction thriller about choices, paths not taken, and how far we'll go to claim the lives we dream of.
Siblings Without Rivalry 豆瓣
作者: Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish W. W. Norton & Company 2012 - 6
Already best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along. The result was Siblings Without Rivalry. This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding much gained from raising their own children Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new afterword.
2018年7月15日 已读
(2018.25) 感觉作为独生子女,之前一直没意识到sibling rivalry原来这么普遍233 和How to talk to kids里cover的沟通方式是一致的,但更加focus在sibling rivalry上;仍然是非常好读,对therapist和家长都很有用。但感觉实际做parenting skill coaching的时候需要思考一下怎么把这两本书和Tuning into kids一起结合起来。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Sharp Objects 豆瓣
8.1 (8 个评分) 作者: [美国] Gillian Flynn Broadway Books 2007 - 7
WICKED above her hipbone, GIRL across her heart
Words are like a road map to reporter Camille Preaker’s troubled past. Fresh from a brief stay at a psych hospital, Camille’s first assignment from the second-rate daily paper where she works brings her reluctantly back to her hometown to cover the murders of two preteen girls.
NASTY on her kneecap, BABYDOLL on her leg
Since she left town eight years ago, Camille has hardly spoken to her neurotic, hypochondriac mother or to the half-sister she barely knows: a beautiful thirteen-year-old with an eerie grip on the town. Now, installed again in her family’s Victorian mansion, Camille is haunted by the childhood tragedy she has spent her whole life trying to cut from her memory.
HARMFUL on her wrist, WHORE on her ankle
As Camille works to uncover the truth about these violent crimes, she finds herself identifying with the young victims—a bit too strongly. Clues keep leading to dead ends, forcing Camille to unravel the psychological puzzle of her own past to get at the story. Dogged by her own demons, Camille will have to confront what happened to her years before if she wants to survive this homecoming.
With its taut, crafted writing, Sharp Objects is addictive, haunting, and unforgettable.
2018年7月13日 已读
(2018.24) 因为HBO的新剧抓起来看的,虽然看完大概不会看剧了- - Gillian Flynn的作品偏向对一种mental disorder的特写,整体黑暗而twisted,虽然整体的深度还不够,但足够吸引你一口气读下去。似乎是作者的处女作,所以整体情节比较套路,不过完成度还是蛮高的。相比之下还是Gone girl的twist更加unpredictable和fucked up。短时间应该不会再读这个作者的作品了。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】推理&悬疑&探险
The Body Keeps the Score 豆瓣 谷歌图书 Goodreads
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
9.8 (8 个评分) 作者: Bessel van der Kolk, MD Viking Adult 2014 - 9
A pioneering researcher and one of the world's foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing
Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Such experiences inevitably leave traces on minds, emotions, and even on biology. Sadly, trauma sufferers frequently pass on their stress to their partners and children.
Renowned trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain's wiring-specifically areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust. He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments including neurofeedback, mindfulness techniques, play, yoga, and other therapies. Based on Dr. van der Kolk's own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy-and a way to reclaim lives.
2018年7月9日 已读
基本是trauma领域的必读了。理论和实践部分讲得都很全面也很好理解,作者分享的clinical experience也都很有趣。对EMDR,neurofeedback和internal family therapies都很感兴趣,虽然感觉都很神棍- - 不过EMDR has shown very strong evidence in the literature, 后两项就…… 当然书里也讨论了为什么后两项只有limited evidence。总之感觉读完之后只能接受从developmental trauma的角度看问题了呢。书后的recommended reading感觉都很棒,慢慢学习慢慢读吧。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Abaddon's Gate 豆瓣
6.6 (5 个评分) 作者: James S.A. Corey Orbit 2013 - 6
For generations, the solar system -- Mars, the Moon, the Asteroid Belt -- was humanity's great frontier. Until now. The alien artifact working through its program under the clouds of Venus has appeared in Uranus's orbit, where it has built a massive gate that leads to a starless dark.
Jim Holden and the crew of the Rocinante are part of a vast flotilla of scientific and military ships going out to examine the artifact. But behind the scenes, a complex plot is unfolding, with the destruction of Holden at its core. As the emissaries of the human race try to find whether the gate is an opportunity or a threat, the greatest danger is the one they brought with them.
2018年6月24日 已读
(2018.22) 五天读完了三本,还是挺过瘾的。整体还是比剧差很多,提前知道情节再看剧会有一点点影响体验。正好下一本Cibola Burn读不太下去,还是安心等剧吧~
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Caliban's War 豆瓣
作者: James S.A. Corey Orbit 2012 - 6
We are not alone.
On Ganymede, breadbasket of the outer planets, a Martian marine watches as her platoon is slaughtered by a monstrous supersoldier. On Earth, a high-level politician struggles to prevent interplanetary war from reigniting. And on Venus, an alien protomolecule has overrun the planet, wreaking massive, mysterious changes and threatening to spread out into the solar system.
In the vast wilderness of space, James Holden and the crew of the Rocinante have been keeping the peace for the Outer Planets Alliance. When they agree to help a scientist search war-torn Ganymede for a missing child, the future of humanity rests on whether a single ship can prevent an alien invasion that may have already begun . . .
Caliban's War is a breakneck science fiction adventure following the critically acclaimed Leviathan Wakes .
2018年6月24日 已读
(2018.21) POV多了一些变得好读多了,觉得比其他本都更有意思,可能是因为书里Avasarala swear的更多,看着更过瘾(什么鬼 感觉剧把情节整体改得都更合理了很多啊。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Leviathan Wakes Eggplant.place 豆瓣
作者: James S.A. Corey Orbit 2011 - 6
Humanity has colonized the solar system - Mars, the Moon, the Asteroid Belt and beyond - but the stars are still out of our reach.
Jim Holden is XO of an ice miner making runs from the rings of Saturn to the mining stations of the Belt. When he and his crew stumble upon a derelict ship, The Scopuli , they find themselves in possession of a secret they never wanted. A secret that someone is willing to kill for - and kill on a scale unfathomable to Jim and his crew. War is brewing in the system unless he can find out who left the ship and why.
Detective Miller is looking for a girl. One girl in a system of billions, but her parents have money and money talks. When the trail leads him to The Scopuli and rebel sympathizer Holden, he realizes that this girl may be the key to everything.
Holden and Miller must thread the needle between the Earth government, the Outer Planet revolutionaries, and secretive corporations - and the odds are against them. But out in the Belt, the rules are different, and one small ship can change the fate of the universe.
2018年6月24日 已读
(2018.20) The Expanse的原作小说,果然还是没忍住读了。GOT的感觉是原作S级,剧A ~ A+级;The expanse则是A ~ A+, 剧在A+~A++,取决于接下来的剧情和制作,剧有达到S级的可能。只从原作来说的话,第一本只有两个POV,入戏有点慢,世界观也不够广。不是因为剧的话, 代入感可能会差很多。但因为剧和书虽然大方向相同,细节出入还是非常多,读起来还是有意思的。整体来说剧的改编大部分让情节更合理、推进更迅速了一些。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
The Handmaid's Tale 豆瓣
8.1 (34 个评分) 作者: Margaret Atwood Anchor 1998 - 3
From the bestselling author of Alias Grace and the MaddAddam trilogy, here is the #1 New York Times bestseller and seminal work of speculative fiction from the Booker Prize-winning author.
Now a Hulu series starring Elizabeth Moss, Samira Wiley, and Joseph Fiennes. Includes a new introduction by Margaret Atwood.
Offred is a Handmaid in the Republic of Gilead. She may leave the home of the Commander and his wife once a day to walk to food markets whose signs are now pictures instead of words because women are no longer allowed to read. She must lie on her back once a month and pray that the Commander makes her pregnant, because in an age of declining births, Offred and the other Handmaids are valued only if their ovaries are viable.
Offred can remember the days before, when she lived and made love with her husband Luke; when she played with and protected her daughter; when she had a job, money of her own, and access to knowledge. But all of that is gone now….
Funny, unexpected, horrifying, and altogether convincing, The Handmaid's Tale is at once scathing satire, dire warning, and literary tour de force.
2018年6月7日 已读
(2018.19) 同一个故事有多个媒体表现形式的话,始终会有先入为主的问题。剧第一季的制作水准还蛮高,读书的时候因为知道了基本剧情,就觉得没有那么大的冲击感了;电视剧也加入了很多细节丰富了世界观,对比之下反而显得书有些单薄;开放式的结局也让人觉得不够过瘾。但故事本身还是很不错的,书中描述的情节的确都是现实中发生过、甚至仍然在发生的事情,让人觉得任何一个国家都有退化成Gilead的可能。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【娱】科幻&奇幻
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting 豆瓣
作者: Ph.D. John Gottman / Joan Declaire Simon & Schuster 1998 - 8
Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to: * Be aware of a child's emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.
2018年6月7日 已读
(2018.18) 和How to talk to kids so kids will listen的基本理念相同,都是Emotional Coaching的parenting style。How to偏向self-help,好读好操作;这本偏理论一点,讲研究和理论稍微多一些,后面讲青少年和marriage的内容也蛮有启发的,但实践性会弱一些。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
The Five Love Languages 豆瓣
作者: Gary Chapman Northfield Publishing 1995 - 6
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love may be a many- splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But, more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp
2018年5月8日 已读
(2018.17) A quick read. This book is OK if both parties are emotionally mature, which, let's be honest, is not as common as we wish. The key message here is your way of showing love may not match another person's way of perceiving love. But this book does not deal with any personal baggage, and can even be harmful in the case of domestic violence.
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk 豆瓣 谷歌图书
作者: Faber, Adele; Mazlish, Elaine; Simon and Schuster 2012 - 2
《如何说孩子才会听怎么听孩子才肯说》是美国家庭教育十大畅销书之一,销售300多万册,被译为30多种文字版本广泛传颂,全球父母亲子必读。该书长踞美国畅销书排行榜,长居《纽约时报》亲子类畅销书排行榜,出版20多年长销不衰。
★中国大陆唯一授权正版中文精装本!
★美国最著名的亲子教育书系作者,送给中国父母的最好礼物——爱的技巧和训练。
“你这孩子怎么那么不听话?”面对孩子的行为做父母的常常忍不住脱口而出。是的,天凉了让加衣服就是不加,地板凉可就是要打光脚,就是不要刷牙,就是要把饭弄得满桌子都是,就是不叫叔叔阿姨,就是要把屋子弄得乱七八糟,到吃饭的点了可就是还要看电视,就是不愿意做作业……等等,全是怎么说都不听。
阅读本书的经历,将是一次学习爱的技巧与接受爱的训练的过程, 它给了你走进孩子内心世界的钥匙,指引你切身体会孩子内心的感受。通过一系列实用有效的方法,帮助你和孩子建立起一个能够快乐交流的平台,使孩子变得不同寻常地愿意与父母配合。掌握了“如何说?”“怎么听?”的技巧,就能开启孩子的心灵世界,与孩子达成美妙的交流沟通,让孩子在您的引导下身心健康发展。
Publisher Comments :
You Can Stop Fighting With Your Children
Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children--and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this Twentieth Anniversary Edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based upon feedback they've received over the years.
Their methods of communication-illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action-offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You'll learn how to:
1.Cope with your child's negative feelings-frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.
2.Express your anger without being hurtful
3.Engage your child's willing cooperation
4.Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
5.Use alternatives to punishment
6.Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Amazon.com
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages.
About Author
Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between adults and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have won the gratitude of parents and the enthusiastic endorsement of the professional community.
Their first book, Liberated Parents/Liberated Children, received the Christopher Award for "literary achievement affirming the highest values of the human spirit." Their subsequent books, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk and the #1 New York Times bestseller Siblings Without Rivalry, have sold over 3 million copies and have been translated into more than twenty languages. Their group workshop programs and videos produced by PBS are currently used by thousands of parents' groups around the globe. Their most recent book, How to Talk So Kids Can Learn-At Home and in School, was cited by Child magazine as the "best book of the year for excellence in family issues and education."
Both authors studied with the late child psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott, and are former members of the faculty of The New School for Social Research in New York City and The Family Life Institute of Long Island University. In addition to their frequent lectures throughout the United States and Canada, they have appeared on every major television show from "Good Morning America" to "The Oprah Winfrey Show." They currently reside in Long Island, New York, and each is the parent of three children.
From Los Angeles Times
"Designed to bring adults to the level of children, and children to the level of adults, so that this happy meeting ground can truly make for harmony in the home."
Book Dimension
Height (mm) 206                   Width (mm) 138
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如何说孩子才肯学
2018年5月8日 已读
读完很久了,一直忘记标。很想让所有跟孩子有接触的人都来一本,关起来读完了再放出去233. 说到底无非是把孩子当成一个平等的人,而里面的communication skills无论是做couple counselling,还是interpersonal relationship/social skill training都是通用的。目前做parenting skill training主要在用这本书里的内容,感觉如果有更加偏向treatment manual + research findings的一版就更好了。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学
Self-Regulation Interventions and Strategies 豆瓣
作者: Teresa Garland PESI Publishing & Media 2014 - 3
2018年4月18日 已读
(2018.15) 读到的讲sensory issues in ASD, ADHD and SPD和相应的regulation strategies中比较好的一本,理论和实践都有兼顾,low functioning ASD和很小的孩子这种比较复杂的情况也有照顾到,case study也非常有用。相对来说每一项therapy和intervention讲得都没有那么细,需要继续去读细分领域的书来深入学习,但cover的方向比较全面,整体已经不错了。需要重读记笔记。
【英文是用来啃的…】 【学】心理学