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Taylor Swift 谷歌图书
作者: Helena Hunt Agate Publishing 2019 - 09
Get inside the head of one of the most influential musicians of our time with this collection of her most inspiring and revealing quotes.

The quotations in this book have been carefully curated from Taylor Swift’s numerous public statements—interviews, op-eds, social media posts, and more. It’s a comprehensive picture of her meteoric rise to the top, her ever-savvy business sense, and her increasingly forthright perspective on the music world and beyond.

Swift’s catchy, chart-topping songs have propelled her to become one of the bestselling musicians of all time. But in the more than fifteen years she’s been making music, she has also amassed enough power to buck the norms of an industry notorious for controlling the images of its often very young female artists. She’s stood up for herself and for other artists, championing their rights to fair royalties, and inspired tens of thousands of fans to register to vote. Swift’s achievements have earned her spots on both Forbes’s Most Powerful Women and Time’s 100 Most Influential People lists. Now, for the first time, you can find her most inspirational, thought-provoking quotes in one place.
2024年4月19日 已读
An extremely specially memoir from Swift which is not even written by herself. The author picks those comments of Swift together under some certain topics and let the reader know in detail about what Swift has been through and what kind of a personality Swift is growing into. Those sound pick-ups also reveal some of the key reasons why she is becoming one of the most popular,trending and appealing super stars in this planet. Some of those clues are indeed worthy of some takeaway notes. "When things end, I hope that the other one can think good things of me."
memoir progressive liberalism facts society taylor swift
Robot Dreams 豆瓣
作者: Varon, Sara First Second 2007 - 8
This moving, charming graphic novel about a dog and a robot shows us in poignant detail how powerful and fragile relationships are. After a Labor Day jaunt to the beach leaves the robot rusted, immobilized in the sand, the dog must return alone to the life they shared. But the memory of theirfriendship lingers, and as the seasons pass, the dog tries to fill the emotional void left by the loss of his closest friend, making and losing a series of friends, from a melting snowman to epicurean anteaters. But for the robot, lyingrusting on the beach,the only relief from loneliness is in dreams.
2024年4月13日 已读
Pretty sure this is a heartbreaking love story. We are both going for our own life but when that melody goes, I still remember those precious moments once we had together.
comic love
Pride and Prejudice (Barnes & Noble Classics) 豆瓣
作者: [英国] 简·奥斯汀 Barnes & Noble Classics 2004 - 5
Pride and Prejudice , by Jane Austen , is part of the Barnes & Noble Classics series, which offers quality editions at affordable prices to the student and the general reader, including new scholarship, thoughtful design, and pages of carefully crafted extras. Here are some of the remarkable features of Barnes & Noble Classics :
All editions are beautifully designed and are printed to superior specifications; some include illustrations of historical interest. Barnes & Noble Classics pulls together a constellation of influences—biographical, historical, and literary—to enrich each reader's understanding of these enduring works. 'It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.' Thus memorably begins Jane Austen 's Pride and Prejudice , one of the world's most popular novels. Pride and Prejudice —Austen's own 'darling child'—tells the story of fiercely independent Elizabeth Bennet, one of five sisters who must marry rich, as she confounds the arrogant, wealthy Mr. Darcy. What ensues is one of the most delightful and engrossingly readable courtships known to literature, written by a precocious Austen when she was just twenty-one years old.
Humorous and profound, and filled with highly entertaining dialogue, this witty comedy of manners dips and turns through drawing-rooms and plots to reach an immensely satisfying finale. In the words of Eudora Welty, Pride and Prejudice is as 'irresistible and as nearly flawless as any fiction could be.'
0in 0in 0pt"> Carol Howard , educated at SUNY Purchase and Columbia University, where she received her Ph.D. in 1999, chairs the English Department and teaches in the Theater Department at Warren Wilson College in Asheville, North Carolina. She has published essays on early British and contemporary African-American women writers and has coedited two books on British writers (1996, 1997). Her primary scholarly interest is the literature of seventeenth- and eighteenth-century England.
2024年4月1日 已读
It’s extremely satisfying to see two mature personalities possessing self-respect, sharing deep thoughts, happening to grow up mentally together and finally being attentive to each other. We need more of this kind of discourse on affection for our next generation and ironically Jane Austen finished this story back in 18c.
janeausten 英国 简奥斯汀 literature 社会
额尔古纳河右岸 豆瓣
7.8 (23 个评分) 作者: 迟子建 北京十月文艺出版社 2005
如果说我的这部长篇分为四个乐章的话,那么第一乐章的《清晨》是单纯靖新、悠扬浪漫的;第二乐章的《正午》沉静舒缓、端誫雄浑;进入第三乐章的《黄昏》,它是急风暴雨式的,斑驳杂响,如我们正经历着的这个时代,掺杂报一缕缕的不和谐音。而到了第四乐章的《尾声》,它又回到了初始的和谐与安恬,应该是一首满怀憧憬的小夜曲,或者是弥散着钟声的安魂曲,我不知道自己谱写的这部心中的交响曲是否会有听众。我没有那么大的奢望要获得众生的喝彩,如果有一些人对它给予发自内心的掌声,我也就满足了。
2024年3月19日 已读
除却部分人物的结局以外,一些故事细节的确让我触动:原本那些溪流星罗密布,都没有名字。而如今已然尽数消逝;尼都萨满发现无论自己如何跳神,“黄病”也无法驱除;“我”迷山至溪湖一角,看见山鹿母女的依偎温存...喜欢作者在遣词上的克制,尽量还原叙述者的语言质地;我也喜欢与叙事梅花间竹的史俗传说。唯一感到可惜的是妮浩萨满的塑造:生与死的执着与置换,真有必要置设这么个轮回吗?最后我想到的是,那些离去返回的彷徨者,其实都被剥夺了探观理解世界的自主权。不同的世界观、价值取向的式微,也让所有人的想象世界黯淡无光。看了这个使鹿鄂温克族的长篇,我也似乎对原民狩猎的题目有了新的理解。
使鹿鄂温克人 迟子建 记忆 自然 文学
我的原始森林笔记 豆瓣
作者: 格日勒其木格·黑鹤 天天出版社
2024年3月17日 已读
“摇响盐袋子那一刻,循声穿越茂密灌木丛的驯鹿回到营地,取食袋中的盐分。那一刻,驯鹿是驯鹿,使鹿鄂温克人是使鹿鄂温克人。”
人类学 黑鹤 历史 自然
Reading Lolita in Tehran 豆瓣
作者: Azar Nafisi Random House 2003
Every Thursday morning for two years in the Islamic Republic of Iran, a bold and inspired teacher named Azar Nafisi secretly gathered seven of her most committed female students to read forbidden Western classics. As Islamic morality squads staged arbitrary raids in Tehran, fundamentalists seized hold of the universities, and a blind censor stifled artistic expression, the girls in Azar Nafisi’s living room risked removing their veils and immersed themselves in the worlds of Jane Austen, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Henry James, and Vladimir Nabokov. In this extraordinary memoir, their stories become intertwined with the ones they are reading. Reading Lolita in Tehran is a remarkable exploration of resilience in the face of tyranny and a celebration of the liberating power of literature.
2024年2月14日 已读
"You can't write about Austen if you didn't read it here." "Empathy is the heart of literature." "We can't exist if we can't communicate our private immagination, dreams, desires publicly. " "We will eventually keep facts just to ourselves if we can't recreate them with our emotions,feelings,memories etc."
That is a book I want to enter the second reading round right at the moment I finish it. The story of those reading ladies in Iran is an incredible novel itself.
Iran 共情能力 理解力 literature 自我成长
Smart Moves 谷歌图书 豆瓣
作者: Carla Hannaford Great River Books 2005 - 6
Neurophysiologist and educator Dr. Carla Hannaford brings the latest insights from scientific research to questions that affect learners of all ages. Examining the body's role in learning, from infancy through adulthood she presents the mounting scientific evidence that movement is crucial to learning.Dr. Hannaford offers clear alternatives and remedies that people can put into practice right away to make a real difference in their ability to learn.She advocates more enlightened educational practices for homes and schools including: a more holistic view of each learner; less emphasis on rote learning; more experiential, active instruction; less labeling of learning disabilities; more physical movement; more personal expression through arts, sports and music; less prescribing of Ritalin and other drugs whose long term effects are not even known.
2024年1月13日 已读
What an inspirative and insightful book which covers plenty of basic findings inside the brain science. Dr. Hannaford offers us a persuasive invitation to the perspective that the brain growth is strongly relative to the integrated movements of the whole body, and gives out a lot of practical nurturing advices.
Besides, as an on-some-level-limited-profile person, Dr. Hannaford reminds those educators to consider MORE of the Dominance profiles diversity so that we can deliver a promising reform to our disappointing public education system which keeps failing most children. I'm so looking foward to digging deeper into Brain Gym and The Dominance Profiles.
小孩共和国 豆瓣
L’Internationale des républiques d’enfants (1939-1955)
作者: [法] 萨米埃尔·布雄 / [法] 马蒂亚斯·加尔代 译者: 马雅 / 陈秋含 广东人民出版社 2023 - 9
国际教育史上声势浩大又草草落幕的大胆实验。
二战中数以百万计的孤儿被组织起来,形成自治“小国家”……
那些在小小身躯和头脑里结出来的果实,成为后世丰富的遗产。
1948年,联合国教科文组织举办了一场重要会议,汇集了当时欧美诸国的教育界、慈善界精英,号召其进行一场社会实验,将二战中数以百万计的孤儿组织起来,让这些孩子形成自己的自治“共和国”,肩负“市长”“警察”等社会职责……在这一个个小小“政体”背后,教育家们试图在孩子们身上实践自己的教育理念,看这些小小的身躯和头脑里能结出什么样的果实。这次实验虽然在20世纪50年代遗憾落幕,但它给后世的教育改革、慈善事业管理、儿童心理学和人道组织行动方式留下了丰富的遗产。
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★在千疮百孔的战后欧洲,面对流离失所的儿童们,人道主义者合力展开的教育自救。
第二次世界大战后,数以百万计的儿童,无论是孤儿还是被残酷地与父母分离的孩子,都被安置在儿童营地或村庄。这种人道主义援助与教育乌托邦相辅相成——教师、牧师、医生和精神科医生在紧急情况下,受新教育和“自治”思想的启发,建立了儿童团体“小孩共和国”。从意大利到匈牙利,在法国和德国,孩子们变身年轻的工人,他们选举“政府”“法院”等“权力机关”,力图为重建被摧毁的欧洲作出贡献。
★战争受难儿童的避风港,新教育理念的试验田,国际教育史上声势浩大的大胆尝试。
在二战期间,尤其是在战争走向结束的那段时间,欧洲各国出现了大量“儿童村”,接收战争受难儿童,建立“儿童村”的成年人用新教育方式帮助孩子们重建身心——孩子们组建并管理自己的“政府”,还有自己的“法院”、“警察部队”、合作社、报纸,甚至他们本“国”专有的“货币”。这样大胆的尝试,也是迄今国际教育史上绝无仅有的教育实验。
★ 一段以儿童为主角的隐秘历史,重新定义教育与社会、困厄与重建、个体与国家的关系。
由于当事人的故去、档案的尘封、时代的更迭,“小孩共和国”的这段历史长期未能受到世人的关注,本书围绕1948年联合国教科文组织举办的特罗根“儿童村”领导人会议,重回这些“小孩共和国”的组织者、建设者曾经置身的历史现场,追踪他们的教育实验经历,揭示不同时期“小孩共和国”的亲历者不为人知的社会背景和意识形态,充分体现了身处历史激流中的人与人、个体与社会的互动、包容与妥协。
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这本书反映了实地志愿者和资助者之间的紧张关系,他们都是人道主义者,但不一定秉持相同的策略和方向。书中的孩子们经历了战争的痛苦,比那些相对没有经历过同样程度的困难和危险的孩子成熟得更快。这个基于绝对真理和诚实的体系,首先是为了唤起孩子对自己和他人的社会责任感,从而找到正确的人生道路。
——前法国红十字会培训学院培训主管、评论家伊夫·福库普(Yves Faucoup)
我们该如何处理战争受害儿童,以及所有那些发现自己被残酷地剥夺了住所、父母和家庭的人的问题?数以百万计的孤儿或被遗弃的儿童在街头流浪或流离失所,成为摧毁他们世界的冲突的受害者。从慈善、人道主义到教育事业,各种经验开始不断涌现,以帮助这些儿童,而这本书的作者们追溯的正是这段被遗忘的历史。三位作者选择了一种独特的形式。全书12章中的每一章都配有丰富的照片和档案文件,都聚焦于一个独特的事件,最终拼成了一幅精确而富有启发性的整体图景,就像这些看似独立的努力彼此连接,形成了一个共同的网络。
——法国《解放报》(Libération)
借助独家档案和大量图像资料,本书展示了一个充满人道主义、新教育精神和乌托邦情怀的教育和政治世界。
——法国《世界报》(Le Monde)
2024年1月4日 已读
太阳底下无新鲜事。不该复读“乌托邦、理想主义尽皆幼稚”的陈词滥调,而应不厌其烦地强调:儿童的任何惨状都是成人的傲慢自私所致的可耻失败。抛开时代知识积累的局限仍然可见,“小孩共和国”必然失败的背后,是各种私利的循环:大到对战争责任的逃避、急不及待的意识形态扩张、regime合法性争夺,小到所偏好的学术理论自证、组织建制盈利盘算...无论如何,在被安排的理想主义戏剧之中,孩子从来都不是自主自由的实践者。ta们被安排了一项超越其能力范围的教育理想实验,只能毫不意外地引导出唯一的结局:成人的过错被掩盖饶恕,其权威却更见增长。引致战争的社会秩序也被保留延续。到最后,人类下一代的教育所需依旧被置于各种斗争之后。这段历史的重新挖掘,真的会让傲慢的成人有所反思吗?Doubt that.
教育 社会学 世界史 心理学 文化
The Gentrification of the Internet 豆瓣
作者: Jessa Lingel University of California Press 2021 - 4
The internet has become a battleground. Although it was unlikely to live up to the hype and hopes of the 1990s, only the most skeptical cynics could have predicted the World Wide Web as we know it today: commercial, isolating, and full of, even fueled by, bias. This was not inevitable. The Gentrification of the Internet argues that much like our cities, the internet has become gentrified, dominated by the interests of business and capital rather than the interests of the people who use it. Jessa Lingel uses the politics and debates of gentrification to diagnose the massive, systemic problems blighting our contemporary internet: erosions of privacy and individual ownership, small businesses wiped out by wealthy corporations, the ubiquitous paywall. But there are still steps we can take to reclaim the heady possibilities of the early internet. Lingel outlines actions that internet activists and everyday users can take to defend and secure more protections for the individual and to carve out more spaces of freedom for the people—not businesses—online.
小孩儿也会有烦恼:藏在童诗里的秘密 豆瓣
作者: 方刚 湖南教育出版社 2022 - 11
本套童诗集收录了教育专家方刚博士精心创作的150多首童诗。他理解孩子们成长过程中遇到的挑战和微妙的心理,以一颗柔软之心深深地与孩子们共情,既写出了孩子们眼里五彩斑斓的世界,头脑中天马行空的奇思妙想,更写出了孩子们清澈天真的童心。
在这些诗中,枯树枝变身“魔杖”,孩子拿着它调遣驾着白云的“天兵天将”;水果店是天然的“军火库”,香蕉手枪,橘子手榴弹,大战在头脑中随时上演。在这里,孩子们自由地说出他们渴望的“对小孩说话的方式”,说出他们心目中爸爸妈妈的样子。
大咖推荐:
当孩子依偎着爸爸妈妈读方刚老师这些诗的时候,也许读着读着,他就愿意打开心扉,跟父母聊一聊他的内心想法了。要是父母们能多听一听孩子的话,多陪他们玩一玩,未来就能少一些“空心病”。
——心理咨询专家,北大心理学博士 徐凯文
我希望忙碌的父母们能停下来,和孩子一起读一读方刚老师这套童诗集。父母的陪伴会促进孩子健康、激发心灵的成长,有诗歌的童年会滋养孩子一生。
——作家,诗人,心理学博士,中国心理学会注册督导师 訾非
方刚老师是我的老乡,满身都是大爱的情怀和柔性的细节。今天的孩子被作业和考试蹂躏,被成人世界苛责和否定,也许有一条路可以通往孩子的内心,那就是共情的瞬间、赋能的时刻、诗意的氛围。方刚老师的诗,让孩子们学会了飞翔。
——著名心理学家,上海体育学院心理学教授 贺岭峰
作为一位性与性别、婚姻家庭领域的学者,方刚的童诗显得与众不同,既有天马行空的想象力,又巧妙地将性别教育、身体教育、安全教育的内容融入其中,让父母读起来不尴尬,孩子接受起来也自然。在读童诗的过程中孩子们也将潜移默化地学到自我保护的知识。
——性别研究专家,中华女子学院教授 李洪涛
方刚老师以儿童视角写小孩子眼中的世界,充满了童趣和想象力。特别值得一提的是,其中对儿童的烦恼的心理刻画惟妙惟肖,展现了儿童心理的另一面。
这样的诗歌,可以让儿童的心灵得到接纳、满足和愉悦。
——童书及儿童阅读研究专家, “性别平等童书100”课题专家 徐美玲
在这些童诗里,方刚博士把小孩子的小心思写得真实又有趣,读起来很好玩。它架起了亲子沟通的桥梁,希望家长们有空能和孩子一起读一读。
——资深心理咨询师 张沛超
2023年12月31日 已读
Playing to Win 豆瓣
作者: Hilary Levey Friedman / 希拉里·弗里德曼 University of California Press 2013 - 8
Playing to Win: Raising Children in a Competitive Culture follows the path of elementary school-age children involved in competitive dance, youth travel soccer, and scholastic chess. Why do American children participate in so many adult-run activities outside of the home, especially when family time is so scarce? By analyzing the roots of these competitive after school activities and their contemporary effects, Playing to Win contextualizes elementary school-age children's activities, and suggests they have become proving grounds for success in the tournament of life - especially when it comes to coveted admission to elite universities, and beyond. In offering a behind-the-scenes look at how "Tiger Moms" evolve, Playing to Win introduces concepts like competitive kid capital, the carving up of honor, and pink warrior girls. Perfect for those interested in childhood and family, education, gender, and inequality, Playing to Win details the structures shaping American children's lives as they learn how to play to win.
Finding Gobi: The True Story of One Little Dog's Big Journey 豆瓣
Athlete Dion Leonard was befriended by a stray dog while running an ultramarathon through the Gobi Desert. Named for the desert in which he found her, Gobi became Dion's closest companion for 77 miles of the 155-mile race across China. The scrappy little pup ran mile after mile alongside Dion, through treacherous conditions and across raging rivers. He let her sleep in his tent and share his food, and, eventually, his focus shifted from winning to the newfound friendship he and Gobi shared. They crossed the finish line together-not first, but together-and Dion decided to bring Gobi home to Scotland. Just before they were about to leave, however, Gobi disappeared, setting off a worldwide search for the stray. In a town of more than three million people, the search seemed hopeless, but this tale of friendship will surprise and delight you as you find out what happens!
2023年12月31日 已读
Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing Goodreads 豆瓣
6.9 (12 个评分) 作者: Matthew Perry Flatiron Books 2022 - 11
The beloved star of Friends takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this candid, funny, and revelatory memoir that delivers a powerful message of hope and persistence
In an extraordinary story that only he could tell, Matthew Perry takes readers onto the soundstage of the most successful sitcom of all time while opening up about his private struggles with addiction. Candid, self-aware, and told with his trademark humor, Perry vividly details his lifelong battle with the disease and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.
Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that shares the most intimate details of the love Perry lost, his darkest days, and his greatest friends.
Unflinchingly honest, moving, and hilarious: this is the book fans have been waiting for.
2023年12月31日 已读
梅里雪山 豆瓣 Goodreads
梅里雪山 十七人の友を探して
8.3 (34 个评分) 作者: [日]小林尚礼 译者: 乌尼尔 北京联合出版公司 2021 - 5
1991年1月,云南梅里雪山发生了震惊世界的登山事故,中日友好联合登山队十七名队员遭遇雪崩,全部遇难。这是人类登山史上的第二大山难。在一百多年的现代登山史上,梅里雪山也成为人类唯一无法登顶的山峰。事故发生后,中日双方进行了多方搜索。搜索队伍中一位名叫小林尚礼的日本登山队员,更在之后的二十多年里,为了让山难队友们的亡灵回到亲人身边,一再深入梅里雪山搜寻,并已成功找到了十六具遗体。《梅里雪山:寻找十七位友人》,就是小林尚礼多年艰辛搜寻的记录。本书以纪录片式平实而细腻的文字,壮美与温柔兼具的影像,记录了令人心碎的恐怖山难,艰辛的搜寻,梅里雪山的神秘风貌,山脚下人们的朴素生活,三次转山之旅和当地生活的变化。在跨越多年的搜寻中,他从傲慢的外来登山者,逐渐转变成为神山的守护者,一位自然主题的摄影师和作家。而雪山之残酷与神圣,自然对其心灵和生活的荡涤,也同样荡涤每一个热爱雪山、热爱自然的灵魂。
2023年12月31日 已读
孩子的专注力,90%可以靠控糖提升:三岛学堂的神奇育儿法 豆瓣
作者: [日]三岛学著 [日]江部康二主编 谢嘉怡译 / 正清出品 译者: 谢嘉怡译 天津科学技术出版社 2023 - 8
1. 日本高雄医院理事长江部康二+日本冈田小儿科医院院长冈田清春+日本新宿沟口诊所院长沟口彻 联合推荐
2. 本书集合了日本升学率超高的知名育儿研究所三岛学堂教育方法的所有精华,是一本关于如何通过控制饮食中的糖分来帮助孩子提升学习能力的书。
•厨房与课堂同样重要,孩子在课堂上的很多问题,可以通过调整饮食来解决;
•培养专注力,得从厨房开始。如果孩子注意力不集中,理解力差,看看孩子的饮食;
•孩子的学习成绩或许不取决于基因、老师或学校,很可能取决于孩子早餐吃的是油条稀饭还是牛奶鸡蛋。
3. 透过控糖饮食,孩子有了这些变化!
★原本三个孩子学习总是不专心,后来改变了饮食习惯,注意力大幅提升,也不用我催着他们学习了。(k女士)
★抗压能力增强,情绪更稳定。(雄太妈妈)
★学习积极性提高,一天能念14小时的书,顺利冲刺考上一志愿。(C妈妈)
4.本书收录了一周经典食谱,孩子爱吃又有营养!
内容简介
日本有一所神奇的学堂,叫三岛学堂,可以在很短时间内把“学渣”变成“学霸”。
三岛学堂每年只招生40名学生,却有数千名家长慕名而来。
尤为神奇的是,三岛学堂的成功秘诀不是在课堂,而是在厨房,不是靠老师,而是靠厨师。他们认为学生学习不专心,打瞌睡,或急躁易怒、情绪不稳定,极有可能是饮食出了问题。例如,如果学生每天早上摄入大量碳水化合物, 比如油条、稀饭和馒头,那么他们的血糖难免不产生波动,而随着血糖的忽高忽低,孩子会感受到不同程度的疲劳、无力、紧张和焦虑,在学习时便很难集中精力。所以,学堂致力于通过“控糖饮食” 来提升孩子的专注力和学习成绩。
本书囊括了三岛学堂的所有精华,告诉我们:孩子的学习成绩不完全取决于基因,也不完全取决于学校和老师,很可能取决于父母早餐给孩子吃的是牛奶鸡蛋,还是油条稀饭。
2023年12月31日 已读
生育对话录 豆瓣
作者: 宋涵 生活•读书•新知三联书店 生活书店出版有限公司 2017 - 1
我笃信
生育是最严肃的生活哲学
我既不逃避对生育的怀疑
也不逃避对生命的深情
——宋 涵
《生育对话录》诚实地探讨了女性生育困惑,那些女性关心的问题,如对女性身份的认知、对婚姻的理解、对亲情的感受、对选择的惶恐等都能在本书里找到思考角度和解答之法,经历了生育的迷思,人们会对生命有一个确信。
16人对话的写作形式,每个人一种身份,从女性主义者专家到全职太太,从丁克族到新手妈妈,每个人都带来一个新故事一种新视角,给读者真实、坦诚的阅读感受。
如果我们没有想明白,为什么要去生孩子?
从问自己到问生命,宋涵陪伴着我们走过一个女人从单身到妈妈的过程,在生命的惊涛骇浪上,让我们有一个清醒而暖心的智性之辨。
2023年10月1日 已读
作者从恐育的立场提出了许多有效、值得深思的生养议题。不过,后来她通过咨询发现,自己在恐育之余却无法坚决丁克的背后,是过往原生家庭创伤导致的“自我决定的孤独”。经历了努力跨越,作者最终克服了一部分的自恋,重新尝试与世界建立联结。这段女性成长经历真值得读者与其同庆。
就是书稿最后的部分又陷入了另一种虚浮的状态:鼓吹母职天经地义的文字渐增,几乎与最初的议题完全脱节。作者无法在新状态下再回望最初的议题,确为遗憾。而且,这部书稿最终的状态,必然会让一部分读者误解:你看,那些恐育的女性肯定“都是自己有问题”,最后都会“回归正常”。
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