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Sketch and Finish 开放图书馆
作者: Milton Glaser Princeton Architectural Press 2020
2025年9月16日 已读
作者 Milton Glaser 是设计了 I ❤️ NY 的那位,这本书里是他的各种商业非商业作品同时把 sketch 和 final work 放一起,有些蛮有趣的对比。就,一个东西明明看起来已经很完整了嘛,结果人家才是大佬的 sketch 🤪 好的我继续学
An American Sickness: How Healthcare Became Big Business and How You Can Take It Back Goodreads
作者: Elisabeth Rosenthal Random House Large Print Publishing 2017 - 4
"This book will serve as the definitive guide to the past and future of health care in America."
At a moment of drastic political upheaval,
is a shocking investigation into our dysfunctional healthcare system - and offers practical solutions to its myriad problems.
In these troubled times, perhaps no institution has unraveled more quickly and more completely than American medicine. In only a few decades, the medical system has been overrun by organizations seeking to exploit for profit the trust that vulnerable and sick Americans place in their healthcare. Our politicians have proven themselves either unwilling or incapable of reining in the increasingly outrageous costs faced by patients, and market-based solutions only seem to funnel larger and larger sums of our money into the hands of corporations. Impossibly high insurance premiums and inexplicably large bills have become facts of life; fatalism has set in. Very quickly Americans have been made to accept paying more for less. How did things get so bad so fast?
Breaking down this monolithic business into the individual industries--the hospitals, doctors, insurance companies, and drug manufacturers--that together constitute our healthcare system, Rosenthal exposes the recent evolution of American medicine as never before. How did healthcare, the caring endeavor, become healthcare, the highly profitable industry? Hospital systems, which are managed by business executives, behave like predatory lenders, hounding patients and seizing their homes. Research charities are in bed with big pharmaceutical companies, which surreptitiously profit from the donations made by working people. Patients receive bills in code, from entrepreneurial doctors they never even saw.
The system is in tatters, but we can fight back. Dr. Elisabeth Rosenthal doesn't just explain the symptoms, she diagnoses and treats the disease itself. In clear and practical terms, she spells out exactly how to decode medical doublespeak, avoid the pitfalls of the pharmaceuticals racket, and get the care you and your family deserve. She takes you inside the doctor-patient relationship and to hospital C-suites, explaining step-by-step the workings of a system badly lacking transparency. This is about what we can do, as individual patients, both to navigate the maze that is American healthcare and also to demand far-reaching reform.
is the frontline defense against a healthcare system that no longer has our well-being at heart.
2025年9月16日 已读 内容写的特别好、特别深,但是太难读了……好几次出现蛮重要的一句话,怎么都读不通句子结构,要去找 gpt 老师教英文的情况……就,虽然我英语不是很很好吧,但是最近几年读英文书和杂志最多也就是需要查点儿日常用不到的单词大部分就能通了。感觉和作者是医院的 residency 出身又转去做 NYT 记者的深厚背景可能相关,用词和句子结构都很偏 formal。等过几年英语再变厉害点再来读。
The Almanack of Naval Ravikant Eggplant.place 豆瓣
8.8 (24 个评分) 作者: Naval Ravikant / Eric Jorgenson Magrathea Publishing 2020 - 9
Getting rich is not just about luck; happiness is not just a trait we are born with. These aspirations may seem out of reach, but building wealth and being happy are skills we can learn.
So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like?
Naval Ravikant is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and investor who has captivated the world with his principles for building wealth and creating long-term happiness. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant is a collection of Naval’s wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections. This isn’t a how-to book, or a step-by-step gimmick. Instead, through Naval’s own words, you will learn how to walk your own unique path toward a happier, wealthier life.
This book has been created as a public service. It is available for free download in pdf and e-reader versions on Navalmanack.com. Naval is not earning any money on this book. Naval has essays, podcasts and more at Nav.al and is on Twitter @Naval.
2025年9月9日 已读
wealth 的部分在最近 mindset shifting 的阶段让这个 shift 的方向变清晰了许多,happiness 容我再自大一阵子暂时并不想听人指点。关于使用 labour、capital、code 和 media 做 leverage 的递进关系还有许多要思考的事情。房地产开发的例子也还没有完全想清楚。承担风险、责任、reputation / accountability 和未来的 payback 之间的关系也还需要更多实践的体会。是要反复回来读的一本书。
百年孤独 Goodreads 豆瓣
Cien años de soledad
9.5 (1037 个评分) 作者: [哥伦比亚] 加西亚·马尔克斯 译者: 范晔 南海出版公司 2011 - 6
《百年孤独》是魔幻现实主义文学的代表作,描写了布恩迪亚家族七代人的传奇故事,以及加勒比海沿岸小镇马孔多的百年兴衰,反映了拉丁美洲一个世纪以来风云变幻的历史。作品融入神话传说、民间故事、宗教典故等神秘因素,巧妙地糅合了现实与虚幻,展现出一个瑰丽的想象世界,成为20世纪最重要的经典文学巨著之一。1982年加西亚•马尔克斯获得诺贝尔文学奖,奠定世界级文学大师的地位,很大程度上乃是凭借《百年孤独》的巨大影响。
2025年7月14日 已读
Take the Long Way Home 谷歌图书
作者: Jon Claytor Conundrum Press 2022
A classic road trip memoir about love, family, and surprisingly conversational wildlife. In 2019, artist Jon Claytor said good-bye to the Maritimes and hit the road. His destination: an artist's residency in Prince Rupert, where he planned to work on a graphic novel about his eight-week journey across Canada. But this story, like most, isn't about the destination.When Jon sets out, he's less than two years sober, he's recently broken up with his girlfriend, and his mother has just revealed a startling family secret. As Jon drives, he makes frequent stops to visit exes and children, old friends and new, and attends meetings to support his sobriety. He sorts through memories of his past, reconciling them with his present--and makes amends, seeks wisdom from wildlife, and learns the value of getting lost along the way.
In Take the Long Way Home, Claytor explores alcoholism, love, and family through heart-rending vignettes and expressive linework. This is the story of a man who unpacks a difficult past, only to discover that even at his lowest point, he was never truly alone.
2025年6月23日 已读
在图书馆 graphic novel 展示 section 碰到的,想要借来细读一个是因为材料是我很想做的那种黑白灰,用一根 fine liner + 三四个灰度的马克笔就能画完一本书;另一个是因为老哥是……超重度 alcoholic,借书那会儿因为状态不好所以发展成吃完早饭就开始喝酒了,所以想……预防一下;还有一个是因为老哥这本书是关于一个三个月的 journey,从加东一路 road trip 到加西,做几个月的 residency,再一路开回来,三个月的人生 reflection。读完整本,感受也蛮复杂的。当喝酒不是人生的问题、而是人生的 solution 的时候,反复陷入酗酒和对人生的绝望在这本书里体现的淋漓尽致。他搞砸一段又一段关系,生了五个孩子经常因为酗酒而不得不缺席但陪伴在孩子身边的时候又充满爱意。后来去看老哥的 CV,91年读完第一个艺术本科、95-98读完第二个艺术本科,后来有些零散的工作,一直到2010-12年读完 MFA之后才开始有持续的各种工作,可能从1990到2010这20年里大哥都在和酗酒拉锯。现在大哥产出爆棚,每个月还在 Nova Scotia 的一个 emergency shelter 里教画画。这本书最后的落脚点在克服酗酒不需要独自面对,哪怕自己再烂、身边的家人、朋友、戒酒会的 sponsor 给自己的爱和支持会给超级力量。大哥在 CBC news 还画过人物专栏,之后慢慢看:https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/author/jon-claytor-1.5977841
我在废土世界扫垃圾 晋江文学
8.4 (16 个评分) 作者: 有花在野
正在末日带头打丧尸的祝宁穿越了,这次她穿越到了废土世界。
这个世界百分之八十的土地都被污染。
人类都被划分为五个等级,她成了最低级的五等公民,也就是倒霉的残次品
一穷二白的祝宁不得不去当清洁工扫垃圾。
听说,在废土世界扫垃圾钱多事儿少,堪称梦中情工。
只不过……这个扫垃圾怎么跟她理解的不一样?
进入消失的一号线,她碰到了拎着公文包,长着鱼头的鱼人。
进入网红火锅店,这家火锅店会吃人!
进入鬼宅,这间房子半夜家具会动,还会追杀主人。
就连理论上应该温馨治愈的海洋馆,都能遇到强行要求繁衍的人鱼,吸血的机械水母,还有未知的透明生物。
进个牙医诊所,一伸手,天上开始下牙齿雨。
……
不仅如此,清洁公司好像憋着什么大秘密。
人工智能疑似幕后黑手。
医药公司一脸黑心样!
祝宁莫名其妙卷入争端,走错一步都容易短命。
废土世界,人人都长着八百个心眼。
祝宁:老天是不是在玩儿我?


阅读指南:
1、有点赛博朋克风副本流,副本故事串联,世界观是墙内赛博墙外废土,前期在墙内后期在墙外。
2、污染区域内有一丢丢恐怖元素,微恐
3、女主最强!
4、全文架空,请勿代入现实


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欢迎收藏预收文《我真不想继承豪华别墅啊》
有天她突然收到了一通电话。
远房富婆阿姨死前给她留了一栋豪华大别墅,她是唯一继承人。
还有这种好事?
当天收拾行李立即赶往乡下,果然是豪华大别墅,宛如古堡。
就是看上去有些阴森森的。
穷比鬼更可怕,阴间别墅怎么了?只要她入住就是阳间的!
入住第一天,厕所滴下血红色的水。
入住第二天,半夜墙中女人哭泣。
入住第三天,一张惨白的脸紧紧相贴。
特么的这房子闹鬼!她怕自己早死。
她连夜跑路,一路跑回破旧出租屋,好不容易喘口气,打开厕所门。
她愣住了。
阴间别墅,它追上来了!


她认命走进阴间别墅,迎面撞上“它们”的遗愿清单
这里的生物非常客气,上赶着给她送遗产
也算是和蔼可亲宇宙好邻居,就是给她的生活造成了一点点小麻烦
她把朋友邀请来家中做客,说:“不好意思,我家人有点多,不过你放心,都是很好说话的。”
朋友瑟瑟发抖:“.....有没有一种可能,我说假设,我说的不一定对,你就是随便听下,你是不是撞鬼了啊?!”

立意:自强不息
2025年6月7日 已读
怎么点这个屏幕它都无法超过五星啊!希望很多年后还能想到这五天废寝忘食读这本书的样子,就像现在我还记得十几年前趴在硬板床上躲在被子里打手电偷偷熬夜读《简爱》和《飘》的样子一样。我想寻找母女关系的解,它给了好多视角;我一直逃避死亡,它展示了当死亡每天都在敲门的样子;我画不出来角色设计,它 chua chua chua 丢出几十个特色羡慕又互相关联的角色;我固执的觉得有些东西我不需要,它温柔的告诉我,其实我很想要。应该是第一次对一个文儿产生了臣服的感觉,大概是作者大大的精神控制异能吧 哈哈哈。阅读过程感受串儿:https://go5.dev/@teabagpot/114608610861870431
My Autobiography of Carson McCullers: A Memoir 谷歌图书
作者: Jenn Shapland Tin House Books 2020 - 02
Winner of the Publishing Triangle Judy Grahn Award for Lesbian Nonfiction, Phi Beta Kappa Christian Gauss Award, and a Lambda Literary Award Finalist for the National Book Award Longlisted for the Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Nonfiction How do you tell the real story of someone misremembered—an icon and idol—alongside your own? Jenn Shapland’s celebrated debut is both question and answer: an immersive, surprising exploration of one of America’s most beloved writers, alongside a genre-defying examination of identity, queerness, memory, obsession, and love. Shapland is a graduate student when she first uncovers letters written to Carson McCullers by a woman named Annemarie. Though Shapland recognizes herself in the letters, which are intimate and unabashed in their feelings, she does not see McCullers as history has portrayed her. Her curiosity gives way to fixation, not just with this newly discovered side of McCullers’s life, but with how we tell queer love stories. Why, Shapland asks, are the stories of women paved over by others’ narratives? What happens when constant revision is required of queer women trying to navigate and self-actualize in straight spaces? And what might the tracing of McCullers’s life—her history, her secrets, her legacy—reveal to Shapland about herself? In smart, illuminating prose, Shapland interweaves her own story with McCullers’s to create a vital new portrait of one of our nation’s greatest literary treasures, and shows us how the writers we love and the stories we tell about ourselves make us who we are.
2025年1月21日 已读
这本书之前听过,但是听得云里雾里的就糊弄过去了。这次在雪后难行的 Montreal 穿着美丽废物 Dr Martins 踩着下了一夜、及脚踝的松软的雪小心翼翼的挪动了10分钟,走进一家全是法文的书店,在不起眼的角落终于看到几本能看懂的英文书!那种在陌生坏境和茫茫人海里猛然看到一个熟人,终于能上去聊几句天的感觉~因为这本书拿了奖,但是当时听的七零八碎的,不知道是哪里有问题。拿起实体书一翻,原来这本书每一个章节只有三五页,而且把 Carson 的故事和作者自己的故事穿插在一起,过渡也没有非常明显的界限,如果不是专心的听很容易就散掉了,实在是正常。

Carson Mccullers,1917-1967,生长在美国南方州的小说家,和一个男人结了两次婚,这段婚姻充满了心理虐待和创伤;男方至少是个 bi 但是深柜,史书对女方设定成直女,对她跟“女性友人”的关系轻描淡写,但是,但是,作者作为 les,看见那些不直言爱却充满微妙情感的信件和描述,立刻明锐的捕捉到,Carson 和对方是否相爱?如果是粉丝一定八卦的非常开心!路人嘛,非常喜欢这本书把那个年代女性同性恋的挣扎和生存状况 show (not tell) 了出来——人们会忽略她们对女性的爱、把一切行为往异性恋上靠拢,只要没有直说“我爱你“那她们就只是朋友,而对于女同本身的情感和存在只要不看、不记录、不讨论,就好像不存在了一样。作者把这一切被遮住的东西掀开来、放在阳光下。结合她自己作为这个时代的 les,加上 Carson 和她的身体都不好,共情很深。作者文笔流畅,这本书非常好读,每一章又短,所以可以随时放下再拿起来,思绪也不会断掉。
The Buried 豆瓣 Goodreads
9.6 (20 个评分) 作者: Peter Hessler Penguin Press 2019 - 5
From the acclaimed author of River Town and Oracle Bones, an intimate excavation of life in one of the world's oldest civilizations at a time of convulsive change
Drawn by an abiding fascination with Egypt's rich history and civilization, Peter Hessler moved with his wife and twin daughters to Cairo to explore a place that had a powerful hold over his imagination. He wanted to learn Arabic, explore Cairo's neighborhoods, research ancient history, and visit the legendary archeological digs. After years of covering China for The New Yorker, friends warned him it would be a much quieter place. But just before his arrival, the Arab Spring had reached Egypt and the country was in chaos.
In the midst of the revolution, he attached himself to an important archeological dig at a site rich in royal tombs known in as al-Madfuna, or "The Buried." He and his wife set out to master Arabic, striking up an important friendship with their language instructor, a cynical political sophisticate named Rifaat. And a very different kind of friendship was formed with their garbage collector, an illiterate neighborhood character named Saaed, whose access to the trash of Cairo would be its own kind of archeological excavation. Along the way, he meets a family of Chinese small business owners who have cornered the nation's lingerie trade; their pragmatic view of the political crisis is a bracing counterpoint to the West's conventional wisdom.
Through the lives of these ordinary Egyptians in a time of tragedy and heartache, while drawing connections between contemporary politics and the ancient past, Hessler creates a richly textured and original portrait of a revolution and the people swept up in it. Whether he's investigating the relics of pharaohs, the neighborhood trash that Saeed brings him, the Arabic vocabulary lists from Rifaat, or the Muslim Brotherhood documents left behind after mobs have looted their offices, Hessler finds subtle and illuminating insights to understand a nation from a new perspective.
What emerges is a book of uncompromising intelligence and glorious humanity. Through the lives of Saeed and Rifaat, we encounter a land in which a weak state has collapsed but its underlying society remains painfully the same. The Buried is an extraordinary achievement that unearths a new world for the reader, one filled with unforgettable people who escape their context and become universal.
2024年12月30日 已读 这个英文版的听着根本跟不上!!!!太难了,以后再说吧 😂
打工女孩 豆瓣
Factory Girls: From Village to City in a Changing China
7.5 (70 个评分) 作者: [美] 张彤禾 译者: 张坤 / 吴怡瑶 上海译文出版社 2013 - 3
“出去”,农民工用这个简单的词定义他们的流动生活。“在家没事做,所以我出去了”,出去打工的故事就是这样开始的。
如今,中国有一亿五千万农民工。在南部工厂林立的城市,农民工在拉动国家出口经济的流水线上全力以赴。他们代表了人类历史上最大规模的人口迁移,是一百年来欧洲移民到美国总人数的三倍。
新一代农民工出现的时候,大多数人都认为,迁徙是一条追求更好生活的路。他们比上一辈更年轻,受过更好的教育,外出的动机也更多是因为对城市机会的追求,而不是受农村贫困所迫。
是自尊,而不是恐惧,让他们留在城市。走出家乡并留在外面——出去,就是改变你的命运。
当我想写本关于中国的书时,这个国家的农民工吸引了我——几百万人,离开村庄,去城市工作。直到后来,我才发觉,原来我跟我写到的那些女孩有着那么深的联系。我也离开了家,了解生活在举目无亲的地方那种孤独漂浮的感觉;我亲身感受到人轻易就会消失不见。我也更能理解那种全新开始生活的快乐和自由。
打工女孩的故事有某些共性。在工厂里你很容易迷失自我,那里有成百上千个背景相似的姑娘:在农村出生,没念过什么书,穷。工厂是做什么的从来都不重要,重要的是那份工作带来的艰难或机遇。打工女孩的命运转折点永远是她向老板发难的时候。那一刻她冒着失去一切的风险,从人群中脱颖而出,迫使这个世界将她视为一个个体。
在中国,外出务工已经有二十多个年头,绝大多数外国媒体都报道过工厂内部的恶劣环境,许多写中国农民工的书也并不真实。我希望能写点儿别的,写写工人自己怎么看待外出务工。我尤其对女性感兴趣。背井离乡,她们得到最多,或许失去也最多。
2024年12月30日 已读 听完的,东莞的打工环境、女工的生活状态和职业状态对我来说都是蛮新的内容,如果“东莞”只是一个概念的话这本书还能有不少新的视角的。作者自己家族的故事我听的时候分神了,所以没太抓住。不过感觉女工和作者本身的故事似乎链接不是很强烈,不知道是我没听清楚的原因,还是作者设计的形式大于了内容。
Why We Sleep 豆瓣
9.0 (22 个评分) 作者: Matthew Walker PhD Scribner 2017 - 10
The first sleep book by a leading scientific expert—Professor Matthew Walker, Director of UC Berkeley’s Sleep and Neuroimaging Lab—reveals his groundbreaking exploration of sleep, explaining how we can harness its transformative power to change our lives for the better.
Sleep is one of the most important but least understood aspects of our life, wellness, and longevity. Until very recently, science had no answer to the question of why we sleep, or what good it served, or why we suffer such devastating health consequences when we don't sleep. Compared to the other basic drives in life—eating, drinking, and reproducing—the purpose of sleep remained elusive.
An explosion of scientific discoveries in the last twenty years has shed new light on this fundamental aspect of our lives. Now, preeminent neuroscientist and sleep expert Matthew Walker gives us a new understanding of the vital importance of sleep and dreaming. Within the brain, sleep enriches our ability to learn, memorize, and make logical decisions. It recalibrates our emotions, restocks our immune system, fine-tunes our metabolism, and regulates our appetite. Dreaming mollifies painful memories and creates a virtual reality space in which the brain melds past and present knowledge to inspire creativity.
Walker answers important questions about sleep: how do caffeine and alcohol affect sleep? What really happens during REM sleep? Why do our sleep patterns change across a lifetime? How do common sleep aids affect us and can they do long-term damage? Charting cutting-edge scientific breakthroughs, and synthesizing decades of research and clinical practice, Walker explains how we can harness sleep to improve learning, mood, and energy levels; regulate hormones; prevent cancer, Alzheimer’s, and diabetes; slow the effects of aging; increase longevity; enhance the education and lifespan of our children, and boost the efficiency, success, and productivity of our businesses. Clear-eyed, fascinating, and accessible, Why We Sleep is a crucial and illuminating book
2024年11月26日 已读
科学家写的很 solid 的科普书,好多实验和破除流行的迷思。最大的收获是更加珍惜现在还挺好的睡眠了,累了就要多睡觉,梦也是很宝贵的,睡觉的时候大脑自己还在整合信息。有点庆幸如果没睡够我就自动烦躁,然后就知道自己要么饿了要么困了赶紧去满足身体的需求,不至于身体处在不满足的状态而不自知。其实本来想了解的是关于起床后如何保持精力(aka 不要在赖床的时候就刷手机把自己刷累了然后一早上没精力……),其实没有啥关于这个主题的内容,但是激励到了我早上起床去跑步这个事儿 咳咳
Dear America: Notes of an Undocumented Citizen 豆瓣
作者: Jose Antonio Vargas Dey Street Books 2018 - 9
“This riveting, courageous memoir ought to be mandatory reading for every American.” —Michelle Alexander, New York Times bestselling author of The New Jim Crow
“l cried reading this book, realizing more fully what my parents endured.” —Amy Tan, New York Times bestselling author of The Joy Luck Club and Where the Past Begins
“This book couldn’t be more timely and more necessary.” —Dave Eggers, New York Times bestselling author of What Is the What and The Monk of Mokha
Pulitzer-Prize winning journalist Jose Antonio Vargas, called “the most famous undocumented immigrant in America,” tackles one of the defining issues of our time in this explosive and deeply personal call to arms.
“This is not a book about the politics of immigration. This book––at its core––is not about immigration at all. This book is about homelessness, not in a traditional sense, but in the unsettled, unmoored psychological state that undocumented immigrants like myself find ourselves in. This book is about lying and being forced to lie to get by; about passing as an American and as a contributing citizen; about families, keeping them together, and having to make new ones when you can’t. This book is about constantly hiding from the government and, in the process, hiding from ourselves. This book is about what it means to not have a home.
After 25 years of living illegally in a country that does not consider me one of its own, this book is the closest thing I have to freedom.”
2024年11月4日 已读
Indistractable 豆瓣
作者: Nir Eyal BenBella Book 2019 - 9
"Indistractable provides a framework that will deliver the focus you need to get results.”
—James Clear, author of Atomic Habits
"If you value your time, your focus, or your relationships, this book is essential reading. I’m putting these ideas into practice."
—Jonathan Haidt, author of The Righteous Mind
You sit down at your desk to work on an important project, but a notification on your phone interrupts your morning. Later, as you’re about to get back to work, a colleague taps you on the shoulder to chat. At home, screens get in the way of quality time with your family. Another day goes by, and once again, your most important personal and professional goals are put on hold.
What would be possible if you followed through on your best intentions? What could you accomplish if you could stay focused and overcome distractions? What if you had the power to become “indistractable?”
International bestselling author, former Stanford lecturer, and behavioral design expert, Nir Eyal, wrote Silicon Valley’s handbook for making technology habit-forming. Five years after publishing Hooked, Eyal reveals distraction’s Achilles’ heel in his groundbreaking new book.
In Indistractable, Eyal reveals the hidden psychology driving us to distraction. He describes why solving the problem is not as simple as swearing off our devices: Abstinence is impractical and often makes us want more.
Eyal lays bare the secret of finally doing what you say you will do with a four-step, research-backed model. Indistractable reveals the key to getting the best out of technology, without letting it get the best of us.
Inside, Eyal overturns conventional wisdom and reveals:
Why distraction at work is a symptom of a dysfunctional company culture—and how to fix it
What really drives human behavior and why “time management is pain management”
Why your relationships (and your sex life) depend on you becoming indistractable
How to raise indistractable children in an increasingly distracting world
Empowering and optimistic, Indistractable provides practical, novel techniques to control your time and attention—helping you live the life you really want.
2024年10月8日 已读
鸡汤学二刷 ✅ 听了一遍又读了一遍每章章末的 summary,主要的 take-away 是:
* identity 很重要的,如果总是指责自己怎么总是不能 focus,会导致陷入自我怀疑,就会越来越不专注;相反,如果认为自己就是 “indistractable” 本 ble,正向的 reinforcement 会很有帮助的!
* 作者提出来的观点是,distraction 是为了躲避 discomfort 的,要管理 distraction,就是要做 pain management。这个我不是非常理解,但是能感觉到我最大的 distraction 是在“认为”一个事情很难的时候,不管这个事情是不是真的有多难,但是脑子觉得好难啊我不行,不管是写代码还是画画,就会下意识的去玩儿三消游戏。我确实是在躲避要面对很困难麻烦的事情。
* 而沉浸在 distraction 里,实在是这些 app 的设计太牛了,以一人之力确实很难抵抗这些厉害的游戏、社交媒体背后被反复验证如何 hook users‘ attention 的心理学原理了,毕竟自己也是这些心理学原理被验证过的一个个体。但是没有关系,还有别的心理学原理可以帮助 hack distraction。这何尝不是一种魔法打败魔法啊!
* time box,自己的时间有多有价值。一旦 time box 好了,要根据现实情况随时调整,但是一旦作出对自己的 commitment 那就要 show up。
* 对自己、relationship、工作从内而外依次分配时间。给自己分配好充足的时间、给自己爱的生物分配好充足的时间。

⬆️ 把上面这些实践好了,就可以更加时间管理大师了~工作、养 indistractable 的娃的部分不太 relatable 就没细看了。
Continuum Goodreads
作者: Chella Man / Ashley Lukashevsky Penguin Workshop 2021 - 6
Pocket Change Collective was born out of a need for space. Space to think. Space to connect. Space to be yourself. And this is your invitation to join us.

In Continuum, fine artist, activist, and Titans actor Chella Man uses his own experiences as a deaf, transgender, genderqueer, Jewish person of color to talk about cultivating self-acceptance and acting as one's own representation.

Pocket Change Collective is a series of small books with big ideas from today's leading activists and artists.

What constructs in your life must you unlearn to support inclusivity and respect for all? This is a question that artist, actor, and activist Chella Man wrestles with in this powerful and honest essay. A story of coping and resilience, Chella journeys through his experiences as a deaf, transgender, genderqueer, Jewish person of color, and shows us that identity lies on a continuum -- a beautiful, messy, and ever-evolving road of exploration.
2024年10月5日 已读 作者的 identity 简直叠满了,gender queer、Chinese + Jewish、deaf。而在 identity 标签的背后,是从小就开始 struggle 自己到底是谁、如何融入、和谁融入、怎么做自己、做什么样的自己。听到最后,强烈的明白了当自己的身份大部分和主流一致、少部分不完全一致也不是那么 invisible,这种状态是一种多么轻松的 privilege。而拥有 privilege 的人,尽管不能完全感同身受,但是也可以更多的看到、尝试理解,然后可以尽可能的尊重、包容。
Black Internet Effect 谷歌图书
作者: Shavone Charles Penguin 2022 - 11
"This frank, spirited guide spotlights a thoughtful leader who embraces social responsibility." — Kirkus

With witty humor and a strong sense of self, musician, model, and technology executive Shavone Charles recounts her journey through Google, Twitter, and more – and outlines her mission to make space for herself and other young women of color both online and IRL.

Pocket Change Collective was born out of a need for space. Space to think. Space to connect. Space to be yourself. And this is your invitation to join us. This is a series of small books with big ideas from today's leading activists and artists.

"The right balance of curiosity and good old nerve has always pushed me toward good directions in my life. During the darkest, most discouraging times, I can lean on those two parts of me." In this installment of the Pocket Change Collective, musician and technology phenom Shavone Charles explores how curiosity and nerve led her from a small college in Merced, California, to some of the most influential spaces in the tech world: from Google to Twitter to eventually landing a spot on the coveted Forbes 30 Under 30 list. Grateful for being the first in many spaces, but passionate about being neither the last nor the only, Charles tells her story in the hopes of guiding others and shaping a future where people, particularly women of color, feel empowered to make space for themselves and challenge society’s status quos.
2024年9月25日 已读 当 tech industry 如日中天的时候在 Google、Twitter marketing 相关部门上班 /实习的第一位黑人女性。从理智上我相信她一定也经历了很多挫折和隐形的显性的歧视,但是有点儿难共情,因为自己当年投这些厂都被默拒了 😂 这是我自己的 limitation。不过因为是作者本人读的,所以能听出来是非常 assertive、有决断、雷厉风行的人。气质上也很硅谷 lean in 风。嗯。
Beyond the Gender Binary 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Alok Vaid-Menon Penguin Workshop 2020 - 6
Pocket Change Collective is a series of small books with big ideas from today's leading activists and artists. In this installment, Beyond the Gender Binary, Alok Vaid-Menon challenges the world to see gender not in black and white, but in full color. Taking from their own experiences as a gender-nonconforming artist, they show us that gender is a malleable and creative form of expression. The only limit is your imagination.
2024年9月24日 已读
Penguin pocket change collective 系列。这个系列是针对青少年的,所以行文都很简洁,也不是佶屈聱牙的论文,更多的是个人经历的分享。

这一本的作者是一位生长在德州的印度裔 non-binary(真的是艰难 buff 叠满 😂)。Ta 分享了自己成长的经历,在小时候喜欢唱歌跳舞穿裙子、但是长大了就会被攻击被羞辱。最戳我的是 ta 说,每一次自己穿着裙子出门,被问到这是你的万圣节装扮嘛、或者是有 fashion week 嘛,都是在剥夺 their privilege of being,ta 们的存在只剩下 what they're doing。另一个让我有新鲜视角的是,在 referring to non-binary friends 的时候,因为常年的语法习惯,每次用 they are 来指代一个人都觉得怪怪的。但是作者举了个例子,比如有人把手机落下了,你可能会问 “Does anyone left their phone behind?”。我反应了半分钟才发现对啊,这里就是用 they/their 来指代单数的某个人 anyone,以及用的 does 啊!觉得嘴巴奇怪只是说的不够多啦,多说就不奇怪了!
Same as Ever 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Morgan Housel Portfolio 2023 - 11
From Morgan Housel, bestselling author of The Psychology of Money, stories about what people have always done, and will always do
Everyone wants to see the future. Few are good at it. From business to economics, politics to social trends, we’re just not very good at predicting what happens next.
According to Morgan Housel, this is because we focus too much on what we think will change and not enough on what we know will stay the same.
If you traveled in time to 500 years ago or 500 years from now, you would be astounded at how much technology and medicine has changed. The geopolitical order would make no sense to you. The language and dialect may be completely foreign. But you’d notice people falling for greed and fear just like they do in our current world.
You’d see people persuaded by risk, jealousy, and tribal affiliations in ways that are familiar to you.
You’d see overconfidence and short-sightedness that reminds you of people's behavior today.
You’d find people seeking the secret to a happy life and trying to find certainty when none exists in ways that are so relatable.
When transported to an unfamiliar world, you’d spend a few minutes watching people behave and say, “Ah. I’ve seen this before. Same as ever.”
History is filled with surprises no one could have seen coming. But if we learn to see what doesn’t change, we can be more confident in our choices, no matter what the future brings.
2024年9月24日 已读
蛮好的,心灵鸡汤系列 哈哈哈 蛮多点我都很认同,比如复利的力量、saving 不需要理由就是很重要、人们总是想要 certainty 的、讲好的故事很多时候比新鲜的事实更重要。有些点也挺 refreshing 的,比如要接受人作为 full package,举的例子是或许你会很喜欢 elon musk 的创新,但是同时也要接受他就是个神经病大傻鸡(不是书里的原话 of course)。最后一章的 wound will heal, scares are left 也蛮有趣。不过知道了这些事情是 same as ever 的,然后呢?有些可以很容易的成为日常行为和做决定的依据,比如坚持定投啥的,当然这也是因为是我已经认可的事情;但是对自己还不知道的呢?不是很确定这本书的内容可以和想做的改变直接链接起来。
Little House in the City: Living Small within City Limits Goodreads
作者: Marc Vassallo Taunton Press 2018 - 11
A change is taking place all across the country and especially on the West Coast, a shift led by the younger generations. People who in years past might have headed for the suburbs are instead moving to the city or choosing not to leave. Many will live in apartments or condos. But in cities that have neighborhoods of detached dwellings (and most cities still do), people are buying, building, and fixing up little houses. The 35 houses featured range in size from 500 sq. ft. to 1,600 sq. ft. and include infill houses, remodels, and backyard dwellings from all across North America.
2024年9月9日 已读 和我想象的不太一样哎,想看小房子怎么通过 organizing 和软装提升居住质量,但是这个书里的案例都是建筑师好好设计出来的房子,有不少硬装修,甚至好些都是建筑师自己的房子,一楼做事务所二楼居住 😂 虽说装修这事儿丰俭由人,但是,一点儿硬装都不想花钱的,看看开开眼就好啦 XD
Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma 谷歌图书 谷歌图书 Homelab Reviews 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.5 (6 个评分) 作者: Claire Dederer National Geographic Books 2023 - 4 其它标题: Monsters
From the author of the New York Times best seller Poser and the acclaimed memoir Love and Trouble , a passionate, provocative, blisteringly smart interrogation of how we make and experience art in the age of #MeToo, and of the link between genius and monstrosity.

In this unflinching, deeply personal book that expands on her instantly viral Paris Review essay, What Do We Do with the Art of Monstrous Men? Claire Dederer asks: Can we love the work of Hemingway, Polanski, Naipaul, Miles Davis, or Picasso? Should we love it? Does genius deserve special dispensation? Is male monstrosity the same as female monstrosity? Does art have a mandate to depict the darker elements of the psyche? And what happens if the artist stares too long into the abyss? She explores the audience's relationship with artists from Woody Allen to Michael Jackson, asking: How do we balance our undeniable sense of moral outrage with our equally undeniable love of the work? In a more troubling vein, she wonders if an artist needs to be a monster in order to create something great. And if an artist is also a mother, does one identity inexorably, and fatally, interrupt the other? Highly topical, morally wise, honest to the core, Monsters is certain to incite a conversation about whether and how we can separate artists from their art.
2024年9月1日 已读 疲惫娇娃妻子三部曲之三推荐的三本书之一。有点难评,主题非常感兴趣,fans 要怎么看待做出了很伟大的艺术但是是烂人甚至是罪犯的艺术家。这书里一半是对于主题的讨论,一半是作者自己的自传,而且作者是西雅图人,所以很多关于她的故事会出现很多我熟悉的地方和事情,还蛮有亲切感的。有些作者自己的故事对主题讨论是很有帮助的,比如讨论洛丽塔这个小说,作者讲的是她自己13岁第一次读的感受,作者发现虽然以洛丽塔为名,但是洛丽塔完全是个客体,这本书里没有她的样貌她的想法她的情绪,一切只有那个凝视她的男人的想法和欲望。这是个蛮好的故事来切入后续的讨论,但是绝大多数时候,tbh 这些故事和主题似乎没有特别强的关联。而且好像也没有非常让人豁然开朗的观点。不知道是我听的不够清晰、不太习惯这种 essay 的行文,理解的不够好,还是怎样。如果以后想认真琢磨这个主题,会找实体书来读一下再试试看吧。
The Psychology of Money 豆瓣
8.5 (16 个评分) 作者: Morgan Housel Harriman House 2020 - 9
Doing well with money isn’t necessarily about what you know. It’s about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people.
Money―investing, personal finance, and business decisions―is typically taught as a math-based field, where data and formulas tell us exactly what to do. But in the real world people don’t make financial decisions on a spreadsheet. They make them at the dinner table, or in a meeting room, where personal history, your own unique view of the world, ego, pride, marketing, and odd incentives are scrambled together.
In The Psychology of Money, award-winning author Morgan Housel shares 19 short stories exploring the strange ways people think about money and teaches you how to make better sense of one of life’s most important topics.
2024年8月30日 已读
这本书就是个人理财的健身指南,最重要的是第一章里提到的——有多少知识不重要,重要的是行为,在个人理财这件事上你都在做什么。语言通俗,没有高深的概念或者算数,新手读可以学到很多基础知识;很有经验的时不时 skimming and scanning 一下,复建肌肉,毕竟贪心和急躁使不得,但是难免埋伏着导致不明智的举动~应该搞一个电子版放在随手可以打开的设备上。每一章都很短,有个什么间隙的扫一章。
Rental Person Who Does Nothing 谷歌图书
作者: Shoji Morimoto Harlequin 2024 - 01
***Now an International Bestseller!***

"Distinctively Japanese musings on meaning and connection."—Observer

I'm starting a service... available for any situation in which all you want is a person to be there. Maybe there's a restaurant you want to go to, but you feel awkward going on your own.

Maybe a game you want to play, but you're one person short.

Or perhaps you'd like someone to keep a space in the park for your cherry blossom viewing party...

Shoji Morimoto was constantly being told by his boss, "It makes no difference whether you’re here or not," and that his presence contributed nothing to the company. Morimoto began to wonder whether a person who "does nothing" could still have actual value and a place in the world. Perhaps he could turn "doing nothing" into a service? With one tweet, Rental Person was born.

Rental Person provides a fascinating service to the lonely and socially anxious. This book details thousands of his true-life adventures:
Accompanying a divorcee to her favorite restaurant Waving goodbye to a client from the train platform Sitting in the courtroom during a client’s trial Supporting a client during a difficult surgery
Rental Person is dependable, nonjudgmental and committed to remaining a stranger, and the curious encounters he shares are revelatory about both Japanese society and human psychology.

In Rental Person Who Does Nothing, Morimoto chronicles his extraordinary experiences in his unique line of work and reflects on how we consider relationships, jobs and family in our search for meaningful connection and purpose in life.
2024年8月16日 已读
三月份从咪柴的读后感种草的,图书馆服务恢复了能借 audio book 就立马借了。好有趣的行为啊,几乎算一个社会实验了吧!如果有这样的服务我估计会蛮经常请人来做类似的事情的,好多时候我启动一个事儿只需要一个旁观者、或者一个简单说两句肯定的话的人,但是没有这个 kickstarter 我就干不了那些事儿 😂 不知道作者能不能 make a living out of it。如果可以的话,真是人类的需求千奇百怪,啥都能换钱啊(两眼冒金光!)最后的 afterwards 非常有趣!如果要读这本书的话请一定不要错过 afterwards XD