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How to Know a Person 谷歌图书 Goodreads
作者: David Brooks Random House Publishing Group 2023 - 10 其它标题: How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person in order to foster deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives—from the author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain

As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.”

And yet we humans don’t do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and his determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and from the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.
2024年7月15日 已读
很喜欢作者 organize 这本书的方式,从作为人 see and be seen 的重要性和 unseen 的害处开始聊,到通过各种各样的对话了解人,逐渐深入到人的内在性格、struggle、抑郁情绪,再到普遍的人生课题。听了个大概但是应该会再细看一遍学一下怎么应用。争取… 不再不带脑子只凭感受 know a person 😂
This Is What I Know About Art 谷歌图书
作者: Kimberly Drew Penguin Young Readers Group 2020 - 06
"Drew's experience teaches us to embrace what we are afraid of and be true to ourselves. She uses her passion to change the art world and invites us to join her."--Janelle Monáe, award-winning singer, actress, and producer

"Powerful and compelling, this book gives us the courage to discover our own journeys into art."--Hans Ulrich Obrist, artistic director of the Serpentine Galleries in Kensington Gardens, and co-editor of the Cahiers d'Art review

"This deeply personal and boldly political offering inspires and ignites."-- Kirkus Reviews, starred review

In this powerful and hopeful account, arts writer, curator, and activist Kimberly Drew reminds us that the art world has space not just for the elite, but for everyone.

Pocket Change Collective is a series of small books with big ideas from today's leading activists and artists. In this installment, arts writer and co-editor of Black Futures Kimberly Drew shows us that art and protest are inextricably linked. Drawing on her personal experience through art toward activism, Drew challenges us to create space for the change that we want to see in the world. Because there really is so much more space than we think.
2024年7月15日 已读
是一本非常小的 pocket book,作者是一位黑人女性艺术工作者,清晰有力的讲述了她作为一个小孩子开始对艺术感兴趣,以为 Andy Warhol 是和她一样的黑人,后来发现不不不,黑人艺术家很少的。大学期间读艺术系,上课的时候会因为课堂讨论不够 inclusive 而愤怒,去做实习也发现 NGO 的 curation team 有色人种又少薪水又低。开了自己的 social media 向大众介绍黑人艺术家们。后来一路去了 Met,通过 social media 做更多 inclusive 的事情和活动(不仅限于种族,还有 disability 和 LGBTQ+)。三年 met 工作让她知道自己有更多的事情去做,art 和 activism 紧密关联,所以开始做自己的事业了。

非常喜欢这个小书,是日常里活生生的人讲述她的故事,并且她的故事充满了力量,分享她是怎么 make a change 的。有一个很打动我的细节是,在2010s 中期 NY 就出现黑人被警察杀害的事件,当时她非常愤怒,会在推上 po 愤怒的推文。她的 mentor 并没有因此而责备她,而是引导她让她意识到愤怒是好的,但同时需要更有策略 engage 大众。很难想象在 engineering work 里愤怒会是一件好事,如果非要有什么情绪,那最好也是稳定平静的?这个是一个想继续观察的视角~

这本小书所在的系列叫 Penguin Pocket Change Collective,是写给青少年的,有十本。会想把这个系列都找来看了~
Wifedom Goodreads 豆瓣
作者: Anna Funder Knopf 2023 - 8 其它标题: Wifedom: Mrs. Orwell's Invisible Life
This is the story of the marriage behind some of the most famous literary works of the 20th century —and a probing consideration of what it means to be a wife and a writer in the modern world.
At the end of summer 2017, Anna Funder found herself at a moment of peak overload. Family obligations and household responsibilities were crushing her soul and taking her away from her writing deadlines. She needed help, and George Orwell came to her rescue.
"I’ve always loved Orwell," Funder writes, "his self-deprecating humour, his laser vision about how power works, and who it works on." So after rereading and savoring books Orwell had written, she devoured six major biographies tracing his life and work. But then she read about his forgotten wife, and it was a revelation.
Eileen O’Shaughnessy married Orwell in 1936. O’Shaughnessy was a writer herself, and her literary brilliance not only shaped Orwell’s work, but her practical common sense saved his life. But why and how, Funder wondered, was she written out of their story? Using newly discovered letters from Eileen to her best friend, Funder re-creates the Orwells’ marriage, through the Spanish Civil War and the Second World War in London. As she peeks behind the curtain of Orwell’s private life she is led to question what it takes to be a writer—and what it is to be a wife.
A breathtakingly intimate view of one of the most important literary marriages of the twentieth century, Wifedom speaks to our present moment as much as it illuminates the past. Genre-bending and utterly original, it is an ode to the unsung work of women everywhere.
2024年7月9日 已读
因为疲惫娇娃妻子三部曲3的推荐之一。听的不是特别仔细但是听到的细节很让人生气又无力,Eileen 许诺嫁给三十岁之后第一个向她求婚的人是绑住她的桎梏,明明才华能力都和同学旗鼓相当但是男性同学就可以拿到很好的职位、但是她就没有明确的出路也是绑住她的桎梏,丈夫为了性四处瞎搞还声称他们处于 open relationship、但是 Eileen 并没有认同过,Eileen 还被迫和丈夫追求的女人一起吃饭。她活生生的被丈夫吸血吸了一生啊。被时代和男人辜负了一生。
Tracers in the Dark 谷歌图书 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Andy Greenberg Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group 2022 - 11 其它标题: Tracers in the Dark: The Global Hunt for the Crime Lords of Cryptocurrency
From the award-winning author of Sandworm comes the propulsive story of a new breed of investigators who have cracked the Bitcoin blockchain, exposing once-anonymous realms of money, drugs, and violence. “I love the book… It reads like a thriller… These stories are amazing.” (Michael Lewis)

Over the last decade, a single innovation has massively fueled digital black markets: cryptocurrency. Crime lords inhabiting lawless corners of the internet have operated more freely—whether in drug dealing, money laundering, or human trafficking—than their analog counterparts could have ever dreamed of. By transacting not in dollars or pounds but in currencies with anonymous ledgers, overseen by no government, beholden to no bankers, these black marketeers have sought to rob law enforcement of their chief method of cracking down on illicit finance: following the money.

But what if the centerpiece of this dark economy held a secret, fatal flaw? What if their currency wasn’t so cryptic after all? An investigator using the right mixture of technical wizardry, financial forensics, and old-fashioned persistence could uncover an entire world of wrongdoing.

Tracers in the Dark is a story of crime and pursuit unlike any other. With unprecedented access to the major players in federal law enforcement and private industry, veteran cybersecurity reporter Andy Greenberg tells an astonishing saga of criminal empires built and destroyed. He introduces an IRS agent with a defiant streak, a Bitcoin-tracing Danish entrepreneur, and a colorful ensemble of hardboiled agents and prosecutors as they delve deep into the crypto-underworld. The result is a thrilling, globe-spanning story of dirty cops, drug bazaars, trafficking rings, and the biggest takedown of an online narcotics market in the history of the Internet.

Utterly of our time, Tracers in the Dark is a cat-and-mouse story and a tale of a technological one-upmanship. Filled with canny maneuvering and shocking twists, it answers a provocative question: How would some of the world’s most brazen criminals behave if they were sure they could never get caught?
2024年3月25日 已读
书写的相当精彩,作者应该是常年报道 blockchain 相关新闻的科技记者,对 blockchain 圈子的常用技术和沟通手段非常了解。虽然 blockchain 最大的突破点之一是匿名性——在 chain 上交易的人都是纯匿名的,也不需要 middleman 来做交易验证,但是这本书里侦破的一个个案子戳破了这个技术乌托邦——虽然确实很难,但是不是不可能的,有天才的硬核数据分析师通过交易习惯和(没听懂细节的)技术特征追踪到真实世界里的犯罪分子,也有配套 blockchain 上线的其他 tech stack 暴露犯罪分子的真实身份的。基于区块链的犯罪往往都是大型网络、跨国跨区域,要求警察也必须丝滑的跨国合作才行(那合作不了的国也就 gg 了);对警察的技术和计算资源要求也相当高。有些人真的是天才啊,这些复杂繁琐连交易 ID 和地址看起来都是无意义的字符组合,在天才的眼中就像是给高亮了一样可以轻松的找到哪些交易是兜兜转转和核心犯罪分子相关联的。只要找到自己的天赋所在,事情就会很简单。
Quackery 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Lydia Kang / Nate Pedersen Workman Publishing Company 2017 - 10
Discover 67 shocking-but-true medical misfires that run the gamut from bizarre to deadly. Like when doctors prescribed morphine for crying infants. When snorting skull moss was a cure for a bloody nose. When consuming mail-order tapeworms was a latter-day fad diet. Or when snake oil salesmen peddled strychnine (used in rat poison) as an aphrodisiac in the '60s. Seamlessly combining macabre humor with hard science and compelling storytelling, Quackery is a visually rich and information-packed exploration of history's most outlandish cures, experiments, and scams.
A humorous book that delves into some of the wacky but true ways that humans have looked to cure their ills. Leeches, mercury, strychnine, and lobotomies are a few of the topics that explore what lengths society has gone in the search for health.
2024年3月20日 已读 本来是看到象友标记的中文觉得蛮有趣的所以借来听,结果实在是太重口味了,有好几次一边跑步一边听结果听的反胃都快跑不下去了,所以大概听到 2/3 的部分就算了。感恩现代医学。
中文版:https://neodb.social/book/1iafYS8zawb3DSdPO8LA5I
Killers of the Flower Moon 豆瓣 Eggplant.place
8.9 (9 个评分) 作者: David Grann Doubleday 2017 - 4
From New Yorker staff writer David Grann, #1 New York Times best-selling author of The Lost City of Z, a twisting, haunting true-life murder mystery about one of the most monstrous crimes in American history
In the 1920s, the richest people per capita in the world were members of the Osage Indian nation in Oklahoma. After oil was discovered beneath their land, they rode in chauffeured automobiles, built mansions, and sent their children to study in Europe.
Then, one by one, the Osage began to be killed off. The family of an Osage woman, Mollie Burkhart, became a prime target. Her relatives were shot and poisoned. And it was just the beginning, as more and more members of the tribe began to die under mysterious circumstances.
In this last remnant of the Wild West—where oilmen like J. P. Getty made their fortunes and where desperadoes like Al Spencer, the “Phantom Terror,” roamed—many of those who dared to investigate the killings were themselves murdered. As the death toll climbed to more than twenty-four, the FBI took up the case. It was one of the organization’s first major homicide investigations and the bureau badly bungled the case. In desperation, the young director, J. Edgar Hoover, turned to a former Texas Ranger named Tom White to unravel the mystery. White put together an undercover team, including one of the only American Indian agents in the bureau. The agents infiltrated the region, struggling to adopt the latest techniques of detection. Together with the Osage they began to expose one of the most chilling conspiracies in American history.
In Killers of the Flower Moon, David Grann revisits a shocking series of crimes in which dozens of people were murdered in cold blood. Based on years of research and startling new evidence, the book is a masterpiece of narrative nonfiction, as each step in the investigation reveals a series of sinister secrets and reversals. But more than that, it is a searing indictment of the callousness and prejudice toward American Indians that allowed the murderers to operate with impunity for so long. Killers of the Flower Moon is utterly compelling, but also emotionally devastating.
2024年3月15日 已读
看过电影来听这本书,谁敢想电影仨小时拍了那么久李昂纳多的丑大头,在书里只占了不到1/3啊~不过电影还是提供了非常好的 context,人名和大致事件情节会更容易跟上。书对事件的展开顺序和电影差别还是很大的,书更加有悬疑感,从死亡事件开始、一层一层拨开关联的人有谁、再来更多的死亡事件;不过大部分提到的死亡在电影里也有或长或短的镜头,甚至有几个黑色幽默的谋杀场景。但是黑色幽默把整个事情稍微 light up 了,这本书的最后很短的一章,拽着人心沉进地狱,对 Osage people 的谋杀早在 documented murders 之前多年就开始了、并且在艰难挖出来的主谋 Hale 入狱之后还有人因为被谋杀而不断死去。而且电影里聚焦的背景是因为 Osage people 拥有的 land 下有石油所以有人头收入,但是后来有能源公司以不开采石油但是开发其他能源为缘由,不用跟 Osage people 租借土地但是可以继续搞开发,连钱都不给 Osage 了。感恩作者把这段历史放在更光亮的地方。
The Secret Life of Groceries 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: Benjamin Lorr Avery 2020 - 9
What does it take to run the American supermarket? How do products get to shelves? Who sets the price? And who suffers the consequences of increased convenience end efficiency? In this alarming exposé, author Benjamin Lorr pulls back the curtain on this highly secretive industry. Combining deep sourcing, immersive reporting, and compulsively readable prose, Lorr leads a wild investigation in which we learn:
• The secrets of Trader Joe’s success from Trader Joe himself
• Why truckers call their job “sharecropping on wheels”
• What it takes for a product to earn certification labels like “organic” and “fair trade”
• The struggles entrepreneurs face as they fight for shelf space, including essential tips, tricks, and traps for any new food business
• The truth behind the alarming slave trade in the shrimp industry
The result is a page-turning portrait of an industry in flux, filled with the passion, ingenuity, and exploitation required to make this everyday miracle continue to function. The product of five years of research and hundreds of interviews across every level of the industry, The Secret Life of Groceries delivers powerful social commentary on the inherently American quest for more and the social costs therein.
2024年3月1日 已读
好真诚的一本书啊,把 grocery 从门店到运输到 source 的故事都讲了。这个行业好压榨人,听的我去买菜都有点儿愧疚 😂 第一章讲的 trader joes 从一个小店开始怎么做大、又成为 aldi 的一部分遍布全美;在 TJ 宣布不在加拿大开店的时候,加拿大甚至有个 pirate joe 的店专门转卖 TJ 的吃的 LOL。

卡车司机这个行业太惨了,作者 follow 的司机每周甚至是赔钱在干活儿,idle time 是没钱挣的、车是租的、车出问题了维修的时候没法干活儿也是没钱挣的、女司机在路上的话晚上在卡车 camp 休息要刻意穿的像男人才可以减少被男司机看到并性骚扰的可能、任何一个女司机都超级大概率在 training 阶段被性骚扰过并且性骚扰的人得不到什么惩罚。

好多 grocery store 的收入主要来源并不是给消费者卖菜,而是“摊位费”,供货商要给 grocery store 交一笔钱才可以给自己的产品一个上架的机会,还不一定是什么好地方,经常是在最低或者最高一层 shelf,消费者根本看不到,有时候甚至被 shelf 在错误的 section。对于供货商来说整个卖菜就是个大型 marketing game,毕竟对于大部分供货商来说,谁家的菜和别人家的本质上可能质量差不了太多,grocery store source team 也没有时间关注这个菜具体好不好吃、哪里好吃。

再往 source 走,海鲜这些东西在东南亚的产业和走线、跨国人口拐卖、非法劳工牢牢绑在一起。虾是靠人手剥的。
The Little Book of Common Sense Investing 豆瓣
作者: John C. Bogle John Wiley & Sons 2007 - 3
Investing is all about common sense. Owning a diversified portfolio of stocks and holding it for the long term is a winner’s game. Trying to beat the stock market is theoretically a zero-sum game (for every winner, there must be a loser), but after the substantial costs of investing are deducted, it becomes a loser’s game. Common sense tells us—and history confirms—that the simplest and most efficient investment strategy is to buy and hold all of the nation’s publicly held businesses at very low cost. The classic index fund that owns this market portfolio is the only investment that guarantees you with your fair share of stock market returns.
To learn how to make index investing work for you, there’s no better mentor than legendary mutual fund industry veteran John C. Bogle. Over the course of his long career, Bogle—founder of the Vanguard Group and creator of the world’s first index mutual fund—has relied primarily on index investing to help Vanguard’s clients build substantial wealth. Now, with The Little Book of Common Sense Investing, he wants to help you do the same.
Filled with in-depth insights and practical advice, The Little Book of Common Sense Investing will show you how to incorporate this proven investment strategy into your portfolio. It will also change the very way you think about investing. Successful investing is not easy. (It requires discipline and patience.) But it is simple. For it’s all about common sense.
With The Little Book of Common Sense Investing as your guide, you’ll discover how to make investing a winner’s game:
Why business reality—dividend yields and earnings growth—is more important than market expectations
How to overcome the powerful impact of investment costs, taxes, and inflation
How the magic of compounding returns is overwhelmed by the tyranny of compounding costs
What expert investors and brilliant academics—from Warren Buffett and Benjamin Graham to Paul Samuelson and Burton Malkiel—have to say about index investing
And much more
You’ll also find warnings about investment fads and fashions, including the recent stampede into exchange traded funds and the rise of indexing gimmickry. The real formula for investment success is to own the entire market, while significantly minimizing the costs of financial intermediation. That’s what index investing is all about. And that’s what this book is all about.
2024年2月19日 已读 作者 John Bogle 是 vanguard 的创始人,也是他把 index fund 发扬光大了。这本书就是讲 index fund 为啥好和一些当年的故事,相当深入简出的讲清楚了啥是 index fund,详细解释了为啥 index fund 风险低、费用低、收益好。已经有基本理财常识的人从这本书里可能不会得到太多新的东西,完全不了解 index fund 的话可以了解挺多的(不过一个十分钟的视频也就讲清楚了,可能也不需要一本书吧 hhh)。不过管理费用这一章还挺有趣的,在 index fund 出现之前的股票市场上,买卖双方都有亏有盈,但是有一类人永远在挣钱——中间商,因为他们是按照一手交易挣一笔钱,而不取决于交易物价格到底怎么样了。算是一个常常容易被忽略掉的事儿有一次被拽出来了叭。
Into the Wild 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.7 (6 个评分) 作者: Jon Krakauer Anchor 1997 - 1
After graduating from Emory University in Atlanta in 1992, top student and athlete Christopher McCandless abandoned his possessions, gave his entire $24,000 savings account to charity and hitchhiked to Alaska, where he went to live in the wilderness. Four months later, he turned up dead. His diary, letters and two notes found at a remote campsite tell of his desperate effort to survive, apparently stranded by an injury and slowly starving. They also reflect the posturing of a confused young man, raised in affluent Annandale, Va., who self-consciously adopted a Tolstoyan renunciation of wealth and return to nature. Krakauer, a contributing editor to Outside and Men's Journal, retraces McCandless's ill-fated antagonism toward his father, Walt, an eminent aerospace engineer. Krakauer also draws parallels to his own reckless youthful exploit in 1977 when he climbed Devils Thumb, a mountain on the Alaska-British Columbia border, partly as a symbolic act of rebellion against his autocratic father. In a moving narrative, Krakauer probes the mystery of McCandless's death, which he attributes to logistical blunders and to accidental poisoning from eating toxic seed pods. Maps. 35,000 first printing; author tour.
Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
2024年2月2日 已读
adventurers 可能永远只能是我远观的一群人,因为我对纯粹野生的自然过于恐惧。而对那些对野生自然不仅不恐惧反而要去 aggressively 探索和征服的人,我实在不理解这里面对自己的生命、无限的未知和极限的生理状况的关系。这本书还算挺详实的吧,讲了这个McCandless 的故事,但是因为 McCandless 没活着出来么,所以都是根据物料进行 trace back 或者和在他生命里有过交互的人的说法。能感觉到作者对 McCandless 的推崇,不过不然也不会写书了吧。
Mythical Beasts: an Artist's Field Guide to Designing Fantasy Creatures 谷歌图书
作者: 3dtotal Publishing 3DTotal Publishing 2017
In Mythical Beasts: An Artist's Field Guide to Designing Fantasy Creatures, thirty talented artists show you how to sketch, draw, and render thirty mythical creatures. Learn how to create some of the best-known fantasy creatures including the werewolf, unicorn, and of course the fantasy staple--the dragon. Also included are lesser-known mythical beasts such as the Slavic Leshy, Japanese Jorogumo, and the Congolese Dingonek. Each creature has its own chapter which covers its history, how to render main elements, and variations, and one large final illustration. If you are a fan of mythology and fantasy, then Mythical Beasts is the book for you!
2024年1月17日 已读
Mythical creatures 我的爱。这本书相当 structured,应该算是写设计报告标准模版了,这一本书里有30个 artists 每个人完成一个 mythical creature 的设计,introduction、field research (现实世界用了哪些动物、皮毛爪子翅膀等细节 highlight)、不同动作形态的 thumbnail design、subspecies design、final design uncolored、final design colored。种草了8个 artist 的 work,其中四个超级爱——哪怕是很喜欢的主题但是审美倾向还是蛮固定的。
investing amid low expected returns 豆瓣
作者: Antti Ilmanen Wiley 2022 - 4
Elevate your game in the face of challenging market conditions with this eye-opening guide to portfolio management
Investing Amid Low Expected Returns: Making the Most When Markets Offer the Least provides an evidence-based blueprint for successful investing when decades of market tailwinds are turning into headwinds.
For a generation, falling yields and soaring asset prices have boosted realized returns. However, this past windfall leaves retirement savers and investors now facing the prospect of record-low future expected returns. Emphasizing this pressing challenge, the book highlights the role that timeless investment practices – discipline, humility, and patience – will play in enabling investment success. It then assesses current investor practices and the body of empirical evidence to illuminate the building blocks for improving long-run returns in today’s environment and beyond. It concludes by reviewing how to put them together through effective portfolio construction, risk management, and cost control practices.
In this book, readers will also find:
The common investor responses so far to the low expected return challenge
Extensive empirical evidence on the critical ingredients of an effective portfolio: major asset class premia, illiquidity premia, style premia, and alpha
Discussions of the pros and cons of illiquid investments, factor investing, ESG investing, risk mitigation strategies, and market timing
Coverage of the whole top-down investment process – throughout the book endorsing humility in tactical forecasting and boldness in diversification
Ideal for institutional and active individual investors, Investing Amid Low Expected Returns is a timeless resource that enables investing with serenity even in harsher financial conditions.
2023年12月27日 已读 读完第一章就知道应该放弃这本书,是写给从业者的,需要不少专业知识才可以比较顺利的读下来。只知道有限常识和基本概念的读起来会很吃力。但是可以感觉到作者是真诚的,多处提到业内面临的问题是相似的,但是从业者的选择和回答不尽然相同,这本书只是他自己的观点。我没有能力判断作者的观点是不是我会选择的,因为确实没啥观点 😂
The Book of Goose Goodreads 豆瓣
8.2 (13 个评分) 作者: Yiyun Li / Yiyun Li 2022 - 9
Fabienne is dead. Her childhood best friend, Agnès, receives the news in America, far from the French countryside where the two girls were raised--the place that Fabienne helped Agnès escape ten years ago. Now, Agnès is free to tell her story.
As children in a war-ravaged, backwater town, they'd built a private world, invisible to everyone but themselves--until Fabienne hatched the plan that would change everything, launching Agnès on an epic trajectory through fame, fortune, and terrible loss.
A magnificent, beguiling tale winding from the postwar rural provinces to Paris, from an English boarding school to to the quiet Pennsylvania home where Agnès can live without her past,
is a haunting story of friendship, art, exploitation, and memory by the celebrated author Yiyun Li.
2023年12月23日 已读
好真实的小女孩之间的感情啊,把对方当成自己、把对方视为最爱的人。走散了也是常态。
Crying in H Mart 豆瓣 Goodreads
Crying in H Mart
7.9 (53 个评分) 作者: Michelle Zauner Alfred A. Knopf 2021 - 4
From the indie rockstar of Japanese Breakfast fame, and author of the viral 2018 New Yorker essay that shares the title of this book, an unflinching, powerful memoir about growing up Korean American, losing her mother, and forging her own identity.
In this exquisite story of family, food, grief, and endurance, Michelle Zauner proves herself far more than a dazzling singer, songwriter, and guitarist. With humor and heart, she tells of growing up one of the few Asian American kids at her school in Eugene, Oregon; of struggling with her mother’s particular, high expectations of her; of a painful adolescence; of treasured months spent in her grandmother’s tiny apartment in Seoul, where she and her mother would bond, late at night, over heaping plates of food.
As she grew up, moving to the East Coast for college, finding work in the restaurant industry, and performing gigs with her fledgling band–and meeting the man who would become her husband–her Koreanness began to feel ever more distant, even as she found the life she wanted to live. It was her mother’s diagnosis of terminal cancer, when Michelle was twenty-five, that forced a reckoning with her identity and brought her to reclaim the gifts of taste, language, and history her mother had given her.
Vivacious and plainspoken, lyrical and honest, Zauner’s voice is as radiantly alive on the page as it is onstage. Rich with intimate anecdotes that will resonate widely, and complete with family photos, Crying in H Mart is a book to cherish, share, and reread.
2023年12月11日 已读
这个主题,我无话可说(and that's my problem)
The Road to Character 豆瓣 Goodreads
作者: David Brooks Random House 2015 - 4
“I wrote this book not sure I could follow the road to character, but I wanted at least to know what the road looks like and how other people have trodden it.”—David Brooks
With the wisdom, humor, curiosity, and sharp insights that have brought millions of readers to his New York Times column and his previous bestsellers, David Brooks has consistently illuminated our daily lives in surprising and original ways. In The Social Animal, he explored the neuroscience of human connection and how we can flourish together. Now, in The Road to Character, he focuses on the deeper values that should inform our lives. Responding to what he calls the culture of the Big Me, which emphasizes external success, Brooks challenges us, and himself, to rebalance the scales between our “résumé virtues”—achieving wealth, fame, and status—and our “eulogy virtues,” those that exist at the core of our being: kindness, bravery, honesty, or faithfulness, focusing on what kind of relationships we have formed.
Looking to some of the world’s greatest thinkers and inspiring leaders, Brooks explores how, through internal struggle and a sense of their own limitations, they have built a strong inner character. Labor activist Frances Perkins understood the need to suppress parts of herself so that she could be an instrument in a larger cause. Dwight Eisenhower organized his life not around impulsive self-expression but considered self-restraint. Dorothy Day, a devout Catholic convert and champion of the poor, learned as a young woman the vocabulary of simplicity and surrender. Civil rights pioneers A. Philip Randolph and Bayard Rustin learned reticence and the logic of self-discipline, the need to distrust oneself even while waging a noble crusade.
Blending psychology, politics, spirituality, and confessional, The Road to Character provides an opportunity for us to rethink our priorities, and strive to build rich inner lives marked by humility and moral depth.
“Joy,” David Brooks writes, “is a byproduct experienced by people who are aiming for something else. But it comes.”
2023年12月11日 已读 不记得是在哪里种草的了,估计是毛象上某个象友的嘟嘟。听到 23% 实在听不下去了,决定弃掉。前言部分说到人的品质分为简历品德和在去世的时候希望被记住的品德(something like this),人们终其一生大部分时候在修炼简历品德,却忽略了后者,这门书主要 focus 在后者。可能是我确实没啥哲学和社会学尝试,这本书里的讨论基本都没跟上,只听到了“sin”这个单词反反复复反反复复出现,就,有点儿,听不下去了 😂 甚至 Goodreads 排名第一的热评我也没看懂,感觉跟社会学/政治学某门课的作业 essay 一样。应该就是气场不合欣赏不来 😂
The Creative Act: A Way of Being Goodreads 豆瓣 谷歌图书
作者: Rick Rubin Penguin Press 2023 - 1
<b>From the legendary music producer, a master at helping people connect with the wellsprings of their creativity, comes a beautifully crafted book many years in the making that offers that same deep wisdom to all of us. </b><br /><br />"A gorgeous and inspiring work of art on creation, creativity, the work of the artist. It will gladden the hearts of writers and artists everywhere, and get them working again with a new sense of meaning and direction. A stunning accomplishment." --Anne Lamott<br /><br />"<i>I set out to write a book about what to do to make a great work of art. Instead, it revealed itself to be a book on how to be." --Rick Rubin</i><br /><br />Many famed music producers are known for a particular sound that has its day. Rick Rubin is known for something else: creating a space where artists of all different genres and traditions can home in on who they really are and what they really offer. He has made a practice of helping people transcend their self-imposed expectations in order to reconnect with a state of innocence from which the surprising becomes inevitable. Over the years, as he has thought deeply about where creativity comes from and where it doesn't, he has learned that being an artist isn't about your specific output, it's about your relationship to the world. Creativity has a place in everyone's life, and everyone can make that place larger. In fact, there are few more important responsibilities.<br /><br /><i>The Creative Act</i> is a beautiful and generous course of study that illuminates the path of the artist as a road we all can follow. It distills the wisdom gleaned from a lifetime's work into a luminous reading experience that puts the power to create moments--and lifetimes--of exhilaration and transcendence within closer reach for all of us.
2023年12月8日 已读
今年听/看了好多类似的书、进行了很多类似的对话,基本上都属于 positive reinforcement,时不时来一针强心剂 嗯。
永远的爱犬 豆瓣
The Forever Dog: Surprising New Science to Help Your Canine Companion Live Younger, Healthier, and Longer
作者: (美)罗德尼·哈比卜(Rodney Habib) / (美)卡伦·肖·贝克尔(Karen·Shaw·Becker) 译者: 李镭 中信出版集团 2023 - 1
2013年,本书作者之一罗德尼的爱犬萨姆被诊断出患有癌症,于是,罗德尼开始了一场拯救萨姆的行动。当时萨姆5岁,被诊断只能再活6个月。萨姆的困境激励罗德尼开始不懈地寻找新方法来阻止疾病的发展。在拯救萨姆的过程中,罗德尼遇到了世界知名的兽医贝克尔——一位具有20多年经验的积极的宠物健康倡导者。两人很快意识到他们有着相同的目标——提高世界各地的狗狗的生存质量。
在过去的3年里,他们环游世界,收集关于狗狗的健康、疾病和寿命的最新信息。他们拜访了知名遗传学家、微生物学家和研究人员,还采访了一些长寿犬的家长,这些狗狗已经活到了20多岁,甚至30多岁。他们发现的事实有可能改变宠物世界,就像它改变了罗德尼爱犬的命运一样。
罗德尼和贝克尔在全球拥有近500万的追随者,他们决定写作这本书,启动一场“养育永生狗”的运动,宗旨是让养狗人改变照顾宠物的方式,以改善宠物的健康状况,让它们充满活力,活得更快乐,最终延长寿命,陪伴我们更久一些。
2023年12月5日 已读
在科学养宠这条路上给了很多可能平时注意不到但是很 practical 的建议,包括饮食、营养、运动、日常使用物品等等。有一些实验结论、也有健康方面的理论介绍。能感觉作者的倾向是非常回归自然派的。不过很喜欢作者的 mindset——作为 owner 不需要把所有的事情都做到尽善尽美,选择力所能及的为自家狗子慢慢做就好了。给小乎除了主粮之外开始每天加鲜食混合,饮食和营养品的选择上还需要再参考这本书提供的资料核对一下。being active 的部分感觉已经做得挺好的了,毕竟我比小乎 active,经常不是我限制他而是嫌弃他怎么不愿意出门多一些 😂 但是还是很感激因为要每天三四次带他出门,如果碰上情绪超大波动,每次和他出门都是一次 reset。反正一起变健康叭,希望小乎可以成为长寿狗狗 🎋
What to Do When I'm Gone Goodreads 豆瓣 谷歌图书
7.7 (6 个评分) 作者: Suzy Hopkins Bloomsbury Publishing USA 2018 - 04
A mother's advice to her daughter--a guide to daily living, both practical and sublime--with full-color illustrations throughout.

One sleepless night while she was in her early twenties, illustrator/writer Hallie Bateman had a painful realization: her mom would die, and after she died she would be gone. The prospect was devastating, and also scary--how would she navigate the world without the person who gave her life? She thought about all the motherly advice she would miss--advice that could help her through the challenges to come, including the ordeal of losing a parent.

The next day, Hallie asked her mother, writer Suzy Hopkins, to record step-by-step instructions for her to follow in the event of her mom's death. The list began: &quot;Pour yourself a stiff glass of whiskey and make some fajitas&quot; and continued from there, walking Hallie through the days, months, and years of life after loss, with motherly guidance and support, addressing issues great and small--from choosing a life partner to baking a quiche. The project became a way for mother and daughter to connect with humor, openness, and gratitude. It led to this book.

Combining Suzy's wit and heartfelt advice with Hallie's quirky and colorful style, What to Do When I'm Gone is the illustrated instruction manual for getting through life without one's mom. It's also a poignant look at loss, love, and taking things one moment at a time. By turns whimsical, funny, touching, and above all pragmatic, it will leave readers laughing and teary-eyed. And it will spur conversations that enrich family members' understanding of one another.
2023年11月28日 已读
一星给这本书的概念:作者邀请了妈妈来写当妈妈去世的之后想让女儿做的事情。
一星给这本书的时间线:本来以为是妈妈去世之后每一天做什么,读着读着才发现是跳着的,从 day 1 到 day 20000,aka 54年之后,那个时候女儿都老了,最后一个 tips 是关于女儿自己的死亡。
半星给道德压力,这种概念的书如果我只给它两星是不是显得自己过于无情?
但是这本书真的非常难代,老让人做饭,而且都是西餐菜谱;这对母女关系应该非常好吧;expect人结婚生娃老了还要带孙辈。泪点这么低了碰上这样的概念居然丝毫没有哭意,不到半个小时就翻完了。嗯。
Out of My Head 谷歌图书
作者: Brian Chidester / Josep Baque Fantagraphics Books 2023 - 05
In this first-ever critical biography of Baqué, art historian, author, and curator Brian Chidester reflects the artist and his creation through the prism of 20th century art, the Franco dictatorship in Spain (1939-75), and the few correlative records in Baqué's personal archive. Yet the book doubles as a manual of sorts on the creative process, and most fascinatingly, speaks to the deeper role the imagination plays in overcoming oppression through wonder.
2023年11月21日 已读
这书看得我心情复杂,Josep Baque 不是有名的艺术家,他画的东西好多也是自己上班间隙在草稿纸上涂涂画画的。很有趣的 creatures,也感觉他画的东西不是顶复杂,最挑动我心思的是……这种稀奇古怪的 creatures 高中上课无聊的时候我画了多少草稿纸…… Baque 很幸运啊遇到了他的 Brain Chidester 把他的作品从故纸堆里挖出来编纂成书。
Bees 谷歌图书
作者: Piotr Socha Harry N. Abrams 2017 - 03
One part science, one part cultural history, and countless parts fascination, Bees: A Honeyed History is a picture book that celebrates the important role that these intriguing insects have played in our ecosystem throughout the ages, and today. "Goes beyond the scientific (anatomy, pollination, communication, etc.) to include the bee's place in history and culture . . . Socha has created what is quite possibly the sweetest resource on honey bees around." ―Booklist (Starred Review) From Athena to Alexander the Great and from Egypt to Ethiopia, author Piotr Socha explores different methods of beekeeping and uncovers the debt that humans owe this vital species. His beautiful guide for children offers full-color two-page topical entries dominated by large, detailed illustrations with text running along the lower half of the pages. It covers: Bee bodies and behaviorHive buildingSocial rolesPollinating and honey productionThe relationship between bees and prehistoric people, ancient Greeks, and EgyptiansAnd many other topics Bees are essential to the health of ecosystems around the world and are under threat from changing habitats and manmade challenges. Animal threats to bees are described here, as well as the collapse of bee colonies in the United States in recent years. There are descriptions and details of beekeeping throughout history and today. With beautifully accessible illustrations depicting everything from bee anatomy to the essentials of honey making, readers will be captivated by the endless wonders of this seemingly small speck of the animal kingdom. For a curious child or a parent who wants to explain the contribution of bees to the world around us, this book is lively, fun, and educational.
2023年11月19日 已读
明明是同一个插画师在差不多时间画的,因为主题不感兴趣就觉得人家画的没什么意思,最双标就是我本人 == 草草翻了一下,准备还书了 😂
Trees: A Rooted History 豆瓣
作者: Piotr Socha / Wojciech Grajkowski Harry N. Abrams 2019 - 4
Part botany, part history, part cultural anthropology—Trees goes beyond the basics to tell readers everything they might want to know about this particular branch of the plant kingdom. Trees explores the important roles trees play in our ecosystem, takes an up-close-and-personal look at the parts of trees (from roots to leaves), and unpacks the cultural impact of trees from classification systems (like family trees) to art forms (like bonsai trees). Looking forward, Trees also addresses the deforestation crisis. Heavily illustrated in the same style as Bees: A Honeyed History, Trees: A Rooted History serves as a beautifully packaged celebration of trees of all kinds.
2023年11月15日 已读
在 Huntington Library 的礼品店看到的,翻开来和朋友双双一秒种草。画风大胆有趣,用色鲜明、构图和谐舒适同时 variation 又很多。这本书让我意识到 illustration 对我画画来说也是一个 approachable 的种类,具体来说就是有点儿像是百科全书式的、科普类的、不直接谈感情的()。这本书的内容来说非常吸引我的点是它的 global 视角——不是西方为中心的也不是东方为中心的,是真 global,中间讨论的各种树和相关的文化覆盖了每一个大洲、经常出现非洲和澳洲一些不知道是不是该叫做国家还是地区的地方,东欧和南美洲也频频出现,同时也不刻意避开大加州和中国日本。非常喜欢这个插画家 Piotr Socha,第一次在读插画书的时候做画面分析,32 张图里给 9 张图认真写了“what do I see“。Socha 还出了另一本插画书 Bees,已经从图书馆借到啦,下一本就来读它!