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Reflective Writing in Counselling and Psychotherapy 豆瓣
作者: Wright, Jeannie; Bolton, Gillie E. J.; 2012 - 4
Have you been asked to keep a personal development portfolio or reflective journal? Are you struggling to know where to start, how to write or what to include? If the answer's 'yes', this book will provide you with a straightforward route in, telling you all you need to know about writing reflectively for your own personal and professional development. Offering staged exercises, case-studies, examples and ideas for self-directed learning, this book will lead the reader along an exciting journey of written self-awareness, covering: " the background - what exactly is reflective writing and why is it important " the decisions - when and how to start " the practicalities - the essentials of writing reflectively " the stumbling blocks - dealing with obstacles and difficulties " the long haul - maintaining reflective enquiry as a lifelong habit This book is an essential how-to guide appropriate for all undergraduate and postgraduate trainees, whether they are approaching the topic from a psychodynamic, person-centred or CBT perspective. It will give trainees all the tools they need to become mature reflective practitioners. Jeannie Wright Director of Counselling and Psychotherapy Programmes at Warwick University. Gillie Bolton is a Freelance consultant in therapeutic & reflective practice writing and author of the bestselling Reflective Writing, 3rd Edition, SAGE 2010.
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk 豆瓣
作者: Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish Harper Paperbacks 2006 - 9
Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish han ayudado a millones de familias con sus bestsellers. Ahora, y por primera vez en español, estas aclamadas expertas a nivel internacional nos ofrecen una guía que le dará las herramientas necesarias para ayudarles a sus adolescentes -- ¡y a usted mismo! -- a sobrevivir la etapa difícil de la adolescencia. "Mi hijo de trece años pasa su tiempo con los peores chicos de la escuela. Le paso diciendo que se aleje de ellos, pero siempre me ignora. ¿Cómo hago para que me haga caso?" "Mi hija pasa mucho tiempo en el Internet charlando con un muchacho de dieciséis años. Bueno, por lo menos eso dice él. Ahora la quiere conocer. Ella está muy entusiasmada. Yo tengo miedo. ¿Qué hago?" "Acabo de enterarme que mi hija de doce años fuma marihuana. ¿Cómo la confronto?" Vivir con un adolescente puede ser abrumador. A veces es como si nuestros niños cariñosos se convirtieran de la noche a la mañana en adolescentes independientes, con sus propios pensamientos, gustos y valores. Hoy en día, los jóvenes están creciendo en un mundo más cruel, más materialista, más sexual y más violento que antes. ¿Qué se debe hacer? Tras muchos años de investigación, conferencias y comentarios que han recibido, Faber y Mazlish, autoras del clásico bestseller Cómo Hablar para que los Niños Escuchen y Cómo Escuchar para que los Niños Hablen, han desarrollado una innovadora forma de mantener un diálogo abierto y respetuoso entre padres y adolescentes, una estrategia que le pone frenos al conflicto, reduce frustraciones y fomenta conversaciones acerca de las drogas, el sexo y otros temas difíciles y de actualidad. Escrito en el estilo práctico y popular de estas galardonadas autoras, y lleno de sugerencias, historias y dibujos, esta guía le ayudará a construir una relación más comunicativa y menos conflictiva con sus adolescentes.
2018年7月27日 已读
仍然是emotional coaching-based communication skills. 之前看Raising an emotionally intelligent kid里面强调对teenager不要太强调label emotions,因为整体的culture决定了他们觉得表露情绪是示弱,而且容易被同龄人pick up;这本的态度是承认这样的文化,但仍然鼓励使用label emotions。跟adolescent client接触不多,目前还不太好判断究竟哪种方式更好,先持保留意见好了。对teens特有的sex and drug问题也是感觉还差了那么点意思。比较喜欢作者把teens也叫过来单独做了一个session,和teens与家长一起做一个session的部分。
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Siblings Without Rivalry 豆瓣
作者: Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish W. W. Norton & Company 2012 - 6
Already best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along. The result was Siblings Without Rivalry. This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding much gained from raising their own children Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new afterword.
2018年7月15日 已读
(2018.25) 感觉作为独生子女,之前一直没意识到sibling rivalry原来这么普遍233 和How to talk to kids里cover的沟通方式是一致的,但更加focus在sibling rivalry上;仍然是非常好读,对therapist和家长都很有用。但感觉实际做parenting skill coaching的时候需要思考一下怎么把这两本书和Tuning into kids一起结合起来。
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The Body Keeps the Score 豆瓣 谷歌图书 Goodreads
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
9.8 (8 个评分) 作者: Bessel van der Kolk, MD Viking Adult 2014 - 9
A pioneering researcher and one of the world's foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing
Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Such experiences inevitably leave traces on minds, emotions, and even on biology. Sadly, trauma sufferers frequently pass on their stress to their partners and children.
Renowned trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain's wiring-specifically areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust. He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments including neurofeedback, mindfulness techniques, play, yoga, and other therapies. Based on Dr. van der Kolk's own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy-and a way to reclaim lives.
2018年7月9日 已读
基本是trauma领域的必读了。理论和实践部分讲得都很全面也很好理解,作者分享的clinical experience也都很有趣。对EMDR,neurofeedback和internal family therapies都很感兴趣,虽然感觉都很神棍- - 不过EMDR has shown very strong evidence in the literature, 后两项就…… 当然书里也讨论了为什么后两项只有limited evidence。总之感觉读完之后只能接受从developmental trauma的角度看问题了呢。书后的recommended reading感觉都很棒,慢慢学习慢慢读吧。
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Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting 豆瓣
作者: Ph.D. John Gottman / Joan Declaire Simon & Schuster 1998 - 8
Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to: * Be aware of a child's emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.
2018年6月7日 已读
(2018.18) 和How to talk to kids so kids will listen的基本理念相同,都是Emotional Coaching的parenting style。How to偏向self-help,好读好操作;这本偏理论一点,讲研究和理论稍微多一些,后面讲青少年和marriage的内容也蛮有启发的,但实践性会弱一些。
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The Five Love Languages 豆瓣
作者: Gary Chapman Northfield Publishing 1995 - 6
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love may be a many- splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But, more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp
2018年5月8日 已读
(2018.17) A quick read. This book is OK if both parties are emotionally mature, which, let's be honest, is not as common as we wish. The key message here is your way of showing love may not match another person's way of perceiving love. But this book does not deal with any personal baggage, and can even be harmful in the case of domestic violence.
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk 豆瓣 谷歌图书
作者: Faber, Adele; Mazlish, Elaine; Simon and Schuster 2012 - 2
《如何说孩子才会听怎么听孩子才肯说》是美国家庭教育十大畅销书之一,销售300多万册,被译为30多种文字版本广泛传颂,全球父母亲子必读。该书长踞美国畅销书排行榜,长居《纽约时报》亲子类畅销书排行榜,出版20多年长销不衰。
★中国大陆唯一授权正版中文精装本!
★美国最著名的亲子教育书系作者,送给中国父母的最好礼物——爱的技巧和训练。
“你这孩子怎么那么不听话?”面对孩子的行为做父母的常常忍不住脱口而出。是的,天凉了让加衣服就是不加,地板凉可就是要打光脚,就是不要刷牙,就是要把饭弄得满桌子都是,就是不叫叔叔阿姨,就是要把屋子弄得乱七八糟,到吃饭的点了可就是还要看电视,就是不愿意做作业……等等,全是怎么说都不听。
阅读本书的经历,将是一次学习爱的技巧与接受爱的训练的过程, 它给了你走进孩子内心世界的钥匙,指引你切身体会孩子内心的感受。通过一系列实用有效的方法,帮助你和孩子建立起一个能够快乐交流的平台,使孩子变得不同寻常地愿意与父母配合。掌握了“如何说?”“怎么听?”的技巧,就能开启孩子的心灵世界,与孩子达成美妙的交流沟通,让孩子在您的引导下身心健康发展。
Publisher Comments :
You Can Stop Fighting With Your Children
Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children--and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this Twentieth Anniversary Edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based upon feedback they've received over the years.
Their methods of communication-illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action-offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You'll learn how to:
1.Cope with your child's negative feelings-frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.
2.Express your anger without being hurtful
3.Engage your child's willing cooperation
4.Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
5.Use alternatives to punishment
6.Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Amazon.com
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages.
About Author
Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between adults and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have won the gratitude of parents and the enthusiastic endorsement of the professional community.
Their first book, Liberated Parents/Liberated Children, received the Christopher Award for "literary achievement affirming the highest values of the human spirit." Their subsequent books, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk and the #1 New York Times bestseller Siblings Without Rivalry, have sold over 3 million copies and have been translated into more than twenty languages. Their group workshop programs and videos produced by PBS are currently used by thousands of parents' groups around the globe. Their most recent book, How to Talk So Kids Can Learn-At Home and in School, was cited by Child magazine as the "best book of the year for excellence in family issues and education."
Both authors studied with the late child psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott, and are former members of the faculty of The New School for Social Research in New York City and The Family Life Institute of Long Island University. In addition to their frequent lectures throughout the United States and Canada, they have appeared on every major television show from "Good Morning America" to "The Oprah Winfrey Show." They currently reside in Long Island, New York, and each is the parent of three children.
From Los Angeles Times
"Designed to bring adults to the level of children, and children to the level of adults, so that this happy meeting ground can truly make for harmony in the home."
Book Dimension
Height (mm) 206                   Width (mm) 138
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如何说孩子才肯学
2018年5月8日 已读
读完很久了,一直忘记标。很想让所有跟孩子有接触的人都来一本,关起来读完了再放出去233. 说到底无非是把孩子当成一个平等的人,而里面的communication skills无论是做couple counselling,还是interpersonal relationship/social skill training都是通用的。目前做parenting skill training主要在用这本书里的内容,感觉如果有更加偏向treatment manual + research findings的一版就更好了。
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Self-Regulation Interventions and Strategies 豆瓣
作者: Teresa Garland PESI Publishing & Media 2014 - 3
2018年4月18日 已读
(2018.15) 读到的讲sensory issues in ASD, ADHD and SPD和相应的regulation strategies中比较好的一本,理论和实践都有兼顾,low functioning ASD和很小的孩子这种比较复杂的情况也有照顾到,case study也非常有用。相对来说每一项therapy和intervention讲得都没有那么细,需要继续去读细分领域的书来深入学习,但cover的方向比较全面,整体已经不错了。需要重读记笔记。
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Understanding Your Child's Sensory Signals 豆瓣
作者: Angie Voss OTR CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform 2011 - 9
2018年3月20日 已读
A dictionary-like handbook consisting most common sensory signals, making it easy to check up whether a certain behavior indicates sensory seeking or sensory avoidance. But that's about it. Interventions provided for each signal were very brief, and way too repetitive. The lack of references to back up the author's claims is also very alarming.
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Buried in Treasures 豆瓣
作者: David Tolin / Randy O. Frost 2013 - 11
While most people find it relatively easy to manage their possessions, some find it extremely difficult. If you have a problem resisting the urge to acquire and you find your home cluttered and filled to capacity with items many people would find useless and unnecessary, you may suffer from a condition known as hoarding disorder.
Hoarding is a behavioral problem consisting of clutter, difficulty discarding items, and excessive buying or acquiring. Hoarding is often associated with significant reduction in quality of life, and in extreme cases, it can pose serious health risks. If you or a loved one has hoarding disorder, this book can help.
This fully updated Second Edition of Buried in Treasures outlines a scientifically based, effective program for helping those with hoarding disorder dig their way out of the clutter and chaos of their homes. Written by scientists and practioners who are leaders in studying and treating hoarding disorder, this book outlines a program of skill-building, learning to think about possessions in a different way, and gradual challenges to help people manage their clutter and their lives. It also provides useful information for family and friends of people who hoard, as they struggle to understand and help.
Discover the reasons for your problems with acquiring, saving, and hoarding, and learn new ways of thinking about your possessions so you can decide what you really need and what you can do without. Learn to identify the "bad guys" that cause and maintain your hoarding behavior and meet the "good guys" who can help motivate you and put you on the path to change. Useful self-assessments will help you determine the severity of your problem. Training exercises, case examples, organizing tips, and motivation boosters help change the way you think and behave toward your possessions. This book provides easy-to-understand strategies and techniques that anyone can use.
2017年12月8日 已读
(2017.30) Good book with a very reasonable price, covering a range of factors contributing to anger and various therapeutic techniques. Can be used with Grade 5+ by therapist/parents/teachers. Cons: 1). Most children and adolescents do not respond well to worksheets and written tasks. Simply too boring. 2). Too much to cover without a paced plan.
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Counselling Children, Adolescents and Families 豆瓣
作者: Sharry, John 2004 - 1
'I recommend this book to anyone who lives or works with families, children or teenagers' - Nurturing Potential 'This is a valuable book, worth attention in every child and family service. My own agency has ordered a copy!' - Robert Cumming, Nurturing Potential 'John Sharry's book is a jewel in the solution-focused literature. It is clearly and engagingly written, draws on a host of ideas from different therapeutic approaches and is packed with practical examples. There is no better book on strengths-based therapy with children and adolescents. Every team should have one' - Chris Iveson, Brief Therapy Practice Counselling Children, Adolescents and Families describes an innovative approach to therapeutic work which builds on the strengths of children and their parents. As the author's experience shows, helping clients to focus on potential solutions rather than problems can be a powerful means of engaging them in the therapeutic process, even in the most conflicting family circumstances.Harnessing the client's personal, family and community resources in this way also helps counteract their feelings of powerlessness and the possibility of increasing reliance on professional services. Part One outlines the basic principles of a solution-focused and strengths-based approach, tackling such thorny issues as how and when to use diagnosis. Part two describes creative applications of the approach, using groupwork, play-based activities and video feedback. Part Three, examines practical issues which arise in more 'difficult' cases, such as child abuse and suicidal teenagers and children. This book is aimed at professionals and trainees in fields including social work, mental health, childcare, education, psychotherapy and counselling.
2017年11月19日 已读
(2017.25)书挺短的,粗扫了一遍。太general了太理论了以致于没有太大借鉴意义。感觉现在最大的问题就是I know WHAT to do, but I still do not know HOW to do it. 真是崩溃啊= =
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101 Games and Activities for Children With Autism, Asperger’s and Sensory Processing Disorders 豆瓣
作者: Tara Delaney McGraw-Hill Education 2009 - 8
LEARNING THROUGH PLAY One of the best ways for children with autism, Asperger's, and sensory processing disorders to learn is through play. Children improve their motor skills, language skills, and social skills by moving their bodies and interacting with their environment. Yet the biggest challenges parents, teachers, and loved ones face with children on the autism spectrum or with sensory processing disorders is how to successfully engage them in play. Pediatric occupational therapist Tara Delaney provides the answer. In 101 Games and Activities for Children with Autism, Asperger's, and Sensory Processing Disorders, she shows you how to teach your children by moving their bodies through play. These interactive games are quick to learn but will provide hours of fun and learning for your child. And many of the games can be played indoors or outdoors, so your child can enjoy them at home, outside, or on field trips. More than one hundred games that help your child: make eye-contact, stay focused, and strengthen his or her motor skills associate words with objects and improve language and numerical skills learn how to interact with others, how to take turns, and other social skills needed for attending preschool and school
2017年11月5日 已读
(2017.23)想找一些ABA therapy里面能用的ideas,但大部分activities都是日常和家长做感觉更好一些,实际感觉自己可用的不是很多。但分类和rationale还不错,家里有ASD孩子的话应该还是挺实用的。
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