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拼团人生 Eggplant.place 豆瓣
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8.2 (72 个评分) 作者: (韩)金荷娜 / (韩)黄善宇 译者: 姜玲 中信出版社 2022 - 10
单身、未婚、独居,难道就意味着孤独终老?

她们拒绝套用公式人生!

独居超过二十年的好友金荷娜、黄善宇,渐渐厌倦一个人住的孤单与不安。她们偶然看上一间房子,便决定一起买下它,开启同居生活。

住在一起后,两个好友才真正看见彼此的巨大差异——囤积症vs极简主义,料理白痴vs烹饪小天才……她们在争吵磨合与长短互补间,借由与对方的差异,渐渐更懂自己。

一起吃饭、一起运动、一起喝酒、一起当猫奴,不用奉养对方的父母,不用成为谁家的媳妇,生病了互相照顾,困难时互相帮助……她们找到了单身的轻盈感与有人相伴的温暖并存的美妙……
2023年8月3日 已读
看完也太羡慕了,首先,她们家装修的特别好,大家可以打开内页欣赏一下,还有她们的猫。其次,她们还和很多朋友住在同一区,甚至楼下楼下,大家都互相照顾彼此。这不就是附近么?!最后,她们家处理事情的方式也很文明,很成熟,只有女的可以进行。看到百岁时代,人至少离1次婚,换两次职业,感觉到很感慨。
浪的景观 豆瓣 谷歌图书
7.7 (23 个评分) 作者: 周嘉宁 Shanghai wen yi chu ban she 2022 - 8 其它标题: 浪的景观
“我和朋友们曾置身于90年代的热带风暴。我用自行车带着朋友,笔直冲进水泊,奋力踩着踏板。
而后,我们共同来到了干燥的下世纪。”
——周嘉宁
※ 睽隔四年,周嘉宁《基本美》之后全新中篇集,以《再见日食》《浪的景观》《明日派对》,完成千禧一代中篇三部曲,分别从“ 天才女孩”、地下服饰、电台文化三个主题入手,加之扎实、精确、节制的叙事,勾勒出全球化语境下成长起来的一代中国人的内心特质。
※ 关于集体记忆与个别的梦,浪尖的风与好运,遗留于浅滩的残骸,友谊与纪念碑。来自世纪初的共振充盈着此时此刻,直至曾经发生的热情在日渐完整的秩序中重塑自己的形状。
※ 从偏远的美国小镇,到南京某处名为“防风林”地下室,从挤满罗大佑歌迷的南下列车,到已不复存在的上海迪美地下城,周嘉宁书写时代浪潮中的友谊、爱情、梦想,以小说的形式,为读者提供“一块干净明亮的地方”。
本书收录了周嘉宁2019年至今创作的三部中篇小说:《再见日食》(2019)、《浪的景观》(2021)、《明日派对》(2022)。
《再见日食》:日本作家满岛拓时隔二十年再访佩奥尼亚小镇,与青年时代的友人们重逢,而怀有隐秘过去的中国少女泉,早已失散于世界深处,只被拓用语言留存在虚构中。此刻,湖泊、草地与森林交汇的乌托邦,一场葬礼已经结束,一次日食将被见证。
《浪的景观》:似乎是为延续世纪末的旧梦,“我”和群青加入新世纪弄潮儿的队伍,在迪美地下城盘下档口,做起服装生意。在时代浪潮中,友情、爱情、金钱和梦想被高高举起,又迅速被席卷,留下一地泡沫。当“我”站在沙滩上的金字塔面前,却决定不再做一个困在回忆里的受害者,而是伸长手臂,向宇宙发出勇者的信号。
《明日派对》:午夜电台的音乐节目主持人张宙,像一段没有形态的波段,连接起“我”、王鹿、潇潇和“作战指挥部”一群人的友谊,我们遍历世纪初的上海、南京、北京和台北,在虚拟时空、在长江口湿地,试图搭建一个关于音乐梦想的“明日派对”。然而在时代的挤压下,一切似乎难以维系。劫后余生的人们顺流而下,心怀感激,在河的这边靠岸,向河的那边挥手。
2023年6月5日 已读
真的,这个书平时一看就会睡过去,但是最后是因为去拍签证才拿着看完的。感觉故事的就是很突兀。。。
她厌男,她是我女友 豆瓣
나의 미친 페미니스트 여자친구
6.5 (79 个评分) 作者: [韩] 闵智炯 译者: 黄莞婷 中国友谊出版公司 2023 - 5
以韩国男性为第一视角的女性小说,每一句都太典了!
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★是这个世界让我成为了女性主义者——比《82年生的金智英》更进一步,超高讨论度的韩国女性小说。
荣获韩国教保文库年度小说,入选韩国文化艺术委员会推荐好书。版权售出中、日、泰、越、印、俄等多国,引发东亚读者强烈共鸣。
★太真实了!扑面而来的熟悉感!——用普通男性视角看待女性主义,以赤诚坦率捕捉荒诞现实。
我做错了什么?为什么被骂?是在影射所有男人吗?女人为什么变成这样?无奈揭开男性与女性看到的貌似相同却截然不同的现实。
★所有的女人,都是她!是女友、是妻子、是母亲,但也是我自己。
以女性对女性的强力共情与支持,挣脱束缚,挑战偏见,打破冷漠。本书献给所有“开了天眼”、仍在战斗的女性。
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分开多年后,金胜俊再次与前女友相遇。这是命运给的第二次机会,他们以虽然有些奇怪的方式复合,却很快恢复了恋人关系。可是在日渐升温的相处中,金胜俊发现,当年不谙世事的温柔、贤惠女孩如今已变成一位独立、成熟、清醒的女性主义者,这些年究竟发生了什么?平复下来掺杂震惊与好奇的心情,没关系,胜俊心想只要发动“好男人”攻势,一定可以让女友回到当初,随后他们会顺利结婚、生育、建立家庭。可谁料到,在接连产生的矛盾与冲突中,没有一件事情按照他的想象发展......
2023年5月22日 已读
这个韩男可以直接和国男替换😂
我们没有秘密 豆瓣
我們沒有秘密
8.3 (26 个评分) 作者: 吴晓乐 2022 - 5
律师范衍重一直以为他与妻子吴辛屏之间没有秘密。吴辛屏安静又低调,他们之间也一直不怎么提及过去。但妻子一夕之间消失了。范衍重从妻子工作的地方展开调查,越是追查就越陷入重重疑云:妻子声称已过世的母亲突然现身,揭露吴辛屏的过往——她在小镇上曾经出过事。
当年小镇里的名门家庭宋家有两个孩子,性格孤僻古怪的宋怀萱是妹妹,而哥哥宋怀谷面貌俊俏、优秀,是校园风云人物。看似高贵亲密的家庭中暗藏着裂隙。高中大考前,宋怀萱邀请吴辛屏参加宋怀谷的生日派对,而几天后吴辛屏对她的老师说,宋怀谷强暴了她。
这段往事与吴辛屏的失踪有关吗?追查的众人却不约而同地摸索到了宋怀萱这里。这件为小镇人所嗤之以鼻的案件似乎另有隐情。当年事件的主角究竟是谁?那一晚到底发生了什么?
继现象级作品《你的孩子不是你的孩子》后,作家吴晓乐聚焦社会禁忌话题,层层布局、密密织网,试图描摹受害者“我”的复杂内心世界,带领读者沉浸式体会黑暗、绝望的生命体验
2023年5月15日 已读
滔滔生活 豆瓣 谷歌图书
8.6 (85 个评分) 作者: [韩]金爱烂 译者: 徐丽红 人民文学出版社 2022 - 10
“韩国八零后天才女作家”金爱烂
第二十七届申东晔创作奖获奖作品
未来文学家奖得主 张怡微 作序《“我想抓住那道光”》
“喜欢金爱烂的读者,很容易就会捕捉到千变万化的文学创造背后那双犀利的女性冷眼……现实冷峻如雪,作家将这些体验都划归为生活本来的样子,它是有温度的,是寒冷的。与此同时,它也是有光芒的。”
《滔滔生活》是金爱烂的第二部短篇小说集,共收入八篇作品。这些故事写成长于饺子馆的女孩在雨水倒灌的首尔半地下出租屋里肆意弹琴,写都会女性极度疲惫而辛劳的职场生涯,有城市青年囿于物质的缺乏无法体面过圣诞节,写丈夫出轨与负债的妈妈靠开面馆养大女儿……它们聚焦了城市中那些看似平常、边缘,实则每天都在与生活无声抗争的可敬的普通人;这些充满想象力和智慧的文字就像在平淡无奇的日常生活中积聚起来的一汪水,读者映照出自己,辨认出生活的重压之下个人的内心曲折。
2023年4月28日 已读
太能relate了,预感我又会不断的反复翻看,一次又一次的回到故事里。
容易忘记的名字 豆瓣 Goodreads
잊기 좋은 이름
8.2 (23 个评分) 作者: [韩]金爱烂 译者: 薛舟 人民文学出版社 2022 - 10
《容易忘记的名字》是金爱烂首部散文集,分三部共三十二篇。第一部名为"呼唤我的名字",以走过作者生命的名字为线索,深情回望成长之路与往昔岁月;第二部名为"和你一起呼唤的名字",记录作者在文学意义上的成长以及与文人朋友的交往;第三部名为"召唤我们的名字",分享作者的阅读与游历,观察与反思周遭社会。金爱烂说,"世界上不存在容易忘记的名字",即每个普通人都不该被遗忘。本书既是作者致谢以往生命中出现的人们,也会让读者回忆过去,更加珍视人际往来。
2023年4月20日 已读
太能relate了。
Contesting Chineseness 谷歌图书 豆瓣
作者: Sylvia Ang Amsterdam University Press 2022 - 4
Nearly eleven million Chinese migrants live outside of China. While many of these faces of China’s globalization headed for the popular Western destinations of the United States, Australia and Canada, others have been lured by the booming Asian economies. Compared with pre-1949 Chinese migrants, most are wealthier, motivated by a variety of concerns beyond economic survival and loyal to the communist regime. The reception of new Chinese migrants, however, has been less than warm in some places. In Singapore, tensions between Singaporean-Chinese and new Chinese arrivals present a puzzle: why are there tensions between ethnic Chinese settlers and new Chinese arrivals despite similarities in phenotype, ancestry and customs? Drawing on rich empirical data from ethnography and digital ethnography, Contesting Chineseness: Nationality, Class, Gender and New Chinese Migrants investigates this puzzle and details how ethnic Chinese subjects negotiate their identities in an age of contemporary Chinese migration and China’s ascent.
2023年1月17日 已读
Chinese并非一个同质化群体;经验上捕捉到了不同阶级/性别内,新移民和本地人之间对彼此的想象和对‘chineseness’的不同reclaim,新移民混淆作为ethnicity和nationality的Chinese,本地人through policing新移民to claim to be better chinese;在不断变化的geopolitics和资本流转中,Chinese始终是一个纠纷不断的斗争场域,国家也好,社会也罢都在介入。
Seeking Western Men 谷歌图书
作者: Monica Liu Stanford University Press 2022
"Commercial dating agencies that facilitate marriages across national borders comprise a $2.5-billion-dollar global industry. Ideas about the industry are rife with stereotypes--younger, more physically attractive brides from non-Western countries being paired with older Western men. These ideas are more myth than fact, Monica Liu finds in Seeking Western Men. Her study of China's email-order bride industry offers stories of Chinese women who are primarily middle-aged, divorced, and proactively seeking spouses to fulfill their material and sexual needs. What they seek in their Western partners is tied to what they believe they've lost in the shifting global economy around them. The majority of these women do not speak English, and so rely on translators to help with, especially, the early stages of courtship: email correspondence. Ranging from multi-millionaire entrepreneurs or ex-wives and mistresses of wealthy Chinese businessmen, to contingent sector workers and struggling single mothers, these women, along with their translators and potential husbands from the U.S., Canada, and Australia, make up the actors in this multifaceted story. Set against the backdrop of China's global economic ascendance and a relative decline of the West, this book asks: How does China's rise reshape Chinese women's perception of Western masculinity? Moreover, how do the women's own divergent class positions within China shape the outcome of their marital trajectories differently? Through the unique window of global internet dating, this book reveals how China's rise on the world stage reshapes relationships of race, class, gender, sex, and intimacy across borders. More broadly, Seeking Western Men looks at how the people for whom late-stage capitalism has not provided its promised advantages have sought to take matters into their own hands. The global dating industry, for them, acts as a surrogate for recapturing their agency in a world that has left them behind"--
2023年1月4日 已读 田野很扎实,感觉做了快10年,长时间的追踪能带来一个比较全面的过程描述。但是感觉整个作品是一个对made-in-China feminism正确性的反复确认,subscribe to MIC feminism 的中国女人(成功/“失败”女人)和subscribe to gender egalitarian 的西方男人带着对彼此的想象步入亲密关系。作品里原创的概念比较少,可能就是最后的surrogate dating?但是技术更新换代又把这些人的作用取消了。最后的speculation其实可以关注下有没有可能MIC feminism在新的性别化经济格局里有了新的变化。
Stay True 谷歌图书
作者: Hua Hsu Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group 2022 - 9
A NEW YORK TIMES TOP TEN BOOK OF THE YEAR • From the New Yorker staff writer Hua Hsu, a gripping memoir on friendship, grief, the search for self, and the solace that can be found through art.

“This book is exquisite and excruciating and I will be thinking about it for years and years to come.” —Rachel Kushner, two-time National Book Award finalist and New York Times bestselling author of The Flamethrowers and The Mars Room

In the eyes of eighteen-year-old Hua Hsu, the problem with Ken—with his passion for Dave Matthews, Abercrombie & Fitch, and his fraternity—is that he is exactly like everyone else. Ken, whose Japanese American family has been in the United States for generations, is mainstream; for Hua, the son of Taiwanese immigrants, who makes ’zines and haunts Bay Area record shops, Ken represents all that he defines himself in opposition to. The only thing Hua and Ken have in common is that, however they engage with it, American culture doesn’t seem to have a place for either of them.

But despite his first impressions, Hua and Ken become friends, a friendship built on late-night conversations over cigarettes, long drives along the California coast, and the successes and humiliations of everyday college life. And then violently, senselessly, Ken is gone, killed in a carjacking, not even three years after the day they first meet.

Determined to hold on to all that was left of one of his closest friends—his memories—Hua turned to writing. Stay True is the book he’s been working on ever since. A coming-of-age story that details both the ordinary and extraordinary, Stay True is a bracing memoir about growing up, and about moving through the world in search of meaning and belonging.
2022年12月30日 已读
Right before wrapping up my first year of college, a friend from high school was dead because of an electrical shock. We weren’t close, but it was such a shock for the rest of us who are still alive as young ppl. We keep moving on and growing wiser, or simply older. I wonder who keeps visiting her family after the funeral and how her parents are doing now.
The Fruits of Opportunism 豆瓣
作者: Le Lin University of Chicago Press 2022 - 8
An in-depth examination of the regulatory, entrepreneurial, and organizational factors contributing to the expansion and transformation of China’s supplemental education industry.
Like many parents in the United States, parents in China, increasingly concerned with their children’s academic performance, are turning to for-profit tutoring businesses to help their children get ahead in school. China’s supplemental education industry is now the world’s largest and most vibrant for-profit education market, and we can see its influence on the US higher education system: more than 70% of Chinese students studying in American universities have taken test preparation classes for overseas standardized tests. The Fruits of Opportunism offers a much-needed thorough investigation into this industry. This book examines how opportunistic organizations thrived in an ambiguous policy environment and how they catalyzed organizational and institutional changes in this industry.
A former insider in China’s Education Industry, sociologist Le Lin shows how and why this industry evolved to become a for-profit one dominated by private, formal, nationally operating, and globally financed corporations, despite restrictions the Chinese state placed on the industry. Looking closely at the opportunistic organizations that were founded by marginal entrepreneurs and quickly came to dominate the market, Lin finds that as their non-compliant practices spread across the industry, these opportunistic organizations pushed privatization and marketization from below. The case of China’s Education Industry laid out in The Fruits of Opportunism illustrates that while opportunism leaves destruction in its wake, it can also drive the formation and evolution of a market.
2022年11月10日 已读 感觉最后对于strategic action field theory 的回应有点像打稻草人。这个theory的重点肯定不是state会支持它的allies,事实上这三种SEO都随时可以成为state的allies,这完全取决于政策的偏好和取向。这些组织最大的variation就是embeddedness level;这个field理论是在用力解释embedded positions shape organizational actions,which is exactly 这本书在做的,这个反对的点还不如不提。集中在field转型过程中的模糊和投机本身已经很够了。
私立小学闯关记 豆瓣
6.8 (11 个评分) 作者: 槙原久美子 译者: 刘晓婷 理想国|广西师范大学出版社 2021 - 9
太郎五岁时,槙原久美子听取朋友的建议,舍弃教学品质日益下滑的公立小学,将太郎送到私立小学。
然而,进入私立小学只是长期严酷竞争的开始。身为母亲,久美子既要照料孩子的日常生活、应付学校的繁杂要求、帮助太郎追赶其他同学的进度,还要和其他家长“斗智斗勇”,获取学习情报。面对苛刻死板的应试教育、复杂的人际关系、激烈的校园竞争,久美子和太郎的冲突也越来越频繁……
槙原是一位非常专业的记者,她的叙述和太郎的日记,可以帮助我们更好反思我们当今的教育环境和淘汰焦虑,并向父母和教育者提出一个问题:我们应该为孩子寻找“最好的”教育,还是“最适合”的教育?
【编辑推荐】
★从奋起竞争到激流勇退,“退赛”母亲回忆顶尖小学艰辛求学路。
——本书讲述了母子二人通过艰难补习考上私立小学,最终却在繁重课业和残酷竞争中选择离开的故事。透过母子二人的小学奋斗史,见证他们的收获与挫败、成长与反思,反照出当代精英教育的另一个侧面。
★走进全日本最顶尖的私 立小学,什么样的学生才能赢在人生的起跑线?
——掌握一门乐器,独立撰写一份历史调查报告,自己做一个小发明并拿到专利。六年级就能在海里游两公里,会背着背包在山间远足,在家里下厨做饭。当然,这都建立在门门功课全A的基础上。
★孩子上学,家长受累,直击新时代超级妈妈的两难窘境。
——白天抓日常生活起居,晚上为了作业和课与孩子斗智斗勇,还要处理同其他母亲和老师的复杂人际。作者久美子最终选择辞职,回家做全职妈妈,结果发现在如今,当母亲比上班还累。
★久美子的记述和太郎的日记可以帮助今天的家长反思以下问题:
精英教育可以帮助孩子打造过人优势,但是否磨灭了他们的个性?
家长的投入对孩子不可或缺,但过度控制是否反而伤害了孩子的自主性?
高标准可以磨练孩子的承压能力,但是否损伤了他们宝贵的自尊?
我们应该为孩子寻找“最好的”教育,还是“最适合”的教育?
★内附精美插图和太郎日记,生动还原母子二人闯关心路
★《他乡的童年》导演、媒体人周轶君诚心推荐
2022年10月11日 已读
看得我觉得很累,这些私立教育真是太卷了。一个小学生居然要折腾那么多门科目,累了,大人难受,小孩也惨。不过像作者这样的家庭背景都能被折腾成这样:),可想而之普通人还是做普通人来的好。
Bliss Montage 豆瓣 谷歌图书 Eggplant.place Goodreads
8.6 (10 个评分) 作者: Ling Ma Farrar, Straus and Giroux 2022 - 9
A new creation by the author of Severance , the stories in Bliss Montage crash through our carefully built mirages

What happens when fantasy tears through the screen of the everyday to wake us up? Could that waking be our end?

In Bliss Montage , Ling Ma brings us eight wildly different tales of people making their way through the madness and reality of our collective delusions: love and loneliness, connection and possession, friendship, motherhood, the idea of home. From a woman who lives in a house with all of her ex-boyfriends, to a toxic friendship built around a drug that makes you invisible, to an ancient ritual that might heal you of anything if you bury yourself alive, these and other scenarios reveal that the outlandish and the everyday are shockingly, deceptively, heartbreakingly similar.
2022年10月5日 已读
有几篇都在不同的杂志上读过了。个人觉得前面的G和orange都挺好的。很适合改编成影视剧。
Study Gods 谷歌图书 豆瓣
作者: Yi-Lin Chiang Princeton University Press 2022 - 8
Study Gods offers a rare look at the ways privileged youth in China prepare themselves to join the ranks of the global elite. Yi-Lin Chiang shows how these competitive Chinese high schoolers first become “study gods” (xueshen), a term describing academically high-performing students. Constant studying, however, is not what explains their success, for these young people appear god-like in their effortless abilities to excel. Instead, Chiang explores how elite adolescents achieve by absorbing and implementing the rules surrounding status.
Drawing from eight years of fieldwork and extensive interviews, Chiang reveals the important lessons that Chinese youth learn in their pursuit of elite status. They understand the hierarchy of the status system, recognizing and acquiring the characteristics that are prized, while avoiding those that are not. They maintain status by expecting differential treatment and performing status-based behaviors, which guide their daily interactions with peers, teachers, and parents. Lastly, with the help of resourceful parents, they rely on external assistance in the face of potential obstacles and failures. Chiang looks at how students hone these skills, applying them as they head to colleges and careers around the world, and in their relationships with colleagues and supervisors.
Highlighting another facet of China’s rising power, Study Gods announces the arrival of a new generation to the realm of global competition.
2022年9月14日 已读 任何一所中国重点中学出来的学生可能都会有类似的经历或观察,唯分数论下的differentiated treatment based on test scores. 资料比较rich,尤其是学生和家长/老师的互动,田野肯定做的很扎实。但是我觉得整体上,理论贡献不是很足,可能这个文献niche可以再挖一下。
Disorientation Goodreads 豆瓣
作者: Elaine Hsieh Chou / Elaine Hsieh Chou Penguin Press 2022 - 3
A Taiwanese American woman’s coming of consciousness ignites eye-opening revelations and chaos on a college campus in this outrageously hilarious yet startlingly tender debut novel
29-year-old PhD student Ingrid Yang is desperate to finish her dissertation on the late canonical poet, Xiao-Wen Chou, and never read about “Chinese-y” things again. But after four years of painstaking research, she has nothing but anxiety and stomach pain to show for her efforts. When she accidentally stumbles upon a strange and curious note in the Chou archives, she convinces herself it’s her ticket out of academic hell.

But Ingrid’s in much deeper than she thinks. Her clumsy exploits to unravel the note’s message lead to an explosive discovery, one that upends her entire life and the lives of those around her. With her trusty friend Eunice Kim by her side and her rival Vivian Vo hot on her tail, together they set off a rollercoaster of mishaps and misadventures, from campus protests and OTC drug hallucinations, to book burnings and a movement that stinks of “Yellow Peril” propaganda.

In the aftermath, nothing looks quite the same to Ingrid—including her gentle and doting fiancé, Stephen Greene. When he embarks on a book tour with the “super kawaii” Japanese author he’s translated, doubts and insecurities creep in. At the same time, she finds herself drawn to the cool and aloof Alex Kim (even though she swears he’s not her type). As the events Ingrid instigated keep spiraling, she’ll have to confront her sticky relationship to white men and white institutions—and most of all, herself.

An uproarious and bighearted satire, alive with sharp edges, immense warmth, and a cast of unforgettable characters, Disorientation is both a blistering send-up of white supremacy in academia, and a profound reckoning of a Taiwanese American woman’s complicity and unspoken rage. In this electrifying debut novel from a provocative new voice, Chou asks who gets to tell our stories—and how the story changes when we finally tell it ourselves.
2022年8月18日 已读
也许你该找个人聊聊 豆瓣
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
8.7 (214 个评分) 作者: [美]洛莉·戈特利布 译者: 张含笑 果麦文化/上海文化出版社 2021 - 7
这是一位心理治疗师的回忆录,讲述了发生在诊室中的故事。在这个小小的密闭空间里,人们会展现出最真实、最脆弱的一面;也是在这里,人们获得了陪伴和倾听,也获得了宝贵的觉察、成长与改变。

在书中,我们会看到四个来访者的故事,他们是:

一个四十多岁、事业成功、自以为是,认为身边所有人都是蠢货的好莱坞制片人;

一个三十多岁、刚刚新婚就被诊断出患有绝症,时日不多的大学女教师;

一个六十九岁、离过三次婚,感觉孤独绝望,声称生活再不好转就要在七十岁生日当天自杀的老太太;

一个二十多岁、有原生家庭创伤和酗酒问题,在爱情中频频受挫的姑娘。

同时,书中还有第五个寻求帮助的人,那就是治疗师自己。她是一个单身的职场妈妈,四十多岁时遭遇失恋,几乎崩溃。有朋友对她说“或许你该找个人聊聊”,于是她也给自己找了一位心理治疗师。当她切换到来访者的位置,坐到另一位心理治疗师的沙发上诉说自己内心的脆弱与悲伤,就更能感受到心理治疗为何具有治愈和改变的力量。

这本书从治疗师和来访者的双重视角展现了心理治疗的过程,让我们发现:无论身份背景有多相异,人类面对的烦恼其实都相通——爱与被爱、遗憾、选择、控制、不确定、死亡,这些都是我们身而为人必须共同学习面对的议题。我们在现实生活中所遭遇的切肤之痛和生命困境,都能在这本书中得到共鸣、找到希望。

本书是2019年美国众多媒体推荐的心理自助书——它荣登《纽约时报》《时代》《人物》《综艺》等媒体年度必读书榜单,是美国亚马逊当年度销售TOP10图书、哈佛商学院年度推荐图书,它的有声书版本也是当年Audible非虚构类有声书第一名。刚上市一个月,这本书就冲上了美国亚马逊图书总榜TOP100和《纽约时报》畅销榜;出版两年来,已经在全球授权了四十多个语言版本,总销量超过七十万册,并且正在拍摄电视连续剧,由曾出演《绝望主妇》的知名演员伊娃·朗格利亚担纲主演。

享誉全球的心理学泰斗、美国斯坦福大学精神病学终身荣誉教授欧文·亚隆为这本书写下推荐语:“我读心理治疗的书超过半个世纪了,但从来没见过这样的书:这么大胆、这么直白、这么多好故事,又这么深刻而引人入胜。”

国内知名心理学家李松蔚为这本书担任专业审校,并写下推荐序:“读这本书的过程,就是在灵魂的方寸之地一寸寸探索。越往下,越是晦暗幽深,于无声处听惊雷。”
2022年7月25日 已读 只有自己能救自己。
Severance 豆瓣 Goodreads
7.6 (9 个评分) 作者: Ling Ma Farrar, Straus and Giroux 2018 - 8
Candace Chen, a millennial drone self-sequestered in a Manhattan office tower, is devoted to routine. So she barely notices when a plague of biblical proportions sweeps New York. Then Shen Fever spreads. Families flee. Companies halt operations. The subways squeak to a halt. Soon entirely alone, still unfevered, she photographs the eerie, abandoned city as the anonymous blogger NY Ghost.

Candace won’t be able to make it on her own forever, though. Enter a group of survivors, led by the power-hungry IT tech Bob. They’re traveling to a place called the Facility, where, Bob promises, they will have everything they need to start society anew. But Candace is carrying a secret she knows Bob will exploit. Should she escape from her rescuers?

A send-up and takedown of the rituals, routines, and missed opportunities of contemporary life, Ling Ma’s Severance is a quirky coming-of-adulthood tale and satire.
2022年7月11日 已读
逃避学习飞快看完了整本。这哪里是什么zombie apocalypse! 明明是对advanced capitalism 都市生活的一种隐喻, everything is neatly knitted into your daily routines, and you can only think of consumption activities as a way to live and to have an identity. Plus,移民经验写的还是蛮好的, you can feel the same struggle as long as you stay long enough here.
Inside Graduate Admissions 豆瓣
作者: Julie R. Posselt Harvard University Press 2016 - 1
How does graduate admissions work? Who does the system work for, and who falls through its cracks? More people than ever seek graduate degrees, but little has been written about who gets in and why. Drawing on firsthand observations of admission committees and interviews with faculty in 10 top-ranked doctoral programs in the humanities, social sciences, and natural sciences, education professor Julie Posselt pulls back the curtain on a process usually conducted in secret.
Inside Graduate Admissions presents admissions from decision makers' point of view, including thought-provoking episodes of committees debating the process, interviewing applicants, and grappling with borderline cases. Who ultimately makes the admit list reveals as much about how professors see themselves--and each other--as it does about how they view students. Professors in these programs say that they admit on merit, but they act on different meanings of the term. Disciplinary norms shape what counts as merit, as do professors' ideas about intelligence and their aversions to risk, conflict, ambiguity, and change. Professors also say that they seek diversity, but Posselt shows that their good intentions don't translate into results. In fact, faculty weigh diversity in only a small fraction of admissions decisions. Often, they rely upon criteria that keep longstanding inequalities in place.
More equitable outcomes occur when admissions committees are themselves diverse and when members take a fresh look at inherited assumptions that affect their judgment. To help academic departments promote transparency and accountability, Posselt closes with concrete strategies to improve admissions review.
2022年4月18日 已读 有两点之前看的时候没太注意的,1)美国学术市场对新人的需求早已饱和,如今的gatekeeper却还坚持着以往的筛选标准,只会造成新一代学术新人学了一身屠龙术,2)美国高等教育的挣扎和摇摆,在racial justice和meritocracy之间反复摇摆。虽然高标化成绩不预测研院的成就,但是国际生的标化往往都是录取的必要不充分条件;低SES的poc甚至没有必要条件,往往直接无缘。如何有一个更holistic的review非常必要,但是这个holistic的标准谁定如何定又是另外一本书了。
美國 教育社会学 社会学
喂养中国小皇帝 豆瓣
Feeding China's Little Emperors : Food, Children, and Social Change
7.3 (17 个评分) 作者: 景军 主编 译者: 钱霖亮 / 李胜 华东师范大学出版社 2017 - 1
一本来自人类学、社会学、政治经济学、营养学等领域的儿童饮食调查报告
关注中国独生子女群体的食品消费、全球化经济影响下的儿童食品变迁
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本书的形成源于哈佛大学人类学系资深教授华琛(James L. Watson)在费正清中国研究中心发起的“中国社会饮食消费格局”研究项目。九名作者中包括华琛本人,华琛教授的老同事,六人是华琛先生的弟子,因而论文相互呼应的程度非同寻常,在文集类书籍中实属难得。
全书围绕五个议题铺开而论:一是改革开放后中国人的饮食营养,二是儿童食品产业在中国的兴起,三是国家科学育儿话语,四是全球消费文化对中国家庭生活的渗透,五是饮食变迁伴随的社会认同和价值观变迁。
“小皇帝”一词向来被联想到被娇生惯养的独生子女,但所有作者对此都采取了慎重对待的态度,没有简单粗暴地认定独子女必然会有这样或那样的心理问题或某些固化偏执的行为习惯。作者们将更具有学术价值的讨论集中在一连串的具体问题上。例如,郭于华关心的食品和饮食习惯所代表的代际差异问题与景军讨论的科学话语、宗教信念、电视广告在儿童食品消费领域的博弈问题都分析了儿童、家长、老人三代人的代际关系。
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在中国独生子女家庭这个富有争议的议题研究上,景军主编的论文集向前推进了重要的一步。全书没有任何薄弱章节。正如华琛教授总结的那样,这本书的独一无二之处在于,它率先观察到了在对儿童的社会态度上的深刻历史转变。
——著名国际学术期刊《太平洋事务》
本书呈现了一种对文化和饮食行为变迁的丰富描述,指出了研究的多样性以及中国健康研究的未来。
——美国人类学会《营养人类学》期刊
2022年4月7日 已读 现在看这些论文,虽说是不比今日那些研究的方法和数据精细,但是里面还是有不少使人灵光乍现的洞见。
饮食 人类学 家庭 教育 儿童
从零开始的女性主义 豆瓣 Goodreads
上野先生、フェミニズムについてゼロから教えてください!
8.7 (634 个评分) 作者: [日] 上野千鹤子 / [日] 田房永子 译者: 吕灵芝 北京联合出版公司 2021 - 9
◎日本女性主义理论第一人、《厌女》作者上野千鹤子 面向普通读者的女性主义普及课
◎女性为何如此艰难?女性如何奋斗至今?又该如何奋斗?
◎工作、婚恋、育儿,该如何以女性主义的角度思考?
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【编辑推荐】
※去年东京大学入学演讲《等待着你的是即使努力也无法获得回报的社会》引发热议,使上野千鹤子成为了明星学者与作家。本书是继《厌女》《父权制与资本主义》在中国出版之后,她备受期待的新作。
※本书也是上野千鹤子的第一本面向普通读者的女性主义普及读物。不像她比较艰深的学术著作,本书语言幽默平实、通俗易懂,在轻松的对谈形式中向大众普及女性主义的内涵、历史,以及如何以女性主义角度思考日常中的工作、婚恋、育儿问题。
※本书内容触及现代女性所关心的核心问题,揭示了在当今社会中女性仍然面对的诸多不公与困境。上野千鹤子从自身的经历着手,将女性主义放置在个人生活的背景中,告诉我们女性主义不仅仅关乎女性,更关乎每个人的日常生活。
※本书辅以日本人气漫画家田房永子的漫画,在轻松愉悦的氛围中,接受一次女性主义的洗礼。
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【内容简介】
女性主义是什么?为什么我们需要女性主义?如何用女性主义进行思考?
围绕上述种种问题,日本著名学者上野千鹤子与知名漫画家田房永子,开始了一场从零开始的女性主义课堂。她们用幽默的语言、传神的漫画,回溯女性主义的发展历程,畅谈母女关系、性、工作、婚恋、育儿等日常生活中的议题,驳斥关于女性的刻板偏见。
这堂课不仅开启了一趟全新的旅程,更告诉我们:女性主义,不仅仅关乎女性,更关乎每个人的日常生活。
2022年3月13日 已读
Joan Is Okay 豆瓣 Goodreads
8.2 (6 个评分) 作者: Weike Wang Random House 2022 - 1
A witty, moving, piercingly insightful new novel about a marvelously complicated woman who can’t be anyone but herself, from the award-winning author of Chemistry
“A deeply felt portrait . . . With gimlet-eyed observation laced with darkly biting wit, Weike Wang masterfully probes the existential uncertainty of being other in America.”—Celeste Ng, author of Little Fires Everywhere
Joan is a thirtysomething ICU doctor at a busy New York City hospital. The daughter of Chinese parents who came to the United States to secure the American dream for their children, Joan is intensely devoted to her work, happily solitary, successful. She does look up sometimes and wonder where her true roots lie: at the hospital, where her white coat makes her feel needed, or with her family, who try to shape her life by their own cultural and social expectations.
Once Joan and her brother, Fang, were established in their careers, her parents moved back to China, hoping to spend the rest of their lives in their homeland. But when Joan’s father suddenly dies and her mother returns to America to reconnect with her children, a series of events sends Joan spiraling out of her comfort zone just as her hospital, her city, and the world are forced to reckon with a health crisis more devastating than anyone could have imagined.
Deceptively spare yet quietly powerful, laced with sharp humor, Joan Is Okay touches on matters that feel deeply resonant: being Chinese-American right now; working in medicine at a high-stakes time; finding one’s voice within a dominant culture; being a woman in a male-dominated workplace; and staying independent within a tight-knit family. But above all, it’s a portrait of one remarkable woman so surprising that you can’t get her out of your head.
2022年3月9日 已读 It can be very relatable if you’re also a daughter of immigrant parents whose life is completely self-made. Also, her writing on racism is more straightforward than before!