Within the field of clinical psychology, the term "borderline personality disorder" was developed to fulfill a diagnostic need and has come to possess specific stereotypes and negative meanings. Because the term "borderline" is an emotionally charged word, it can lead to a less-than-accurate view of the situation or patient being described, thus presenting a challenge to even the most experienced therapists and becoming one of the most complex disorders to treat. Through the use of one case study, however, experts in borderline personality disorders have put this difficulty at ease. Applying a variety of modalities to identify treatment goals, including: selecting assessment tools, conceptualizing progression, pinpointing pitfalls, and developing techniques, diagnosing and treating BPD has created a more successful therapeutic result.

What makes us the w ay w e are? Some say it’s the genes we inherit at conception. Others are sure it’s the environment we experience in childhood. But could it be that many of our individual characteristics—our health, our intelligence, our temperaments—are influenced by the conditions we encountered before birth?That’s the claim of an exciting and provocative field known as fetal origins. Over the past twenty years, scientists have been developing a radically new understanding of our very earliest experiences and how they exert lasting effects on us from infancy well into adulthood. Their research offers a bold new view of pregnancy as a crucial staging ground for our health, ability, and well-being throughout life.Author and journalist Annie Murphy Paul ventures into the laboratories of fetal researchers, interviews experts from around the world, and delves into the rich history of ideas about how we’re shaped before birth. She discovers dramatic stories: how individuals gestated during the Nazi siege of Holland in World War II are still feeling its consequences decades later; how pregnant women who experienced the 9/11 attacks passed their trauma on to their offspring in the womb; how a lab accident led to the discovery of a common household chemical that can harm the developing fetus; how the study of a century-old flu pandemic reveals the high personal and societal costs of poor prenatal experience. Origins also brings to light astonishing scientific findings: how a single exposure to an environmental toxin may produce damage that is passed on to multiple generations; how conditions as varied as diabetes, heart disease, and mental illness may get their start in utero; why the womb is medicine’s latest target for the promotion of lifelong health, from preventing cancer to reducing obesity. The fetus is not an inert being, but an active and dynamic creature, responding and adapting as it readies itself for life in the particular world it will enter. The pregnant woman is not merely a source of potential harm to her fetus, as she is so often reminded, but a source of influence on her future child that is far more powerful and positive than we ever knew. And pregnancy is not a nine-month wait for the big event of birth, but a momentous period unto itself, a cradle of individual strength and wellness and a crucible of public health and social equality. With the intimacy of a personal memoir and the sweep of a scientific revolution, Origins presents a stunning new vision of our beginnings that will change the way you think about yourself, your children, and human nature itself.

Best-selling author Michael Lewis examines how a Nobel Prize–winning theory of the mind altered our perception of reality.
Forty years ago, Israeli psychologists Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky wrote a series of breathtakingly original studies undoing our assumptions about the decision-making process. Their papers showed the ways in which the human mind erred, systematically, when forced to make judgments about uncertain situations. Their work created the field of behavioral economics, revolutionized Big Data studies, advanced evidence-based medicine, led to a new approach to government regulation, and made much of Michael Lewis’s own work possible. Kahneman and Tversky are more responsible than anybody for the powerful trend to mistrust human intuition and defer to algorithms.
The Undoing Project is about the fascinating collaboration between two men who have the dimensions of great literary figures. They became heroes in the university and on the battlefield―both had important careers in the Israeli military―and their research was deeply linked to their extraordinary life experiences. In the process they may well have changed, for good, mankind’s view of its own mind.

Major New York Times bestseller
Winner of the National Academy of Sciences Best Book Award in 2012
Selected by the New York Times Book Review as one of the best books of 2011
A Globe and Mail Best Books of the Year 2011 Title
One of The Economist’s 2011 Books of the Year
One of The Wall Street Journal's Best Nonfiction Books of the Year 2011
In the international bestseller, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman, the renowned psychologist and winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, takes us on a groundbreaking tour of the mind and explains the two systems that drive the way we think. System 1 is fast, intuitive, and emotional; System 2 is slower, more deliberative, and more logical. The impact of overconfidence on corporate strategies, the difficulties of predicting what will make us happy in the future, the profound effect of cognitive biases on everything from playing the stock market to planning our next vacation—each of these can be understood only by knowing how the two systems shape our judgments and decisions.
Engaging the reader in a lively conversation about how we think, Kahneman reveals where we can and cannot trust our intuitions and how we can tap into the benefits of slow thinking. He offers practical and enlightening insights into how choices are made in both our business and our personal lives—and how we can use different techniques to guard against the mental glitches that often get us into trouble. Winner of the National Academy of Sciences Best Book Award and the Los Angeles Times Book Prize and selected by The New York Times Book Review as one of the ten best books of 2011, Thinking, Fast and Slow is destined to be a classic.
One of the New York Times Book Review's Top 10 Books of 2011
Editorial Reviews
Amazon.com Review
Amazon Best Books of the Month, November 2011: Drawing on decades of research in psychology that resulted in a Nobel Prize in Economic Sciences, Daniel Kahneman takes readers on an exploration of what influences thought example by example, sometimes with unlikely word pairs like "vomit and banana." System 1 and System 2, the fast and slow types of thinking, become characters that illustrate the psychology behind things we think we understand but really don't, such as intuition. Kahneman's transparent and careful treatment of his subject has the potential to change how we think, not just about thinking, but about how we live our lives. Thinking, Fast and Slow gives deep--and sometimes frightening--insight about what goes on inside our heads: the psychological basis for reactions, judgments, recognition, choices, conclusions, and much more. --JoVon Sotak
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“A tour de force. . . Kahneman’s book is a must read for anyone interested in either human behavior or investing. He clearly shows that while we like to think of ourselves as rational in our decision making, the truth is we are subject to many biases. At least being aware of them will give you a better chance of avoiding them, or at least making fewer of them.”—Larry Swedroe, CBS News
“Daniel Kahneman demonstrates forcefully in his new book, Thinking, Fast and Slow, how easy it is for humans to swerve away from rationality.”—Christopher Shea, The Washington Post
“An outstanding book, distinguished by beauty and clarity of detail, precision of presentation and gentleness of manner. Its truths are open to all those whose System 2 is not completely defunct. I have hardly touched on its richness.”— Galen Strawson, The Guardian
“Brilliant . . . It is impossible to exaggerate the importance of Daniel Kahneman’s contribution to the understanding of the way we think and choose. He stands among the giants, a weaver of the threads of Charles Darwin, Adam Smith and Sigmund Freud. Arguably the most important psychologist in history, Kahneman has reshaped cognitive psychology, the analysis of rationality and reason, the understanding of risk and the study of happiness and well-being . . . A magisterial work, stunning in its ambition, infused with knowledge, laced with wisdom, informed by modesty and deeply humane. If you can read only one book this year, read this one.”— Janice Gross Stein, The Globe and Mail
“A sweeping, compelling tale of just how easily our brains are bamboozled, bringing in both his own research and that of numerous psychologists, economists, and other experts...Kahneman has a remarkable ability to take decades worth of research and distill from it what would be important and interesting for a lay audience...Thinking, Fast and Slow is an immensely important book. Many science books are uneven, with a useful or interesting chapter too often followed by a dull one. Not so here. With rare exceptions, the entire span of this weighty book is fascinating and applicable to day-to-day life. Everyone should read Thinking, Fast and Slow.” —Jesse Singal, Boston Globe
“We must be grateful to Kahneman for giving us in this book a joyful understanding of the practical side of our personalities.” —Freeman Dyson, The New York Review of Books
“Brilliant . . . It is impossible to exaggerate the importance of Daniel Kahneman’s contribution to the understanding of the way we think and choose. He stands among the giants, a weaver of the threads of Charles Darwin, Adam Smith and Sigmund Freud. Arguably the most important psychologist in history, Kahneman has reshaped cognitive psychology, the analysis of rationality and reason, the understanding of risk and the study of happiness and well-being . . . A magisterial work, stunning in its ambition, infused with knowledge, laced with wisdom, informed by modesty and deeply humane. If you can read only one book this year, read this one.” — Janice Gross Stein, The Globe and Mail
“It is an astonishingly rich book: lucid, profound, full of intellectual surprises and self-help value. It is consistently entertaining and frequently touching, especially when Kahneman is recounting his collaboration with Tversky . . . So impressive is its vision of flawed human reason that the New York Times columnist David Brooks recently declared that Kahneman and Tversky’s work ‘will be remembered hundreds of years from now,’ and that it is ‘a crucial pivot point in the way we see ourselves.’ They are, Brooks said, ‘like the Lewis and Clark of the mind’ . . . By the time I got to the end of Thinking, Fast and Slow, my skeptical frown had long since given way to a grin of intellectual satisfaction. Appraising the book by the peak-end rule, I overconfidently urge everyone to buy and read it. But for those who are merely interested in Kahenman’s takeaway on the Malcolm Gladwell question it is this: If you've had 10,000 hours of training in a predictable, rapid-feedback environment—chess, firefighting, anesthesiology—then blink. In all other cases, think.”—The New York Times Book Review
“Ask around and you hear pretty much the same thing. 'Kahneman is the most influential psychologist since Sigmund Freud,' says Christopher Chabris, a professor of psychology at Union College, in New York. 'No one else has had such a broad impact on so many fields' . . . It now seems inevitable that Kahneman, who made his reputation by ignoring or defying conventional wisdom, is about to be anointed the intellectual guru of our economically irrational times.”— Evan R. Goldstein, The Chronicle of Higher Education
“There have been many good books on human rationality and irrationality, but only one masterpiece. That masterpiece is Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking, Fast and Slow . . . This is one of the greatest and most engaging collections of insights into the human mind I have read.”—William Easterly, Financial Times
“[Thinking, Fast and Slow] is wonderful, of course. To anyone with the slightest interest in the workings of his own mind, it is so rich and fascinating that any summary would seem absurd.”— Michael Lewis, Vanity Fair
“Absorbingly articulate and infinitely intelligent . . . What's most enjoyable and compelling about Thinking, Fast and Slow is that it's so utterly, refreshingly anti-Gladwellian. There is nothing pop about Kahneman's psychology, no formulaic story arc, no beating you over the head with an artificial, buzzword-encrusted Big Idea. It's just the wisdom that comes from five decades of honest, rigorous scientific work, delivered humbly yet brilliantly, in a way that will forever change the way you think about thinking.”—Maria Popova, The Atlantic
“I will never think about thinking quite the same. [Thinking, Fast and Slow] is a monumental achievement.”—Roger Lowenstein, Bloomberg/Businessweek
“Profound . . . As Copernicus removed the Earth from the centre of the universe and Darwin knocked humans off their biological perch, Mr. Kahneman has shown that we are not the paragons of reason we assume ourselves to be.” —The Economist
“[Kahneman’s] disarmingly simple experiments have profoundly changed the way that we think about thinking . . . We like to see ourselves as a Promethean species, uniquely endowed with the gift of reason. But Mr. Kahneman’s simple experiments reveal a very different mind, stuffed full of habits that, in most situations, lead us astray.” —Jonah Lehrer, The Wall Street Journal
“[A] tour de force of psychological insight, research explication and compelling narrative that brings together in one volume the high points of Mr. Kahneman's notable contributions, over five decades, to the study of human judgment, decision-making and choice . . . Thanks to the elegance and force of his ideas, and the robustness of the evidence he offers for them, he has helped us to a new understanding of our divided minds—and our whole selves.” —Christoper F. Chabris, The Wall Street Journal
“The ramifications of Kahenman’s work are wide, extending into education, business, marketing, politics . . . and even happiness research. Call his field “psychonomics,” the hidden reasoning behind our choices. Thinking, Fast and Slow is essential reading for anyone with a mind.” —Kyle Smith, The New York Post
“A major intellectual event . . . The work of Kahneman and Tversky was a crucial pivot point in the way we see ourselves.” —David Brooks, The New York Times
“Kahneman provides a detailed, yet accessible, description of the psychological mechanisms involved in making decisions.” —Jacek Debiec, Nature
“With Kahneman’s expert help, readers may understand this mix of psychology and economics better than most accountants, therapists, or elected representatives. VERDICT A stellar accomplishment, a book for everyone who likes to think and wants to do it better.” —Library Journal
“The mind is a hilariously muddled compromise between incompatible modes of thought in this fascinating treatise by a giant in the field of decision research. Nobel-winning psychologist Kahneman (Attention and Effort) posits a brain governed by two clashing decision-making processes. The largely unconscious System 1, he contends, makes intuitive snap judgments based on emotion, memory, and hard-wired rules of thumb; the painfully conscious System 2 laboriously checks the facts and does the math, but is so "lazy" and distractible that it usually defers to System 1. Kahneman uses this scheme to frame a scintillating discussion of his findings in cognitive psychology and behavioral economics, and of the ingenious experiments that tease out the irrational, self-contradictory logics that underlie our choices. We learn why we mistake statistical noise for cohere...

This book teaches frustrated, stressed-out parents that selectively ignoring certain behaviors can actually inspire positive changes in their kids.
With all the whining, complaining, begging, and negotiating, parenting can seem more like a chore than a pleasure. Dr. Catherine Pearlman, syndicated columnist and one of America’s leading parenting experts, has a simple yet revolutionary solution: Ignore It!
Dr. Pearlman’s four-step process returns the joy to child rearing. Combining highly effective strategies with time-tested approaches, she teaches parents when to selectively look the other way to withdraw reinforcement for undesirable behaviors. Too often we find ourselves bargaining, debating, arguing and pleading with kids. Instead of improved behavior parents are ensuring that the behavior will not only continue but often get worse. When children receive no attention or reward for misbehavior, they realize their ways of acting are ineffective and cease doing it. Using proven strategies supported by research, this book shows parents how to:
- Avoid engaging in a power struggle
- Stop using attention as a reward for misbehavior
- Use effective behavior modification techniques to diminish and often eliminate problem behaviors
Overflowing with wisdom, tips, scenarios, frequently asked questions, and a lot of encouragement, Ignore It! is the parenting program that promises to return bliss to the lives of exasperated parents.

本书为经典畅销书《为何家会伤人》的全新升级版。该书出版七年来，在读者中引起持久的震荡，好评如潮。在本书中，作者作了全新的修订，并新增六万字内容，细致入微地揭示出中国家庭的运行机理。作者用最温暖有力的文字贴着当下读者的心，凭借十年行业经验，带领为家庭关系所困的万千读者一起踏上自我治愈与寻求幸福和自由的旅程。

我们一直以为一些负面情绪，如坏习惯、痛苦、悲伤、愤怒、恐惧等是不好的，甚至认为这些是不完美的，阻碍了我们成长，我们努力去避免和克服它们。
作者从新的角度、用心理学的知识告诉我们，这些坏情绪，对我们有极大的帮助和正面意义。这些情绪是伴随我们一生的，而且这些情绪并不是我们的敌人，是我们的朋友，我们应该接纳它们，并要感谢它们让我们越来越坚强，体验更多生命的无限精彩。

愿你拥有被爱照亮的生命！最具人气的资深心理学家、百万册畅销书作家武志红，揭示孤独感背后的深层心理机制，让爱和自由在家人、爱人之间流动
【内容简介】
家是港湾，可为何家会伤人？
爱意味着融合，可为何越爱越孤独？
我们每个人都渴望走出孤独，都渴望与别人相爱。如果一个人越重要，我们就越会用自己所懂得的最好的方式去对待他。
但很多时候，这种渴望背后的潜台词是：因为我爱你，我做的一切都是为你好，所以你要听我的，要按我的期待去回应，去做事。而所谓的“好的方式”则常常是把自己的意志强加给别人。
在这种逻辑下，相爱便成了强加，成为控制彼此的战争。因为这个缘故，我们都渴望爱，都爱过，然而，要命的孤独感却纠缠着这个世界上的绝大多数人，亲密关系成为咫尺天涯。
极具人气的资深心理学家武志红洞悉孤独感背后的深层心理机制，用细致入微的笔触，揭示了如何打破横亘在人与人之间那堵自恋的墙，真正看到别人的存在，结束权力与控制的隐秘游戏，让真爱和自由重新回到家人、爱人之间。
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"◎ 最具人气的资深心理学家、百万册心理学畅销书作家武志红经典作品。
◎ 爱是我们最深层的渴望，但为何越爱越孤独？对这个永恒的人的困境，作者深具洞察力，洞悉孤独感背后的深层心理机制，帮助我们对自我、对情感模式有更多的觉察，打破自恋的幻觉，看到关系的真相。如果你也有“爱是什么？为何越想抓越抓不住？”类似的困惑，那这本书就适合你。
◎ 作者的写作方式非常引人入胜，通过故事、案例来阐述自己的观点，分析的过程层层深入，透彻精彩，大众读者都能够理解接受。那些故事也成了我们每个人的镜子，和主人公一起感受，看书的过程就像是接受心理辅导课。
◎ 作者的风格是理性平静的治愈系，见解独到深刻，他是用心体会、理解和践行过，才写出了这样温暖睿智的文字。有读者评价“武老师对心灵这个东西有直觉，对他人的痛苦有着敏感的同理心，对怎样走出困境有中肯的见解”。
◎ 真爱和自由是让我们走出孤独的道路。如果我们能做到这些，就会真正尊重自己的生命，尊重自己和别人的选择范围，懂得感激已拥有的一切，从而可以更深沉、更踏实地活在当下。
【媒体评论】
有很多人的情感经历一直不顺利，不断地恋爱、分手，结婚、离婚，给自己和别人都带来了巨大的痛苦。有些人和孩子的关系一直不和谐，整天处于对立、逃避或争吵的恶性循环里无法自拔。是啊，这些人为何越爱越孤独呢？读了这本书，给了我很大的启发，原来都是自恋惹的祸。我们自认为很爱对方，实际上是爱上了自己强加在对方身上的投射，根本没有看到对方的真实存在，所以一直纠缠在糟糕的关系中痛苦万分。这本书非常实用，会给你指明方向，拨开迷雾，让爱从此流动起来！
——紫色的百合
我们习惯性地将爱理解为亲密无间、无所不谈，甚至是可以掌控对方的一切。如果将爱理解成“控制”，那结果必然是“越爱越孤独”。
阅读此书，能引起我们深思的不只是亲子关系，还有夫妻关系等。非常喜欢作者的写作方式，每一篇文章都以案例来阐述自己的观点，分析案例的过程层层深入、引人入胜。看着看着，我觉得自己进入了那一个个感人至深的故事里，和主人公一起感受他们的内心，直到最后，看到作者的分析结论，才仿佛如梦初醒，就像是接受了一堂心理辅导课。
——阳光三月
武志红的书最大的好处在于读得懂。任何一个有点文化的人都能把那些心理机制看懂。他在文章中所讲的那些道理、所做的那些分析，作为读者读下来之后，会觉得真的讲得非常清楚，也很透彻。从这种清楚和透彻中，我们可以感受到作者的那份真诚，他一定是用心去体会和理解过，甚至是践行过才能写得出这些文字的。他写这些文字的时候肯定是真诚并认真地面对了自己。
——Shirley

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◎ 极具人气的资深心理学家、百万册心理学畅销书作家武志红经典作品。
◎ 我们的心灵是非理性的，我们都是通过自己过去有限的人生经验——尤其是童年时的人生经验——推出一些大结论，“我值得被爱吗？”“这个世界安全吗？”并将这些大结论延伸到生活中的各个角落。于是我们很容易不断地陷入被同一个心理模式所左右的轮回，童年受过的苦，长大后还会重复这种痛苦。这看起来让人悲观，但另一面也蕴含了乐观的基础：如果能够去了解和改变我们的大结论、心理模式，也就在相当程度上改变了命运。本书以心灵成长的六个定律为核心，讲述了人在童年形成的内在关系模式如何影响性格和命运，以及成年后如何看到和改变自己的模式，走出轮回的命运，享受爱和自由。
◎ 作者的写作方式非常引人入胜，通过故事、案例来阐述自己的观点，分析的过程层层深入，透彻精彩，大众读者都能够理解接受。那些故事也成了我们每个人的镜子，和主人公一起感受，看书的过程就像是接受生动的心理辅导课。
◎ 作者的风格是理性平静的治愈系，见解独到深刻，他是用心体会、理解和践行过，才写出了这样温暖睿智的文字。有读者评价“武老师对心灵这个东西有直觉，对他人的痛苦有着敏感的同理心，对怎样走出困境有中肯的见解”。
【内容简介】
为什么我们会那么在意别人的评价？
为什么说大多数心理问题的内核都是爱的缺失？
为什么童年受过的苦，长大了还要再受一次？
人的命运为什么会轮回？
……
童年时与父母等重要亲人相处形成的关系模式、心理模式，是我们人格的基础，就像是新出厂的电脑装上了一套操作系统。
如果对自己 的“操作系统”不了解，外界来什么刺激，我们有什么情绪，做出什么反应，自己往往都意识不到。于是，我们被同一套心理模式所左右，不断重复一些幸福或苦难，人生就像是一个个轮回，这就是所谓的性格决定命运。
如果对自己的心理模式有了深度了解，对发生的事情，我们可以有意识地做出回应，那么我们的生活就有了自主选择的色彩。当我们为自己的一切做选择时，就是在成为自己，自我实现。
如果你渴望更了解自己，看清楚亲密关系和其他人际关系，更真实自主地生活，那这本书就可以帮助到你。

我们希望孩子对未来怀抱信心、对远景勇于探险、有足够的勇气来实行社会正义；
我们希望孩子在面对成长所带来的挫折与失败时，不屈不挠；
我们希望孩子能够获得幸福一生的能力。
《教出乐观的孩子》是积极心理学之父马丁•塞利格曼集30年、千百个成人及儿童研究之精华著成的教育经典。而大量研究表明，比起成功，乐观对孩子来说更具有意义、更具有价值。乐观的孩子，更容易成功，更有创造力，更容易有幸福的生活，我们传统上追求的财富成功，都可以通过乐观获得。
《教出乐观的孩子》一书目的在于让父母、老师及整个教育系统教会儿童习得乐观。这本书与其他育儿及自我提升书籍不同的是，它不仅有理论与实验，还有一些关于育儿问题的重要建议。一些自称专家的人，轻率的意见令许多父母如获救命稻草，基于脆弱的证明、原理和临床的假设，来改变自己抚养孩子的方式。《教出乐观的孩子》彻底改变这一点，特别反驳了纯粹的正向教育、纯粹的鼓励式教育和自尊教育，倡导用科学、理性的ABCDE法则教出乐观的孩子。
“心教育经典译丛”由中国教育风云人物孙云晓领衔主编，旨在引进国际最科学、前沿的教育理念，为中国教育及家庭教育注入更为理性科学的思想与方法。
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 积极心理学之父马丁•塞利格曼经典作品
《教出乐观的孩子》是积极心理学之父马丁•塞利格曼集30年、千百个成人及儿童研究之精华著成的教育经典。书中重墨提及积极心理教育在学校实践中的成功应用，富有借鉴意义。
 “新教育经典译丛”中国教育风云人物 孙云晓 领衔主编
“心教育经典译丛”由中国教育风云人物孙云晓领衔主编，旨在引进国际最科学、前沿的教育理念，为中国教育及家庭教育注入更为理性科学的思想与方法。
 CCTV《读书》5期联读的幸福经典系列作品
 湛庐文化 出品

An Invitation to Listen to Your Soul’s Calling
How do you define "growing up"? Does it mean you achieve certain cultural benchmarks―a steady income, paying taxes, marriage, and children? Or does it mean leaving behind the expectations of others and growing into the person you were meant to be? If you find yourself in a career, place, relationship, or crisis you never foresaw or that seems at odds with your beliefs about who you are, it means your soul is calling on you to reexamine your path.
With Living an Examined Life, James Hollis offers an essential guidebook for anyone at a crossroads in life. Here this acclaimed author guides you through 21 areas for self-inquiry and growth, challenging you to:
• Recover Personal Authority―how to stop living in response to the expectations placed on you
• Choose Meaning Over Happiness―why seeking truth instead of entertaining distractions ultimately leads to greater fulfillment
• Exorcise the Ghosts of the Past That Bind You―how the voices that haunt you can lead you to grow
• Bestow Love on the Unlovable Parts of You―recovering the guiding force concealed in your Shadow
• Construct a Mature Spirituality―the five essential elements of integrating meaning and mystery into your life
• Seize Permission to Be Who You Really Are―the challenge of fully showing up for your life
With his trademark eloquence and insight, Dr. Hollis offers Living an Examined Life to inspire you toward a life of personal authority, integrity, and fulfillment. "It is my hope that this book will be a tool to recover your respect for that which abides deeply within," writes Dr. Hollis. "You will not be spared disappointment or suffering. But you can know the depth and dignity of an authentic journey, of being a real player in your time on this turning planet, and your life will become more interesting, taking you deeper than ever before."

儿童每天使用词汇的86%~98%都与父母一致父母的每一句话，渐渐变成了孩子未来的模样
按照一年52周计算，在儿童4岁进入幼儿园小班之前，高知家庭和低收入家庭的孩子之间，就已经积累了高达3200万的词汇学习差异。在此基础上，低收入家庭孩子掌握的词汇量只有高知家庭孩子的1/2。
13~36个月的孩子平均每小时听到的语句
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　 487句话/小时
工人阶级家庭的孩子　　　　　　301句话/小时
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　 178句话/小时
3岁孩子累计听到的单词量
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　4500万个单词
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　1300万个单词
相差3200万单词！
3岁孩子掌握的词汇量
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　　1116个单词
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　　 525个单词
相差591个单词！
儿童出生后每秒钟能够产生700~1000条神经连接，父母的语言是刺激大脑发育的最好教育资源。3000万的词汇差距会极大影响儿童在数学概念、读写能力、自我管理、执行力、批判性思维、情商、创造力和毅力等方面的表现。
到三年级时，孩子之间会产生显著的“成绩差距”或“学术落差”（achievement　gap）。众多研究已经表明，儿童早期的语言环境能够预测其日后的学习能力和性格特征。
越贵的并不一定是越好的，神经科学专家告诉我们，最好的教育是免费的，它就存在于父母的每一个词，每一句话，每一次交谈和每一份互动里。希望所有翻开这本书的父母，都能够带给孩子无限的潜能和幸福的人生。

The founder and director of the Thirty Million Words Initiative, Professor Dana Suskind, explains why the most important—and astoundingly simple—thing you can do for your child’s future success in life is to talk to him or her, reveals the recent science behind this truth, and outlines precisely how parents can best put it into practice.
The research is in: Academic achievement begins on the first day of life with the first word said by a cooing mother just after delivery.
A study by researchers Betty Hart and Todd Risley in 1995 found that some children heard thirty million fewer words by their fourth birthdays than others. The children who heard more words were better prepared when they entered school. These same kids, when followed into third grade, had bigger vocabularies, were stronger readers, and got higher test scores. This disparity in learning is referred to as the achievement gap.
Professor Dana Suskind, MD, learned of this thirty million word gap in the course of her work as a cochlear implant surgeon at University of Chicago Medical School and began a new research program along with her sister-in-law, Beth Suskind, to find the best ways to bridge that gap. The Thirty Million Word Initiative has developed programs for parents to show the kind of parent-child communication that enables optimal neural development and has tested the programs in and around Chicago across demographic groups. They boil down to getting parents to follow the three Ts: Tune in to what your child is doing; Talk more to your child using lots of descriptive words; and Take turns with your child as you engage in conversation. Parents are shown how to make the words they serve up more enriching. For example, instead of telling a child, “Put your shoes on,” one might say instead, “It is time to go out. What do we have to do?” The lab's new five-year longitudinal research program has just received funding so they can further corroborate their results.
The neuroscience of brain plasticity is some of the most valuable and revolutionary medical science being done today. It enables us to think and do better. It is making a difference in the lives of both the old and young. If you care for children, this landmark book is essential reading.

●你以为孩子总爱胡乱地打闹？其实孩子在学习社交互动；
你以为孩子在安静地玩玩具？其实孩子是在探索世界奥秘；
你以为孩子因为无聊才问为什么?其实孩子是在寻找答案；
……
孩子在玩的时候，究竟在学什么？他们又究竟是怎么学的？孩子能从父母身上学到什么？
●在《园丁与木匠》中，国际儿童学习研究泰斗艾莉森•高普尼克带你看懂孩子行为背后的学习规律，用大量经典而富有创造性的实验，向你描述了孩子在看的时候，在听的时候，在玩的时候，在做的时候，都是怎么学习的，以及在幼儿期、学龄期、青春期不同阶段的学习特性。
●高普尼克以其毕生的研究深刻地揭示出，每一个孩子都是天生的学习高手，如果你想做有远见的父母，那千万不要让孩子过早进入成人学习模式，更不要用成人的思考模式给孩子设限。
●本书带你走出传统“让孩子成才”的教养误区，告诉你养孩子不是套用公式，具体的教养方法根本不重要，重要的是，你是一个什么样的人，以及你与孩子的关系怎么样。高手父母与普通父母的根本分野，在于你是园丁，还是木匠。真正的高手父母，都懂得为孩子搭建成长生态。《园丁与木匠》直击当代父母焦虑的核心根源，给你教养思维的全新升级。
●一本让万维钢、罗振宇、苗炜等思想界大V争相解读的育儿书。
●国际儿童学习研究泰斗级专家艾莉森•高普尼克“天生学习家系列”集大成之作，看杰出科学家站在母亲和祖母的视角上，给你一场温情的科学盛宴。
●汇集30年实证研究，以无人匹敌的突破性发现，带你走出传统教养误区。彻底摆脱焦虑，给你符合孩子学习与发展规律的科学育儿观。
●引爆教育界，众多国内外知名媒体、头部教育媒体、育儿大V联袂推荐。
●外文版豆瓣评分8.3，中文版万众瞩目，重磅来袭。
●荣获美国认知发展学会"年度最佳图书"奖，《金融时报》年度选书。
●清华大学积极心理学研究中心副主任赵昱鲲倾情翻译。
●湛庐文化出品。

「被讨厌的勇气」并不是要去吸引被讨厌的负向能量，而是，如果这是我生命想绽放出最美的光彩，那么，即使有被讨厌的可能，我都要用自己的双手双脚往那里走去。」
「因为拥有了被讨厌的勇气，于是有了真正幸福的可能。」
你是否常常对繁琐的生活感到乏味？
你是否时时为复杂的人际关系感到疲惫？
你是否认为人生的意义越来越模糊难见？
我们如何能够在繁杂的日常琐碎和复杂的人际关系中用自己的双手去获得真正的幸福？
这一切的答案尽在这本《被讨厌的勇气》中！
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★阿德勒思想拥有改变人一生的力量。剩下的就只有能否鼓起迈出一步的“勇气”

“Explorers depend on the North Star when there are no other landmarks in sight. The same relationship exists between you and your right life, the ultimate realization of your potential for happiness. I believe that a knowledge of that perfect life sits inside you just as the North Star sits in its unaltering spot.”
Martha Beck has helped hundreds of clients find their own North Star, fulfill their potential, and live more joyfully. Now, she shares her step-by-step program that will help you take the exhilarating and frightening journey to your own ideal life. Finding Your Own North Star will teach you how to read your internal compasses, articulate your core desires, identify and repair the unconscious beliefs that may be blocking your progress, nurture your intuition, and cultivate your dreams from the first magical flicker of an idea through the planning and implementation of a more satisfying life. Martha Beck offers thoroughly tested case studies, questionnaires, exercises, and her own trademark wit and wisdom to guide you every step of the way.

社会会奖励那些积极面对改变的人，也会惩罚那些故步自封的人。
——列纳德•蒙洛迪诺
人有两套思维模式——逻辑思维和弹性思维，相比理智的逻辑思维，无论是个人还是组织，弹性思维都更有助于我们打破或重新制定规则，从而更好地实现创新。
在这本书中，作者围绕弹性思维背后的心理学和神经学原理，揭示了有关弹性思维的一系列过程，以帮助人们了解“神秘灵感”背后的科学起因。
作为人类特有的一种能力，弹性思维往往是在无意识中推进的，并且可能是多条思路并行的，它不像分析性思维那样受到自上而下的直接指示，更多是受情感驱使，并将多元信息整合起来，从而找到应对挑战的新方法。它还会接纳一些非常规的，甚至是奇特的新想法，让我们释放更大的创造力。

父母与孩子之间的关系，对孩子一生有着深远的影响。然而，在很多家庭中，这种关系经常出问题，令人痛苦，甚至很难再回归正常。
这是一个从业20年的资深心理治疗师的畅销儿童心理学巨著，在英国掀起巨大轰动，全英家长热烈讨论，甚至没有孩子的人都迫不及待地买来，用于改善自己的人际关系。
这到底是一本什么样的书呢？简单一句话：它用育儿理论讲透了亲子关系，以及围绕着我们的家庭成员关系，所有人际关系，让我们更自在地活在关系里。这是一本关于“关系”的书——我们与孩子的关系，与自身的关系，与过去的关系，与周围世界的关系。
也许你是一位工作忙碌的父母，你的孩子仿佛从不入睡，总是在哭闹或尖叫，敲打平底锅，戳插座，喊着要更多的糖，看更多的电视。这些让你感到疲倦和绝望，很难保持冷静和理智。你是一位好家长，但还可以变得更好：菲利帕·佩里的这本畅销书，将帮你打开育儿的新视野。
与一般的“亲子教养书”不同，这本书并没有把养育孩子当作令人生畏的杂事。孩子不是一堆有待处理的麻烦，也不是一个需要精益求精的项目。育儿是一种关系，孩子是要被理解和支持的个体。归根结底，在孩子身上的投入，不仅会使他们以后成为更优秀的人，而且也会使你自己变得更好。
它的阅读体验并不轻松，正如作者所说，书里的内容会让你觉得很难受，很不舒服，甚至很生气，要牺牲你的自尊来阅读。因为它会让你直面自己在陪伴孩子的过程所犯下的种种错误。
任何父母都会为了孩子奉献自己，但美好的愿望也许不会带来理想的结果。父母的心愿就是让孩子幸福快乐，让他们过上美好的生活，但我们往往意识不到，自己是如何在无心之中伤害了孩子。
这本书会剖析我们在亲子教养方面犯下的错误，尤其是那些我们从来不想犯的错，这些错误的深层心理根源，以及有了过错之后我们如何弥补，修复裂痕。
这本书将帮你：
了解自己的成长经历如何影响了你的亲子教养方式。
看清亲子关系是如何变质的，以及如何让它恢复正常。
与孩子建立真正的联结，学会用心倾听，培养情绪稳定的孩子。
打破恶性循环，及时补救与修复裂痕，避免把你以前吃过的苦复制到孩子身上。
学会处理自己与孩子的感受，让孩子在和谐的关系中成长。
学习如何与婴儿、儿童、青少年和长大成人的孩子相处，让亲子关系变成孩子一生的力量之源。
这本书充满了睿智和明智的建议，是每个父母都想读的书，也是每个孩子都希望自己的父母拥有的书。